to think this woman is a cow? (topic may offend/upset)

[crazybuslady]

Was waiting for a bus yesterday, while at bus stop I saw a mother, dd (approx age 4) and grandma come to bus stop, had seen them earlier walking down the street.

DD didnt want to go on the bus she was crying saying she wanted to stay with granny. Mother mentioned to granny than dd was tired - hadnt slept that day. Mother started to wind the child up eg "you ARE going on the bus"..."noooo mummy dont want to" ..."well you are so there!"

Petty back and forth argument which was frankly rediculas, dd tried to walk away from the bus stop, the mother turned it in to an almost game, mother was laughing and chasing her but shouting swear words at her and telling her she was going to "batter you when we get in" I was Then heard a whack, and looked round to see the mum hit the child 2x. Child started sobbing - from her point of view mum was chasing her laughing next min she was being hit)

Now hittings not to my taste, but I realise some people do this so I just tried to look away - small bus stop though so not really possible.

Child was then wingey (was being ignored by mum who only spoke to her to swear at her) Child then said "I am NOT goin on bus I want to go to grannys" (I though no fekking wonder) And the mother literally dragged dd by her arm along ground. DD fell to ground sobbing, mother grabbed her collar and lifted her up by it shouting and swearing and whacked her 5 more times.

At this point bus came, I told woman if she hit her dd in my sight once more id call police. (Now in retrospect I shouldnt have said that, I should have just called, but I was furious and not thinking straight) We got on same bus mother told me to "fucking go ahead then"...so I did. (mother was now dragging child up bus by arm, I dont mean pulling I mean literally dragging, then whacking her again when she wouldnt sit on seat.

Police car was sent right away but didnt arrive in time before she got off the bus I gave a description etc. But as she got off woman threatened to "batter my face in, if she hadnt got the child with her" (I felt like saying go on then, Id rather take the pain than a poor child, then you will go to prison, child will go to foster care and be better off)

I wish Id followed them, police didnt get them If I ever see them again will phone again.

If she does that in public wtf does she do at home.

Yeah I think if Id interrupted her swearing rant by shoving sweets (of which of course I had a huge pile in my bag obviously ) in her screaming dds hands she surely would have been all sweetness and light to me...excellent plan. Some people just cant be reasoned with.

This is a case where I think there are NO negative connotations to the word Judgey.

CNL....just ignore KerryMum. she is in one of those moods I think!!

I think you should repost what you saw and heard inc the language she used to her dd to make it clear to the sceptic what you witnessed.

and I reiterate KerryMum, the police are not the bad guys!

KERRY MUM YOU DONT UNDERSTAND. THIS WAS AT FULL HEIGHT OF SCREAMING SHOUTING WHACKING WHEN SHE ARRIVED......THE BUS WAS ALSO NOT THERE YET. THE BUS WAS NOT SITTING WAITING IT WASNT EVEN DUE YET.

THE MOTHER WAS TAUNTING AND WINDING THE CHILD UP AS I CLEARLY HAVE STATED. IT WAS FULL BLOWN RIGHT FROM THE START.

I agree- people who get that angry are difficult to reason with - myself included when I get mad there's no talking to me. CBL was likely to get more abuse than she did if she had offered to help.

My friends sister buried her 2nd son today, she would love a child, she would be a good mum, some people take for granted the gift they have been blessed with, and some abuse that gife, abuse the trust tat child has in them.
Have you ever seen the hurt in a childs eyes after being hit by the very person who should protect you from the world? Its not the physical pain that is remembered, the damage is left long after the smarting has gone.

Being a parent is the one job that you have for life, te pay is crap and the hours are long, there is no holiday and the boss is a demanding git at times and if you fuck it up it can damage more people then you know but oh my the rewards are better then any other job in the world.

Ever if this woman was at the end of her rope tormenting and hitting a child is not grown up, not big, not good and unforgivable

only read to Kerrymum's post. Shocked.

Kimi so sad for your sister.

don't see how calling the police after such a horrid incident can be described as the easy way out - do you seriously think a sweet was going to diffuse the situation? get real kerrymum

me too Kimi.

I think you are a little naive here Kerrymum. Do you really think that woman would be responsive to a stranger interfering with her well meaning parenting techniques?

Your right Im going to ignore her now. Shes either got sick views on how to treat kids/is unable to read my posts/agrees with this mums behaviour.

You have no idea the effect these things have on children - you dont sit and listen to thier calls on childline - and yes for things of this nature, and less.

2shoes it was my friends sister
Although my sister has lost 5 babies and can't have any now due to cancer
Some people don't know how lucky they areto have a child

Kerrymum I just don't understand how you can think this mother shouldn't be reprimanded for hitting her child 7/8 times. You have obviously never suffered any abuse or you would understand the lasting impression something like that could have.

Thats alot of loss Kimi, i feel so sorry for your sister and her friend. And for you - can't be easy.

Well ok KM's what if she'd told you where to shove your sweets and then carried on abusing the child, what then would you have done ?

Kerrymum you have only suggested offering sweets or making jokes - is that all you can advise we do should we see a child being beaten in the street?

CBL's post of 15.46 states what the mum said to the child.

she should have been reported just for what she said!

I'm not sure anyone does agree with you KM. I still don't get why you think calling the police was so bad??

KM.

The police are not the bad guys. They would not necessarily have arrested her! They would have supported her and seen what SS could offer her.