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To think extra lessons for top students isn’t fair?

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Beepboobeep · Yesterday 21:12

My DD’s state primary school has a “top maths club” and “great writers club” for the top performing students in yr 5 and 6 held outside of school hours. There is no charge for this - so it’s free childcare and free tutoring. You have to be invited. This has been running since the second week of the school year and is restarting on the first day of this half term.

By contrast, my dyslexic DD is in a group for those needing more support in writing, also outside of school hours. But they only managed 2 sessions last year and it hasn’t started back up this year. She gets ad hoc in school support; where it happens she misses other lessons that aren’t then caught up on, putting her further behind in the those.

I appreciate these children deserve challenging, but surely that could be done in class with different work and the teacher’s out of hours time, if available, used to help those struggling?

Is this even allowed in a state primary?

OP posts:
ACynicalDad · Today 19:46

Teachers are giving up their own time this is extra time that is not depriving your child of anything. I’m sure the teachers get a lot of pleasure from doing this and build relationships with kids who they hope will achieve greater depth in their stats which will be a development point for the school, just as helping your child to reach the expected standard will be. There is probably some guilt that the most able children children are often not getting the support they would ideally get in school hours.

Vanillazebra · Today 19:47

Beepboobeep · Yesterday 21:15

Yes, but is it right to prioritise them over children who are struggling?

Edited

Yes, because these kids may be struggling in other ways. Most kids who are gifted are twice exceptional, meaning that they have a learning disability too, or may have autism or ADHD

Arabelllllllla · Today 19:48

Beepboobeep · Yesterday 21:26

So what about support for those that need it? What if that is totally lacking?

Then fight for that! Stop trying to take something away from high achieving kids.

Why is it either or?? Why can't it be both?

Take it up with the school that you think your daughter who is struggling is not getting enough support.

The only reason you'd have to complain about these extra classes the "top kids" are getting is if the school turned round and said "sorry we can't help your daughter because the money is being spent on the after school classes." Which is highly unlikely, you've just come to that conclusion yourself.

FirmSnake · Today 19:54

hibernatinghedgehog · Today 19:12

The number of children being categorised as SEN has skyrocketed in recent years

There hasn’t been such a big increase in the proportion of DC with SEN as some like to believe. The most recent statistics released this year show 20.8% of pupils have SEN. In 2010, it was 20.9% or 21.1% (depending on which statistics you look at - I think it is a rounding issue adding up SA, SA+ and SSEN). In 2005, it was 18%.

Percentage with EHCP or previous equivalent has more than doubled though.

potenial · Today 19:56

Beepboobeep · Yesterday 21:25

This is my point - surely more teacher time should be given for the children struggling. I’ve been pleading for this support and it’s not been forthcoming.

Thats not how extra curricular clubs work though. Usually a teacher offers to run something, the kids are interested enough to justify it, and the teacher runs it. Voluntarily.
In the same way that a football club isn't the thing preventing a dyslexia support club, a maths and writing club isn't either! Kids that struggle with coordination and sports aren't being neglected because the school netball team is training twice a week, and if you're really concerned, there's lots you can be working on with your daughter at home, or you can look at private tutoring (rather than expecting underpaid teachers go give up more of their free time!)

Fwiw, chances are, other kids who are struggling don't want to attend a writing club, and therefore there's also not the demand for it! It's also likely to be harder and less enjoyable for the teachers running it voluntarily!

HungryCaterpillar87 · Today 19:57

If the 'smarter' kids are getting full marks all the time then they are not getting what they need in class. The struggling kids always get the teachers attention in school. The high performers are largely left to it. So good for the school providing them some extra challenge.

Plus after school clubs are meant to be fun. And teachers generally volunteer their time, it's not normally extra resource available to be spent elsewhere. Why would they volunteer to teach kids who wouldn't be there for the enjoyment?! That's their day job they get paid for

Goldenbear · Today 19:59

CheeseMakesMeFart · Today 19:42

Yes, because dragging down the top performers and holding them back in some misguided notion of fairness is a waste of talent and aspiration.

School is painful tedium for the brightest kids. To the point that many go off the rails completely as teenagers.

If your kid needs more help then advocate for that, not for others to have less.

