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AIBU?

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to keep a dvd that my 3 year old accidently stole from a supermarket today?

326 replies

goodomen · 12/08/2008 20:25

I was shopping at a major supermarket today and had agreed to let dd have a dvd for 5.99. She was holding it in the trolley.

Basically I forgot to give to the check out person to swipe so we didn't pay for it.
I only realised this after I had strapped my other 2 children in to the car and was lifting dd out of the trolley and saw it on her knee.
I didn't want to have to go all the way back in.
I feel a bit guilty, but then again I must have spent thousands of pounds at this shop over the years.

What do you think. AIBU to keep it? Is it stealing? Do I worry too much?

OP posts:
cheesesarnie · 12/08/2008 23:22

snobby, snooty and unchristian here too im afraid.

Quattrocento · 12/08/2008 23:22

What's the Mothercare Effect?

Do I have it?

LittleMissBliss · 12/08/2008 23:22

Brees posts have not been constructive just rude to the most part. That's why i think she is snooty. I agree with her that it is wrong etc. etc. but just wanted to point out to the most part we have all had something for nothing which is also stealing.

All be it a extra mars bar
A good that wasn't scanned
Not being charged for a drink out of many at a bar
getting extra change
some extra pic n mix
a grape
items stuck together

WHATEVER ELSE

BreeVanderCampLGJ · 12/08/2008 23:23

DT

I am taking me and my moral code to bed.

There have been serious watersheds along the way, and maybe I am more honest than some, in that I will at least mention them.

expatinscotland · 12/08/2008 23:24

I have only read the OP.

I'd take it back.

C'mon, you were too lazy to go back to the store and you were in the car park?

Your employer probably spent thousands of pounds training you, so does that mean if they accidentally take some of your pay they're justified in keeping it?

Quattrocento · 12/08/2008 23:25

I've never had something for nothing - or at least when I have, I've taken it back. Haven't you?

Well clearly you haven't.

By the way WHAT'S THE MOTHERCARE EFFECT? Is that where people start stealing and thinking it's okay? Why is that the Mothercare effect?

DillyTanty · 12/08/2008 23:25

northernlurker, cheesesarnie et al, if that's what you think is the problem with Bree's posting on here then you can't read... you didn't hear about MN in a Mothercare handbook did you by any chance?

frasersmummy · 12/08/2008 23:25

it weren't common as fuck before!

so now I am common as fuck and moraly bereft because I wasnt here 4 years ago????

expatinscotland · 12/08/2008 23:28

what's all this common stuff?

why do threads always go like this? what's with that?

it's stealing, man. you saw she had it in hte car park and were too damn lazy to take it back and now say, 'Oh, it's okay because i spend a lot of money there.'

wtf kind of attitude is that?

Tortington · 12/08/2008 23:28

the only way to tell is by anser ing this question

do you grow your own herbs?

LittleMissBliss · 12/08/2008 23:29

Quattro i've had an extra mars bar like i said from a vending machine. I payed for one and got two. I kept the 'free' (something for nothing) mars bar but like i said i have loose morals.

I do agree with the posters that say that she should pay for the item have all allong. but have not shouted theif at her because. Who am i to call someone a theif when i have knowingly kept something that i did not pay for.

expatinscotland · 12/08/2008 23:29

i'm totally lost here and 'Ghosthunters' is on it's just advert break so i can't be arsed to read all this.

it's not on. it's lazy and stealing.

Tortington · 12/08/2008 23:30

there should be entry tests

Quattrocento · 12/08/2008 23:30

Perhaps MN needs a new topic heading "Den of Thieves"

Blandmum · 12/08/2008 23:31

Christ on a stick, it has bugger all to do with class

My gran had fuck all, and I mean fuck all, when she raised her family of 4, as a single parent through the 1930's. and she would never have stolen anything

She scared the living shit out of me when I was 3 and took a handfull of beads from the nursery! She made me take them back an apologise. I've never stolen anything else since!

ninah · 12/08/2008 23:32

has this thing kicked off yet?

susiecutiebananas · 12/08/2008 23:33

Im so glad I bothered to post on this! I thought my story was really relevant and lovely...it still gives me a warm fuzzy feeling

still, it seems that a 'who is the most moral' debate seems the only relevant thing on here now.

Bree Just for the record, I don't think any one was suggesting or having a go at your morals lovely, not at all whatsoever, nor were they calling you snotty snobbish etc for those opinions and views. It was more a case of how you were saying it. what you were posting. not the actual gist or meaning behind your posts. There is a very big difference IMVHO. please don't take this as a personal attack either, just pointing out as an objective reader what I saw, mainly in the hope that you won't go to bed disappointed and feeling that everyone on MN now is amoral etc and approving of theft and dishonesty

Tortington · 12/08/2008 23:33

christ

NorthernLurker · 12/08/2008 23:33

I can read perfectly well thanks. I can read that a poster has stolen an item. I can read that several posters including Bree have pointed out that this was theft and I can read that they have been attacked for apparently having a higher moral standard than others on this thread.

Quattrocento · 12/08/2008 23:33

Trust you MB

expatinscotland · 12/08/2008 23:34

what's so snobbish about thinking it's stealing?

ninah · 12/08/2008 23:34

nice link custardo

TakeMeHome · 12/08/2008 23:34

Loving this thread !!!

turquoise · 12/08/2008 23:34

"What do you think. AIBU to keep it? Is it stealing? Do I worry too much?"

Er - yes, yes, no.

Simple.

Nothing snooty about that.

Tortington · 12/08/2008 23:35

thanks ninah - tried to get one on a stick - but with no luck