Was told off nastily for being 'patronising' at a BBQ tonight - sorry long and rambling

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

because I gave my stock explaination of the musical intrument that I play viz 'a cornet, resembles a small trumpet'.

I have never met this woman before, she is a new neighbour of our friends, so was involving her and her DH in the convo only to be told sharply that she knew what a cornet is and not to be 'so bloody patronising'

I use this stock explaination as IME not many people know what a bloody cornet is FGS.

I carried on mingling and handing round the twigletts when I returned to the room she was in she started on at me again for being 'bloody patronising' so I made my apologies to the hosts, gathered up my family and made for the door. Whereupon said guest stopped me in the hallway and said 'off to play our cornet, are we' in such a sarcastic tone that even DP looked askance (he has zero social antennae lol)

I kind of brushed past with my 'social smile' resisiting the urge to take her by the ears and introduce her face to my knee [joke]

So.......... was I being unreasonable to leave party, leaving an awkward and upsetting encounter ?

I intend to ring the hosts in the morning to apolgise for early bath

She will not make many friends acting like that.

Just revel in the fact that she will not get invited back to your get togethers!

Lol LL!

I would have to stand on a box, 'tis true.

however, what I lack in height, I make up in fieriness!

Lol LL!

I would have to stand on a box, 'tis true.

however, what I lack in height, I make up in fieriness!

Twice over, obv

see, now this is the kind of scenario that I can't help but replay in my mind again, and again, and again...each time with a wittier or more violent intelligent response...

Good for you for taking the high ground. Just make sure you always have a patronising 'snippet' for whenever you are in her company ('yes, this is my son - really just a small type of man' kind of thing)

(Sounds fab!)

I think she is a bully and was looking to pick a fight.

Whenever anyone accuses you of being patronising:

"now, are you sure patronise is the word you were thinking of?"

Sounds like she has a mahoosive inferiority complex wrt her perceived intelligence. So she has to attack, bit like a Jack Russell.

Do speak to your friend and find out what she thinks of her, and particularly ask if anything was said after you left. She probably carried on making comments at your expense thinking everyone else felt the same way.

Fruitloopalicious!

Who knew horn playing could be such a threat to someone's self esteem? Maybe her husband has a secret stash of porn with women and musical instruments, and you mentioning the coronet was the last straw. Maybe she recognised you and your coronet from page 16 and was making a point. C'mon, fess up now.

Any updates? So many other people at the party to insult once you left...

Fabulous LittleLapin!

was she a little drunk ?

rofl rofl rofl LL

"Hello! (that's a greeting, by the way)"

LL: "I am WELL aware that cheese is a fruit, thank you very much"

LOLOL Rubberduck!

she's a fruitloop

how hard is it to say 'oh I know, I'm a musician, where do you play?'.which is what I'd say

am lking fanella's response

"patronising, that's a long word, isn't it children?"

I love threads like this. I wish I could think up witty retorts when actually in situ. I would be so much cooler...

YANBU She sounds like a right bitch.

Well done you for not rising to the bait and walking away from it.

Somehow I think "HOLD IT... I have to run to my laptop and ask my pretend friends how I should reply" would lose the coolness factor somewhat... just saying...