And yet research on this subject overwhelming shows that there is no reliable way to identify 'talent' at a young. Indeed, research done on the the Gifted programme referenced on this thread by one poster, found that advantaged pupils were more likely to be considered gifted. The outcome of which maybe be teens that go off the rails, as they are emotionally unable to cope with the reality of their 'gift' being based upon an artificial and unreliable assessment.

Goldenbear · Today 20:01

Vanillazebra · Today 19:47

Yes, because these kids may be struggling in other ways. Most kids who are gifted are twice exceptional, meaning that they have a learning disability too, or may have autism or ADHD

If we are discussing 'high achievers' that won't be the case.

Forgotthebins · Today 20:04

questiontime1234 · Yesterday 22:18

Our DS is extremely high functioning and classed as exceptionally gifted. We have been repeatedly warned that it is very likely he will get bored and will lash out or completely shut down in school. When we spoke to his headteacher about it they said "we are very good at reaching down to underperforming children, we are very bad at reaching up to gifted/2E children". We spent 6 months calculating private school fees and wondering if it would work and finally found a school with activities similar to the one the OP is discussing, and a gifted program/extra work for them. I am praying it works. I think no school is good at everything tbh, hard though that may be. Our first school is evidence of that the other way around.

op, this is what you don’t realise. Being gifted or most able can become a curse. Kids can either turn in on themselves or act out because they feel ignored at school. I know it clearly feels to you like the school is giving out more cake to kids who already have lots of cake, and from the way you describe these parents, a lot of them are privileged. But supporting the very able kids is not WRONG. What sounds wrong is how they have not arranged the support for your child. Try to separate the issues because you must be making yourself more miserable and taking something from another group of kids that needs support is not going to help you find allies.

Arabelllllllla · Today 20:05

Goldenbear · Today 20:01

If we are discussing 'high achievers' that won't be the case.

How so? I was a high achiever at school, both primary and secondary. I was a scholarship student and got top grades.

But I had ADHD. I was extremely disruptive at times, particularly if I was bored or not challenged. It absolutely can be the case that someone could be a straight A student and struggle in other ways with behaviour.

Goldenbear · Today 20:09

ACynicalDad · Today 19:46

Teachers are giving up their own time this is extra time that is not depriving your child of anything. I’m sure the teachers get a lot of pleasure from doing this and build relationships with kids who they hope will achieve greater depth in their stats which will be a development point for the school, just as helping your child to reach the expected standard will be. There is probably some guilt that the most able children children are often not getting the support they would ideally get in school hours.

Both of my children achieved 'Greater Depth' in SATs and the school didn't provide any additional lessons for these children. Why does a child who is working at the level need lessons on how to work at that level? SATs are pointless too. All they have done is taken away resources from subjects that 'would' benefit a child's development and ensured the erosion of a holistic approach to education, which is far more beneficial to society and the economy!

takemebackto1990 · Today 20:10

It’s often the quiet ones in the middle who get ignored. Too well behaved to get loads of points on ClassCharts & not bright enough to get loads of points for amazing work.

I teach and pretty much all my effort goes into making sure all students can access the work. So I imagine some bright students get bored.

I think that as a nation if we want to compete to be the best then we need to encourage the most talented students to excel academically. It’s not fair to hold them back just so that others don’t feel left out.

I think the issue might be that you are in an 11+ area. Their summer schedule sounds depressing to be honest - 10 year old kids stuck in 11+ ‘camp’ instead of enjoying their summer & extra tuition after school. It sounds very intense.

Try not to get too caught up in it all. There’s more to children than whether they are academically gifted.

Goldenbear · Today 20:14

Arabelllllllla · Today 20:05

How so? I was a high achiever at school, both primary and secondary. I was a scholarship student and got top grades.

But I had ADHD. I was extremely disruptive at times, particularly if I was bored or not challenged. It absolutely can be the case that someone could be a straight A student and struggle in other ways with behaviour.

Edited

I didn't say it wasn't, I was referring to 'high achievers' not 'gifted' pupils who are 'twice exceptional'. If you have read my posts you would see that I am disputing the terminology and how much of the research shows that it is not possible to determine this at 9/10.

Goldenbear · Today 20:23

takemebackto1990 · Today 20:10

It’s often the quiet ones in the middle who get ignored. Too well behaved to get loads of points on ClassCharts & not bright enough to get loads of points for amazing work.

I teach and pretty much all my effort goes into making sure all students can access the work. So I imagine some bright students get bored.

