Was told off nastily for being 'patronising' at a BBQ tonight - sorry long and rambling

[BoysAreLikeDogs]

because I gave my stock explaination of the musical intrument that I play viz 'a cornet, resembles a small trumpet'.

I have never met this woman before, she is a new neighbour of our friends, so was involving her and her DH in the convo only to be told sharply that she knew what a cornet is and not to be 'so bloody patronising'

I use this stock explaination as IME not many people know what a bloody cornet is FGS.

I carried on mingling and handing round the twigletts when I returned to the room she was in she started on at me again for being 'bloody patronising' so I made my apologies to the hosts, gathered up my family and made for the door. Whereupon said guest stopped me in the hallway and said 'off to play our cornet, are we' in such a sarcastic tone that even DP looked askance (he has zero social antennae lol)

I kind of brushed past with my 'social smile' resisiting the urge to take her by the ears and introduce her face to my knee [joke]

So.......... was I being unreasonable to leave party, leaving an awkward and upsetting encounter ?

I intend to ring the hosts in the morning to apolgise for early bath

madwoman! How unpleasant.

It's always rude, unless someone is being racist, bullying, or somesuch, to start an argument, and any sentence that begins 'stop being..' is argumentative - regardless of whether or not your shorthand explanation of 'cornet' is patronising. Which it's not, of course.

Unless you forgot to tell us that you end your stock explanation with 'comma, fuckwits'.

Heh heh she was so nasty I bet that if you left her on the beach even the tide wouldn't take her out.

Feel much better now, TVM

Sounds like you dealt with it very well and just left to avoid any more hassle from that STUPID woman.

you should have whispered fuck off in her ear....works a treat

Of all snappy comebacks, Fuck Off is my most favouritist.

I have a music degree and dh used to play the tuba so we are both well aware of what a cornet is.

If someone had said that to us at a party we would have just smiled and said, yes I know what a cornet is, we are musicians too, loveley instrument but I prefer the sound of the French horn followed by a joke about the size of dh's tuba when he was a kid.

The amount of times I have had to explain to people what a say viola is or a bassoon.

What a very very rude woman.

"from me she would have got a piercing"

Jesus, LL, have you retrained?

Or you could have turned the conversation round to your latest thoughts on cornet storage...

You could talk her with your cornet playing the Jaws music, leaping into shop doorways and round corners every time she turned around.

stalk

islandofsodor, after reading your first line I thought you were going to come out as Rude Party Woman.

And then we would have had to lynch you, or something.

See, you all have the quick thinking, sharp-shooting attitudes, me - my tongue turns to shoe-leather as my brain cogitates.

Aaaaargh

that is such a good idea, combustilbe. I think we could all adapt that suggestion, regardless of our musical talents.
der-der.
der-der.
derderderderderderderderDERDERDERDERDERDERDERDER!

I'd have offered to chip her other shoulder so she has a matching pair!!!!

Right-o

Off to bed

Thank you all

[loved up emoticon]

LOL you go to diverse BBQ, me and mates munch quorn,discuss halloumi.no Cornets though.YANBU

oh the stroppy cow, you did the right thing, although I would of been tempted to have a quiet word in her shell like on the last encounter, something like "cornet and where the sun dont shine" would have been appropriate, tell your friend, she'll probably be inundated with other reports of the stroppy mare by the morning.

Bloody hell! She was very curt in her initial response, but, I suppose you could just have accepted that and moved on. But to corner you and go over it again is just bloody nasty.

I'd not have been able to prevent myself from being purposefully patronising to her after that. But, I'm a bit confrontational with folk who seem to be bullies.... Not the best way to behave I know but folk like that really get my back up.

Mind you, saying that, I actually, physically froze in a situation yesterday which is MOST unlike me.