AIBU to think that once you have paid your childcare, its not really worth working.? Is it that you just don`t want to look after your own kid. prefering to stick them in daycare as soon as the shine wears off, it really bugs me!

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Some go from 7-6 and never see there parents, I know I will get slated but in the nursery I work some kids hardly know who their parents are.

Thank the lord for good men eh!

"But honey why do you think you know better than everyone else? "

It is only my humble opinion.

"Thank the lord for good men eh! "

Yep.

God I am so excited that I was the first person to reply to this thread!

You are not making sense, happyhoney. Please explain if your dh can work ft and have a good relationship with your dcs, why can't the mother also work ft and similarly have a good relationship?

lol, hercules, about someone having to work for the nestegg. It is beginning to sound like you are freeloading, happyhoney.

I guess maybe that's where we differ in a big way. I like being financially independant and not depending on a man to bring home the bacon.

I'm willing for the sake of my own sanity to take the risk that I could be wrong because I still wouldnt change working outside the home.

"It is beginning to sound like you are freeloading, happyhoney."

Bit green are we blue??? Well if you think bringing up children is freeloading and would rather I stuck them in chilcare f/t and let someone else bring them up............ Sorry, you have to go out to work for it.

I would rather go out to work than depend on someone else but I can see how for a lot of people they wouldnt see it that way - partnership and all that. But for me, I would rather depend on me.

happyhoney, I struck a nerve there, didn't I? Please answer the question about 2 ft parents coherently and logically.

"I guess maybe that's where we differ in a big way. I like being financially independant and not depending on a man to bring home the bacon."

Good for you.

Yes, can you explain please how it is your dh has a great relationship with your kids but a mother who works outside the home cant?

"Why do you think you know better than everyone else?

Do you accept that your opinion could be wrong?"

No, have had 7 + years to mull it over.

Gosh, I've had 13 years. Does that mean I must be right!

Tiramissu Paradise sounds pretty good and I'd also like some pil to fund my dc

coming up to 1,000 posts. Happyhoney might have a getout clause yet about the 2 ft parents question.

"You are not making sense, happyhoney. Please explain if your dh can work ft and have a good relationship with your dcs, why can't the mother also work ft and similarly have a good relationship?"

She can if the father stays at home or works p/t.

Wouldn't life be dull if we all thought the same?

How does that work then? WHat difference does it make if the other parent is at home or works part time?