To think people should respect my wishes on my wedding day

[Perfectinpink]

I am getting married at the end of August, everything is sorted, all going well (Miraculously). Except for one thing. On the wedding invitations, I asked people to come dressed in pink - or at least with pink touches. Pink is my favourite colour and my lovely fiance has agreed to wear a grey suit with gorgeous pink waistcoat and tie.
My dress is, obviously pink, bridesmaids are in pink, the flowers will be pink, the decorations are pink - that is the colour scheme.

Well, everyone rsvp'd but now it appears some of my friends and family are rebelling. My best friend has shown me her outfit and it is not pink. Or even purple, red, magenta, vermillion or puce! It is green. I have asked her if she couldn't get a jacket with pink in it and a hat but she refuses. It will look bloody horrible in the wedding photos.
She has got very shirty with me and has told me that apparently several other friends are ignoring the pink theme. And now my sister has said her dh is refusing to wear anything remotely pink (not even a tie with some pink in it)
It's my wedding, it's at a lovely expensive venue, I am paying for them to have a marvellous day, plenty of (pink) champagne and lovely food (all of it with a pink flavour!) and they are going to ruin everything if they persist in ignoring my request. I just want it to be perfect.
What should I do? I've even thought anbout making pink sashes for the rebels to wear but time is running out and I am running out of patience (and money).

Wait - demand that everyone come nekkid but as hairy as they can be - all body hair at maximum length.

Quite a few people will look like gorillas, but natural with it .

Not wanting to start a fight, but pink is not the worst colour to be photographed in. In fact quite the opposite for black and white photos. When the Financial Times (pink) publishes pictures of the big movers and shakers that have sacrificed the most sleep to do the biggest deals of the week, they always ask people to wear pink because it contrasts briliiantly. So, if you're in the City and see smiley boys and girls in pink shirts, then chances are they have just done a big deal.

Now, about this hairy thing. Oh...I mean, the hairy guests, not hairy things

I haven't read every message in this thread (it has certainly been a popular one!) but just wanted to let the OP know that I don't hink YABU.

As far as I can see, if these people are coming to your wedding because they care about you, then it would be very little effort indeed to add a touch of pink - a tie, a scarf, a flower even.

Friends of mine went to a scarecrow themed wedding at the weekend and just about everyone in attendance made some effort, most of them a lot of effort - dressing up as scarecrows and Aunt Sally's - from what I can gather it was all part of the fun.

It is sad that people can't/won't make the effort, but whatever happens, don't let it ruin your day.

I make an effort at a fancy dress party. A wedding is not about the clothes-although in some cases it seems to be!

I think you should just stand the nonpink wearers at the back of the photos, or tell them that they can't be in them.

I think you should spank them.

with a pink whip

weeonion, loved your post, hope you can find the photos.

Where has the OP gone, off in a pink fit?

MI - nekkid with tutus would be better for summer, gorillas for winter.

imo yabu, but at least it's pink and not a camouflage print you are imposing on guests.
I mean, it could be worse.

A long time ago, when we were very bored on a long road trip, my housemate and I decided that when we got married, the bride's side would all be dressed as Bagpuss and the groom's as mussels. Sadly it never happened (though still might - she's still single!), but did mean I got to announce the fact I was engaged with "I hope you've got your Bagpuss outfit ready"

Hilarious. OP - buy a load of pink plastic pig masks and hand them to each guest as they come in. You & groom could put your wedding rings through your noses to distinguish yourselves for the photos.

these themed weddings are a mystery to me anyway. I mean why a theme? a wedding is a wedding - is that not enough theme?
bah, maybe I am just jealous because I look HIDEOUS in pink...

The wedding industry pushes themes on the basis that you have to have one to make your wedding "memorable". I am fairly sure that the bride and groom will always remember the day they got married and don't understand why it matters if anyone else does? But each to their own. As I've said before I would happily adorn myself with something pink to please the happy couple. Fancying a themed wedding is hardly the crime of the century.

upwind I couldn't care less if people want to theme or not theme. It's just that I thought it was just celebs who did that! I didn't have any contact with the wedding industry when I organised mine and the weddings I have been invited too had been traditional weddings, so I didn't realise it was something people did.

I cannot undertand some of the vitriol on this thread!!

''think you are very considerate for planning two weddings. This one, and the next one because your husband will be gone in a shot because you are so selfish'' shock]

I was invited to a cartoon wedding recently. I thought that idea was nafoola so we invented a realistic reason not to attend. We didn't turn round a month beforhand and say ''we're not dressing up as Penelope Pitstop and the Incredible Hulk because we won't be able to wear the outfits again.''

Actually, I would have worn the penelope pitstop outfit again. It's pink.

I think those of you who say you won't wear pink are perhaps just not feminine enough to carry it off.

Mag7 - pink is indeed sometimes a good choice for pix of individuals but a huge group shot where everyone is wearing pink is really not good at all. Unless it's for a breast cancer charity or something.

(Still not convinced this isn't trollment icon)

You asked if you were being unreasonable. Most sane people think you are.

Be glad people are coming to your wedding and for the love of Santa Claus, get some perspective.

Oh and having trawled my way through these responses, I should point out I am a redhead. I look fab in pink.

Do yu think it would be ok if I took two lots of photos? One special one with all those who pinked themselves up for the day and one ''all and sundry'' one?

And as for those who have taken the piss out of the pink menu, smoked slamon is pink, prawns are pink, rare beef is pink, red wine bernaise sauce is pink, beetroot and goats cheese tart is pink, and strawbewrries are pink. All perfectly acceptable wedding foods, no?
And I'm not that anal, we are having some non-pink foods/vegetables. Just not sweetcorn as that really would clash and look horrible.

My money's on trollage.

Okay this is clearly someone trolling for a laugh