To be annoyed that my daughter was given cake and sweets in a party bag?

[NoSweetsForMySweet]

Last week dd went to a party and when she came home she had the usual party bag. However, on close inspection i noticed that a piece of cake and some sweets had also been put in it.

I of course removed the offending items, but i am annoyed that the host of the party gave them to her in the first place. I always give strict instructions that she is not allowed any kind of junk food when going to parties.

Ibu?

My DD went to a party and DID get a toothbrush and some toothpaste in the party bag. It was the subject of much derision in the playground the following monday I can tell you. Party bags are political.

Naturally they should only contain rice cakes, carrots and raisins!! Birthday cake for a DC's birthday-how dreadful!

you are entitled to your opinion and you can be annoyed - but you are an adult - just remove them and bin them if they offend so.

You are kidding me mrsmalumbas, right?
I tend to believe everything I'm told, so please give me a slap in the face and tell me you ARE joking.

TinySocks, nope, I kid you not.

I believe OP to be a troll but I can well believe the toothpaste mrsm!

Well this screams out troll, if it wasn't for my recent experience.

I had a 1st birthday party for DD2 on Tuesday, and it was at 10-11.30. So too early to make it a proper lunch, and it is a party. The invitees were all aged 1-7 years old.

I decided that it is a party, so will just provide snacky things. So, table consisted of:

Ginger bread men (mini)
chocolate brownies
jammie dodgers
foxes party rings
grapes
strawberries

One of the mums kept loudly telling her 2 year old that she didn't need that food, sweetie and she could wait until lunchtime. When the said child snaffled a biscuit (clever girl ) the mum said "Well a biscuit isn't too bad for you I suppose".

Then later, she said to another child, also two, who had come with a friend of the child's mother, "Oh I think X wants you to have some of your (packed) sandwhich first, because sandwhiches are much better for you than cake".

It was a party. The said cake was birthday cake.

I was that someone's principles over so called healthy eating take precedence over manners.

It was, IMO, the height of rudeness. If I went to someone's house for dinner, barring allergies or severe intolerances, I would eat with gratitude what was on my plate. To go to a party and then loudly proclaim the food unsuitable for your precious, is just mean.

What is going on in the world with such extreme parenting that you can't even be a gracious guest?

PMSL @ bumbling

If you weren't a troll and were seriously concerned about your DD having unhealthy foods due to future health concerns then -

By STOPPING her having these things she is going to BINGE on them later in life and end up being all that you don't want her to be. MOderation in everything and everything in moderation.

Unfortunately I am sure the troll comes from true experiences, as in lou's post!
I have read on here of a 2 year old birthday 'party' where the child guests were given rice cakes, dried fruit and carrots, with water to drink and the adult guests nothing! It is the height of rudeness and so sad for the birthday DC. It doesn't take much imagination to give food that is delicious and healthy.

lol at thread title
Not going to bother reading thread

damn parents!so inconsiderate and unkind to invite to party and give gifts.bullying call child protection immediately

To be honest, I'm such a terrible photographer nobody would pay me for a pants pic

I have been known to give party bags solely containing cake. Nice cake. But still cake. Oh, and a gingerbread man too.

Lou at that mother, what dreadful manners!
Actually, I had a childrens cookery book once which suggested that if you give sweets in the party bag,you put a toothbrush and toothpaste in as well to appease the parents. Not the done thing around here, I can tell you!

Only read the OP and am hoping this is a troll - I will read the rest of the thread later but my initial reaction is, "It's a party bag, you miserable cow!"

lou,what a rude controlling mum.i believe if you over control and make food an issue it will become one

Party=fun not anal controlling angst mummies

LOL talking of angst mummies i read that Pasty Gwyneth just Rice cakes for me wouldnt let apple attend birthday parties or eat cake because of the hydrogenated fats etc

thats a it mean, its a party, cant you make exceptions, to be honest if your strict and dont let your child have some stuff, they will go behind our back and do it in the end,

Don't be silly.

i too hope that OP is a troll else she is a really miserable person. WTF do you expect from a childrens party?

Now, I'm terrible at spotting trolls, but this has to be one.

BTW lou and motherinferior They're not gingerbread men any more, because that's discrimination. THey're gingerbread persons

If OP is not a troll - well...
I thought my parents were too strict and made my life a misery, but even they let me eat birthday cake. Im not obese, and don't have a particularly sweet tooth.

I think OP should come back and admit to being a troll.

My own mother called me a bad mother because I didn't let my PFB ds1 have chocolate until he was 1. ('oh he will know what he's missing (WTF?) and what if there's a war and there is no chocolate - you'll feel bad for not letting him when you had the chance') Then he had a chocolate button cake at his birthday party and .....

has a real savoury tooth now. Barely eats sweets/choc/jam/cakes. And he's 15.

My DSs had sweets from an early age, they are teenagers and rarely eat them now, they certainly don't buy their own. I firmly believe that it would be a different story if they hadn't been allowed to have any.
(When I say had sweets, I mean as part of a healthy balanced diet).

YABU. That is what party bags usually contain.