To stay in bed for a lot of the day (am pregnant) while DH does DIY and looks after our kids?

[highschoolmusical]

I am so tired.

Lou,

Ok, fair enough. Although to agree with Gobcod!?!

Well, Highschoolmusical, I voice my own opinions. I sometimes agree with Cod, sometimes disagree. Makes no odds to me who I am agreeing with or disagreeing.

"Gobcod" is taking things to a bit of a personal playground level though, isn't it? Play nice.

Lou,

Er, my point was you agree with cod calling anybody a silly bint and you are tellimg me to play nice. Prehaps you should read her gob off before agreeing with them because it tars you with the same brush.

Am not sure how I would handle next pregnancy with DD as I used to faint if I stood up/walked or towards the end even if I tried to stay awake when I was tired ... !!

Suppose each pregnancy is different (I hope!)

I dont think its unreasonable to stay in bed if you are poorly or if your DH genuinely doesnt mind. It might make him feel included in the pregnancy by helping you anyway? Maybe?

Pamelat,

TBH - DH enjoys having the kids on his own! Am still in bed now, DH has sorted dinner and will shortly put the LO's to bed! Then he'll be working away for most of the week and will be on my own.

If your willing to do the same for your hubby when your well and he's ill, I don't see a problem.
IMO each partner in a relationship needs to have a caring attitude for the other and step in when its needed for each other.
Thus far I have not needed to mop my beloved's brow but he has been wonderfully caring for me, especially when I was pregnant last year looks for a love smillie

I'm pregnant and I have been in bed all afternoon while my husband looks after my son because we all got full blown flu. I am not sure why on earth I am on mumsnet. Probably because the paracetanol has kicked in and I'm feel a bit better.

In the morning my husband had a lie in and there was a short period where we both good rest because ds was asleep.

A loving couple supports each other when sick. This is fine provided that neither party takes the piss.

would defintley do the same for DH. Luckily he is rarley ill!

I believe I made it clear that I agreed with Cod on a specific point:

By lou031205 on Sun 31-Aug-08 16:19:19
"No, I agree with Cod on this one. You witheld info then rolled it out when it suited you. YABU to feel unsupported. "

It was a response to your post:

By highschoolmusical on Sat 30-Aug-08 18:55:44
Cheekymonk ->>
When I posted this thread - was expecting lots of sympathy and have been quite shocked TBH. But heho we can't all be puuurfect.wink

You have extrapolated that to mean that I agreed with Cod on all points.

I don't swear, as you will see if you search my user name, so you would be able to take from that that I didn't agree with Cod's language with regards to you.

I still think GobCod was taking it to a personal level which is unwarranted. And FYI, I doubt very much Cod even knows who I am, or that I exist

Lou,
ffs and calling someone a silly bint is not? You did not make it clear which points you were agreeing with at all gobcod is far less insulting than 'silly bint'

i was rude
but i think you were disingenuous in starting this thread

a0 in AIBU

B) wihtholidng info abotu tour reporoducitve history that woudl affetc the answers you got
so sorry if youa re offended

you were a bit of a sily bint
bu i am sorry i said it out loud

meant to mutter it more.
i let my finegrs do the talkign you see

Right back at you gobcod.

HSM, really

You obviously didn't think YWBU, so don't post in AIBU, which asks the question "Am I being unreasonable?" if you are sure you aren't.

You didn't make it clear that you had good reasons for staying in bed, or that you felt ill in general, so I don't think it is too shocking that I didn't make it clear that I didn't agree with Cod's less complimentary remarks.

Move on - it really doesn't matter what anyone else thinks anyway. If your DH is happy, and you are happy, you have nothing to consult us about.

Wot Lou said.

You can't come onto AIBU and expect everyone to say No, of course not.

FWIW, you may have been ill in your previous pregnancies but that means fuck all, this is a new pregnancy.

I think that if your DH is happy to leave you in bed whilst he does the childcare then fair enough, but you can't really expect someone to do DIY and look after the children.

FWIW, you may have been ill in your previous pregnancies but that means fuck all, this is a new pregnancy.

How do you know? Are you a doctor? I think your opinion means fuck all.

Of course it doesn't matter. I had severe HG with DC3, doesn't mean I can bugger off to bed whenever I fancy it and leave the DCs with DP next time I'm pg and a bit tired.

As for my opinion meaning fuck all I think you've already established that only those agreeing with you are important.

VS

Thanks Doc. I will go to bed whenever I want and leave my DH to it. And I sahll enjoy. You enjoy being a martyr.

A martyr? Because unless you are actually suffering from something I don't see why it matters if you're no longer suffering?..

I'll make sure I tell DP that as I had the flu once when it was September and it's now September again that I expect to bugger off to bed.

VS,

You do that love and enjoy.

YANBU I have done hardly anything DIY/housework (other than light w/up and sweeping etc) this pg, I watch the kids and rest most the day, only allowed to walk a short way (I have a very high risk pregnancy and cervical stich) Pg can be hard so take it easy!!

jellybeans

It must be really hard for you. Take it easy, hope everytning works out fine.

If you can't lie in bed for the day when preggers then when the smeg can you?