AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

[discusturd]

Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

discusturd, I see your point. Little Ff is nearly 6 months now, and because I work in the woefully poorly paid publishing industry, I am considering whether or not it is worth me going back straight away. This is partly because it will barely be worth it financially, but mostly because I am having such an amazing time being at home with her I don't think I want to let someone else look after her and have all the fun.

I came to the thread because I hoped for some other opinions on the subject - should have known better really. 'Fuck off. Troll.' is hardly what I'd call a reasoned argument.

IAteRCFB...I do have time to bake on maternity leave!

Oldest cat - you are right, people have 'justified' using childcare.

Discusturd - could you please explain why you think it is so wrong? I don't actually think you have.

Riven's cheating .. she's counting the wheelchair which isn't playing fair if you ask me

So glad you'd feel guilty if you weren't doing the childcare for your (imaginary) kids, discustard.

But - wait, this is a shocker - not everyone feels like you. We're all - wait for it - different! With different circumstances! Wow, what a concept!

Sooner you learn that, sweetheart, the better. I hope none of DD's nursery carers are as narrow minded.

Maybe she's not a troll. Maybe she's just a young woman who really doesn't understand why women do entrust their babies to a nursery? It's possible.

Twiglett,

Try gloss varnish, not as slippery as baby oil and also has the added advantage of slowing them down a bit as it goes slightly rigid when dry, and is a very easy to maintain, wipe clean surface.

But does make them lovely and shiney, even if they have spent all day in nursery.

Monkies

(Freckles, did you read the rest, or just the "Fuck Off. Troll" bit. I love a good joke, but this isn't even slightly funny)

Now there's a thought, Hundredtimes.

I don't pay for childcare for mine, I just lock them in the coal shed with some water and some bread (one slice each) They are OK. There is a chink of light coming through the gap between the door and door frame. This saves me money and I know exactly where they are at all times.

Also, my children don't shine, this is because I bathe them in shit every night

HTH

This thread is like a coven.

From what I can see the OP asked a genuine question, which most of you appear to have taken as a full-throttled attack on your parenting skills. This is meant to be a message board for discussion, not somewhere to vilify anyone who dars voice an opinion contrary to that of the mob.

The problem with this thread is that you could take it seriously - imagine you're about to leave your first baby in nursery and you read this shit.

Now you know what the staff might think about you.
Now you know how dim they are.
Now you might not want those people looking after your children.

discusturd this isn't good

No Riven, you must Home Educate.

Monkies

I don't think she's a troll, either. She comes across as a narrow-minded type.

If she disagrees with babies being left in childcare for long stretches of time, well that - of course - is her right. But to ask why parents do it, but refuse to consider any of the (varied) reasoning on the thread, just emphasises her willful ignorance. And makes it sound like she's trying to provoke hurt rather than get an interesting discussion going.

Agree with Cat,
Totally depends on personal circumstances.

How many children you have, how well paid your job is etc.

But the thing i am pretty certain of is that nobody puts there children in nursery full time simply because they 'dont want to' look after them and the reason there is such a response is because this was what op was saying.

Do you really think the OP was a genuine question? I think that a bit unlikely but if the OP would like to come back and explain herself then maybe we could be convinced.

if the OP disagrees with childcare so vehemently why does she work there? tis a bit like being a vegan but working in an abbatoir is it not?

ffff - I'm perfectly happy to have a reasoned discussion about why I work and put my son in childcare so I can do so. But not with someone who writes ' Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!'

Is that an opener from someone who has a genuine question? Or one from someone who is trying to wind people up? I suspect the latter.

It's a bloody good job these parents dump their kids at your nursery, otherwise you'd be out of a job, my sweet

lol @ coven

IF it's genuinely then it's v poorly phrased.
It's worded to incite indignance.