AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

[discusturd]

Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

You should do as I do, lock them in the shed. It's free, innit?

@ riven dumping latest asap....

CaptainFanio,

If it's gloss varnish you don't even have to buff them, just wipe them with a damp cloth or cheap baby wipe, they come up lovely and gleaming.

Monkies

snigger at Captain Fanio

Fabio, did cod ever find out who you are?

oops, I mean Fabio!

(forgive me, I'm NAK!!!)

Oh yes Stella, I do understand the reaction, and it was deserving.

But I wonder whether she's 20 y-o and not the sharpest knife in the box. Whether she went to work in a nursery because she 'loves babies' and can't understand why anyone would go back to work. Full stop. I think, if not a troll, then she might be just narrow-minded and immature. I think a lot of people do think like this.

Mind you, if you are a 20 y-o nursery worker what are you doing posting on MN fgs??

FfreckleFface - she DID ask a genuine question, but wasn't at all prepared to enter into a discussion about it. Have you read all her posts?

The tone of some of the responses she's got might just make her think about walking a mile in other people's shoes - not a bad lesson for any of us.

stella
I was thinking that. Imagine struggling because personally you don't really want to go back to work but have to. And then first day there to greet you is the OP....

Actually discusturd has a point I think.

On the whole I wager working in most jobs is MUCH easier than staying at home looking after a needy baby all day long on your own.

I know several working mums who readily admit they are 'ready' to go back to work after about 8 months eg... 'when the shine has worn off'

Only v few women can afford to chose to stay at home. Most women work because they have to either for financial reasons or because they 'need' to psychologically.

IMO there is nothing wrong with discusturd's opinion because it's true IME.

"But I wonder whether she's 20 y-o and not the sharpest knife in the box. Whether she went to work in a nursery because she 'loves babies' and can't understand why anyone would go back to work. "

Aye, and because she's thick as shit and tactless she's been fired, so is making herself feel better by upsetting working mums........

Monkies

My EVIL neighbour, who is a childminder, and has been for nigh on 30 years, has this attitude. She is not 20. Far from it

SHE IS AN EVIL, SAGGY OLD SLAG BAG

Sorry, I had to get that off my chest

well i for one am definately going back to work very shortly to get away from my kids. im going insane being with them 24/7.

am only working pt evenings though so that dh can look after the dds as unfortnately you are right, if i went back to work ft my wages would only just cover my childcare.

is this one of those funny things parents to be say?

I agree that it's worse if she's genuine. That means there are some truly thick people out there being employed to look after children - now that scares me!
But thankfully as we know she's a troll, it's ok. I don't think the OP is a teenage boy - I put my money on bored housewife. She probably wishes she had a job in a nursery!!

And Stella is quite right - using phrases like 'did the shine wear off?' is idiotic at best and downright hurtful at worst.

Nursing At Keyboard

Who said below - I think it was Fabio. IME there are young women who work in nurseries who think like this, I've met loads of them. They are young, and barely out of school themselves. They don't understand it, they just see the baby.

Now someone is going to come along and say 'I work in a nursery, and I'm 678 and I understand everything' but I hope you see my point.

Has she gone now. She'll be none the wiser from this thread.

At the end of the day I don't really care what the OP thinks - troll or not.

I want to educate her.

I've just gone back to work after a 3 month break. My DS is now 17 months. I only have one and obviously one child much easier to manage than several children but work is much, much harder. Sorry if that blows several theories out of the water. I have a mortgage to pay though and it won't get paid by my going to mother and toddler groups.

i've just given up my career that i trained for three years to acheive and i do miss it, but i missed seeing my children more. my job was within the nhs working shifts, early mornings, late nights and all nights, so to now be at home all day with my 2 year old is a huge shock but i wouldn;t change it for the world.

my wages at £23k a year plus enhancements only just covered my childcare for my 3 children and now ds1 is off to senior school and apparently no longer requires paid childcare even if i could find anyone to look after him, i realsied just how much i ahve missed over these years and bugger the career and the pension, i shall haev to do what generatiosn beofre me have done and hope my dh doesn;t trade me in for a younger model so i can spend his carefully planned retirement money and pensions.

But i wouldn;t criticise someone who made the opposite choice to me as i understand the dilemma and hardships that they will have incurred. Its a tough choice to make thats for sure. and the NHS has just lost another midwife as the combination of poor flexibilty on hours and low pay (for the area i live in) meant it just wasn;t worth the sacrifice to me, and i do miss it terribly.