AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

[discusturd]

Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

Yes, well it would have been an uphill struggle I think Stella. But I was prepared to give it a shot.

my sis leaves hers those hours- tp work in a nursery!

he is loved, she is professionally fulfilled, her dh is abroad a lot so she works for company as well

they're hapy, he's thriving

wheras i hate the idea of ever leaving my 4, even a year before it happens the thought makes me sad, but needs must

we're all different

I think discusturd is a bloke.

Riven,

You may have a silver medal for now, but I expect you to do an OU degree in special needs education and physiotherapy, all in the evenings so you can still spend every one of your childrens waking moments with them, and then Home Ed the youngest too.

Then you may call yourself a Good Mother, and get a gold medal.

Monkies

Also the OP's thread title is very self-important isn't it? You come across this a lot too ime.

[makes wild generalizations about nursery workers. Sorry]

Oh he was probably a troll.

Monkies - why do you sign all your posts at the bottom?

Habit!

Monkies

Shouldn't I?

I'm worried about that too now. As well as my poor abandoned children of course.

Monkies

Do stop, it's disconcerting.

What shine? Was there a shine?

They're quite shiny now. But I'm a bit drunk.

ok

OOh Greenmonokies- I home edded ds3for a few trerms whilst heavily pg, ds1 and ds3 SN, and I was a FT student... do I get a gold medal?

(actually no, I still haven't caught up with the laundry and I graduated last month )

[feels a bit rude for not signing name]

Oooh you did it?

How was it?

Do you always underline your name when you sign in RL too?

Do you feel a bit vulnerable?

Keep going. You'll soon get used.

LOL!!

Oh god it's not rude.

it's weird to do it. Like you are actually someone different than your posting name at the top.

And, while we're on the subject, it looks self-important.

[notes how self-important it is to tell someone else not to sign their name.]

I think that YABU.

I will go back to work in January, having had a year off on maternity leave.

Financially, it will be worth my while (just). It will cost £40 a day and I will work 3 days a week 8 until 5pm (a fairly short/average working day?)

I will miss her but it will be best for both of us. She will socialise with lots of children and I will get a "rest" at work and therefore be a better mum for the days when I am off with her.

My friend is a full time mum and says her 3 year old drives her crazy. Unfortunately for her nursery costs more than she would earn a day BUT she is still tempted to work for nothing. It doesn't make her a bad mum!! Its realistic to need a break (by working instead)

In fact another (well off) friend doesnt work at all but still puts her kids in nursery 2 days a week so she can gym/ go the hair dresser etc - and she is fabulous mum. Would she be such a good mum if she were resentful of what she could and could not do? I know its an extreme example but it doesnt make her a bad person.

You, dear, are an idiot (OP). Now run along to your perfect children and show them some flash-cards. You being on mumsnet will only deprive them of the attention they need to stop them getting an asbo when they hit their teens.

Discustard's Mummy must have called him down for his din-dins

And if he east his all of his broccoli, he will be allowed a special chocky-wocky pud pud and be aloowed out on his bike until 7 30pm

when he will come back on here and be an annoying tosser