To be raging that my DD6 just lost her brand new jazz shoe

[ElfinsMum]

I bought them for her 2 days ago. Forty quid for a tiny (ugly) pair of shoes. She did one class in them. Will have to replace immediately because we are two weeks from the big annual concert.

I actually cried in the middle of the reception area at the dance studio out of the sheer frustration. The teenage dance teacher couldn't have given fewer fucks.

Go on: hit me up with your best tales of stuff your kids have lost!!

I remember very well the time DS came out of school wearing one school shoe and one football boot. So I had to replace two pairs.

This was 30 years ago. It still stings.

Yes. You can teach a six year old to put things away. If they can’t do that then they should be supervised in the dance studio.
My child’s dance studio allows parents into the cloakroom area so if they aren’t capable of putting their things away or on themselves alone, their parent can help.

As a skint single parent my teenage eldest daughter wanted a designer sweatshirt which cost £££ I couldnt afford it at the time so got it from a catalogue as part of her birthday present, a few weeks later she went on a sailing holiday and took it with her🫣 (unknown to me) it blew over board in the channel on the way to France. I hadn't finished paying for it😧 I had a melt down when I found out 😬

Lost and found-My mum was admitted to hospital emergency and my DH came home with a bag of her clothes however had a whole set of men's clothing too including a wallet. Took it back to a&e the receptionist said to leave with her. They are so busy thought it would get lost in the chaos so I asked if I could take it to him myself. I checked the bank card name and she checked which ward . He was a teenager and was so grateful to get his things back but also quite injured. So at least he didn't have to cancel bank cards etc whilst also managing his hospital stay. Hope he got better.

Bought dd her first pair of wellies. Took her for a walk with her wearing them in the sling. By the time we had our first stop she’d lost one. Friend did retrace our steps for a wee bit but couldn’t redo the whole couple of miles over bog and cliffs. Luckily we finally found a field dd could toddle around in barefoot.

It's almost as if she was acting like a child.

Why l consequences? She’s 6. Another little girl picked it up by mistake. It’s no one’s fault.

What a lovely thing to do what a great daughter you are

Dd8 doesn't lose stuff but does ruin stuff through carelessness fairly often which is very frustrating. Lots of stained clothes. Most recently a lovely book, which she dumped a water bottle on top of, on its side, with a loose lid, and I found the next morning.

Did I say that I made them scared? My eldest lost his PE kit when he was about six. He told me but I had no money to buy a replacement for a week or two so did PE in other shorts or tshirt. School were fine but he didn’t like being different. I explained that actions have consequences so we have to look after things so he understood. He wasn’t in trouble. I explained that I went to work to earn money to buy things then came home and did chores. He decided on his consequence of helping me with chores. That stuck with me through his and his siblings childhood and it worked.

At 14 yo my eldest lost his school tie and came home and told me. He knew he’d have to pay or help me with chore so he went to lost property and found a tie. He said there were lots in there. Might’ve been his, might not but it made him find a solution. If you’re an automatically buy a replacement parent then you’ve just lost money and your child wont worry about finding a replacement or losing their things.

At age 6, they are learning responsibilities and looking after their own stuff. Sometimes they get it wrong just like adults do.

You can absolutely teach a 6 year old to look after their belongings. What you can’t do is expect perfection from them. At 6 they’ll still occasionally be careless and make mistakes, that’s developmentally normal. Adults are also sometimes careless and make mistakes.

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Way too many school jumpers and fleeces to count. We now check the bag at the school door daily. One day I’m sure this will be retained and she’ll independently do it. I hope before she gets to secondary and uniform starts to cost an awful lot more

I agree that 6 year olds make mistakes and are learning which is why we as parents need to teach them about consequences and also ‘systems and strategies’ to care for things so they don’t lose things. Which is what I have done.

I am not the OP who is ‘raging’. My children have not lost multiple PE kits or games consoles etc. like many of posts on here.

When my son was a out 13 he left his whole school sports bag at the bus stop (trainers, football boots, kit - all of it pretty new). Husband drove to the bus stop and I asked in all the shops nearby but it was gone and never reappeared. I was so pissed off.

Why so defensive? I hope your ds stole sn unnamed tie.

You implied that my child was scared of me.

Sorry what?? She’s 6, mistakes happen.

Pre clean out before we moved house.
Sent a brand new pair of school shoes $160 to the op shop.
Realised the Monday they had of course been sold that Saturday...so peeved off.

I think it’s promising only one shoe has gone missing, rather than the pair. When DS lost a brand new school shoe in the changing room, I just demanded the school take measures to find it. They moved the lockers and found another pupil had thrown it over for a ‘joke’.

My daughter left a whole bag of dance stuff at a school bus stop. Because she was worried she’d get in trouble she didn’t tell me for most of the day so I didn’t go and check for it. It sat there for hours (locals confirmed) but was gone by the time she told me and I went to check. Also she left brand new school uniform (expensive secondary stuff) on a train minutes after we bought it. It is indeed infuriating.
Does the dance school have shoes you could borrow for the concert?

Dont lose hope op. Yesterday the long lost new school coat belonging to gd was returned by the kind lady who ran a kids activity. Sadly after my dd had replaced it...

My worst was many years back my young childminder rang me at work crying to say her dog had just eaten dd1s new Clarks shoes.

Brand new football boots lost at school in the first week 😭 yes they were named. No they didn’t turn up in lost property 🙄 and I had to replace them that weekend as football was the sport for that term.

Trust it to turn up. Borrow or buy second hand for the concert.