Dh wants to know: AIBU or is he? It's about doing the weekly shopping, opinions please!

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Dh and I both work ft oth. We have 2 children. DH drops them both at childcare every morning and collects them both at night.

I commute 4.5 hours each day
We have a cleaner twice a week
We're still both knackered a lot of the time

For ages I have done the weekly online shop. A while ago I asked dh to start doing it 50% of the time. He said "fine, but you'll have to accept that I will do it differently to you. I will actually GO to Tesco instead of shopping online". I said hmm, ok.

We tried it briefly but I got irritated at his going out on a Saturday and taking an hour or more to do the shopping. He would usually (but not always) take dd but not ds.

I think he should do the shopping to my satisfaction, which would involve logging onto Ocado and shopping from favourites. It would mean less time wasted doing a boring chore when he could be here with me and the children.

I don't WANT to have to be the only one who thinks about whether we need olive oil or tuna but I AM atm because I do the shopping. I think this is unfair.

I also think one of hs arguments, which is about "the food we get sent online isn't as good as that I'd chose myself" is spurious since it seems to be good enough if I DO IT and there's Ocado food in the fridge.

So, AIBU? TIA. All opinions welcome.

yanbu

YABU.. let the man shop the way he wants to or do it yourself.
You will get your own way though despite BU, he sounds like a softie

WWW you're just like me...totally unreasonable
your dh is prepared to go to the supermarket, any supermarket, buy food in the evening or saturday morning, take 1 dc or both and you're complaining!!!!!!
Sheesh

takes me longer to shop online than it does for me to drive to supermarket and come back and unpack.

sorry but yabu(but dont tell your dh).
my dh doesnt shop right either so is rare he gets to do it.i do it online ordering things we need,dh goes to the shop getting in a mood,buying just things and spending twice as much.

Oh yes, and I really, really HATE having to be in for a 'time slot'. Prefer to organise my own time and not feel I can't pop to the post office.

no, really, the money thing doesn't bother me
I do need to chill about this, I agree
ok, will henceforth tell him he's welcome to go to Waitrose any time he likes...
that's a compromise

comprimise that he must take both children

Hooray! a happy ending and scummymummy is back!

He's more than welcome to do my food shopping if he likes!!

I must admit that I live in the back of beyond of deepest darkest Wales and I've no idea what an Ocado is either

"And how can anything scavenged for in a typical Tesco ever be as good as an Ocado shop? Seriously, I know you both like fine food, IMO if you are able to afford it, and I know you can, how can he honestly think a personal Tesco experience is going to yield better fruit than a a cute little green or purple van?"

God what complete and utter supermarket snobbery. Also complete drivel.

www, I think I love your DH.

Ocado is here, it's Waitrose delivery online.

Lovedogsetc, I agree actually and think Ocado food is much nicer than Tesco. Fair enough if you don't think so!

lol ureb!

he has a point about her being on the computer!

lol, yes, I wonder if you can get Ocado on the Xbox?

Ahhh thanks for that, we don't have a Waitrose anywhere near either tbh so I guess we have to stick to the 20 mile trek to the nearest Tesco!

Snort at Mr WWW claiming that he couldn't shop online because WWW is always on the computer....and doesn't add "on blooody MN!!!"

yes, well DP , having panicked for two weeks about credit crunch etc etc, (including an apalling incident in which he put some tuna that had been in the fridge for an inderterminate period out in the garden for a neighbourhood cat, only to be heard an hour later saying 'I'll have a tuna sandwich for lunch - that cat hasn']t come for it'...and bringing it ion to eat!!!!) is now, at this very minute, online to Ocado.

He has spotted that if he spends so much, he will get 15% off. he did this last week, We ended up with what looked like a bale of kitchen rolls (which we can't , of course. fit in the cupbaord because that is still full of Ecover washing up liquid), lots of beer, some manky organic strawberries (that's why you need to stroll to shop and choose your own) and a whole lot of unco-ordinated random food itmes with which we could not make a decent meal.

So he went to Somerfields and bought two cut-price Ginsters pasties.

I think I'm trying to say 'I'm the last person to ask'. Basically - if you have a system, any syestem, that involves a good supply of sensible nice, nutritious food, a manageable quantity of cleaning aids and no Ginsters pasties - stick with it!!!

BossyKate is en vacances...I am trying to channel her...I feel she would have a different and more structured approach to mine...but no....the glass is moving but I can't hear her...sorry.

whenever dh does the "shopping" there's ne'er a set of ingredients that could make a whole meal

"but I didn't spend as much as you" dh retorts.

right

our cleaner tells me off if I get environmentally sound cleaning products

"you want Ciiiiiiiff"

Blu, your DP always makes me hoot

(Does he have the same effect on you? )

WWW, much as I love you, is it OK if I sit on the fence about this?

Mr WWW sounds lovely www, but you know that anyway! I particularly like his point 3!

I think he is being unreasonable to go to evil Tescos as dd calls it, but if he is willing to go to Waitrose (and especially if he takes the children), then that is ok compromise.

( at www getting her dh to do ANY of the food shopping!)

snort at Blu, esp the pasties, lol. and ah at BK on hols, I know she would agree with me were she here

I used to get Ecover and then one week I had to clean the house myself because the cleaner was off and realised it was shit and I needed heavy duty stuff for our grimy kitchen so now she gets proper heavy duty stuff.

lol at bundle's dh too

Of course it is WW my darlin'!

There is an obvious solution - get a second computer. Then Mr WWW will be able to shop and type as slowly as he likes and it won't impinge on precious MNetting time.

DH can't connect his computer to Tiscali (he insisted we change btw) and so keeps commandeering mine to do important stuff. Marital disharmony is rife.