I think that as a nation if we want to compete to be the best then we need to encourage the most talented students to excel academically. It’s not fair to hold them back just so that others don’t feel left out.

I think the issue might be that you are in an 11+ area. Their summer schedule sounds depressing to be honest - 10 year old kids stuck in 11+ ‘camp’ instead of enjoying their summer & extra tuition after school. It sounds very intense.

Try not to get too caught up in it all. There’s more to children than whether they are academically gifted.

But the research overwhelming shows that at primary age rigid 'talent' labels are very unreliable. Research on the Gifted programme demonstrated that advantaged children were more likely to be labelled 'gifted'. It is therefore questionable whether we should be worried about an absence of attention or resources for a group of children that are already mostly advantaged. But of course, this doesn't apply to those that aren't.

TunnocksOrDeath · Today 20:28

anotherside · Yesterday 22:36

Every child should be given the same amount/hours of support by the school, either during or after school. If that’s the case then it’s fair. If not then it’s unfair.

Agreed. Unfortunately the teacher in our DC's primary spends so long managing the needs of the children in the class who either won't behave or can't understand the work, that the ones who manage fine without much help but would need a push to reach their full potential get diddly squat. DC seems to be going backwards, attainment-wise.

Mibby16 · Today 20:38

Kids capable of getting A* need to be taught and stretched so they do.
The fad of the last 10nyears of having the high achievers teach the less-able is a lousy idea for both and doesn't stretch them at all
If the parents have been paying for out of school teaching and support it suggests it's needed and the kids are benefiting
Maybe focus on getting the best for your child and stop worrying about the others?

QueenGizzard · Today 20:40

This would have helped my son, he was so frustrated at primary school and was miserable. He also struggled with friendships and needed therapy to help him work through why he was so down all the time.

So much happier at secondary when he was finally given the challenges he so desperately needed (and knew he needed).

I actually teared up reading the OP as I'm so happy for those kids and sad for mine when he was that age.

MicDoyle · Today 20:40

Secondary teacher here. We have intervention for those students who have been identified as struggling. Teachers who are already exhausted from teaching a full day, rush to intervention- no time for the toilet so best not to drink too much, and then teach after school. The issue I have found, is that students do not turn up! I am ringing parents who give every excuse under the sun. It is so disheartening because it is free tuition and we really want students to pass English, Maths and Science. They are not on track to pass.

My advice to you OP would be do a little bit with your child every evening. Just 10 mins of Maths and English can make a huge difference.

Ask her teachers for a progress report, set up a meeting, have a look at her books. In my experience it is optimum when parents and teachers work together. Some schools like mine, parents honestly dont need to bother with tuition, our school is an exam factory. They will push every ability but if your school is not like that...you will have to put in the extra work...either you yourself, other family members or a tutor.

Vanillazebra · Today 20:41

Goldenbear · Today 20:01

If we are discussing 'high achievers' that won't be the case.

Well I have two of them... one with an IQ of 135 but cant spell... on the other hand Math he excels at

FirmSnake · Today 20:41

Goldenbear · Today 20:23

But the research overwhelming shows that at primary age rigid 'talent' labels are very unreliable. Research on the Gifted programme demonstrated that advantaged children were more likely to be labelled 'gifted'. It is therefore questionable whether we should be worried about an absence of attention or resources for a group of children that are already mostly advantaged. But of course, this doesn't apply to those that aren't.

Why does it matter if rigid talent labels are unreliable? The extra lessons aren't for the potential lazy 17 year olds, or mediocre 30 year olds they might become.

Bookworm39 · Today 20:41

JLou08 · Yesterday 21:18

I've been at both ends of this, one high achiever and one with learning difficulties. I think it's good that the school are making an effort with the high achievers as they often get left to plod along with work that doesn't challenge them and it can damage their progress and motivation to learn.
I think when talking about after school clubs, they're supposed to be fun. Usually made up of sports or art clubs. Maths and writing may be fun for people who do well in it. How much fun will it be for someone who struggles? It's more likely to just feel like extra pressure after a long day of struggling with class work. For that reason, I think it's a good idea to prioritise the club for the high achievers.

I have exactly the same, one high achiever and one with learning disabilities. The amount of support my child with SEN got was massive compared to my high achiever, who was quite often bored and not challenged enough.

High achiever did end up on SEN support as was diagnosed as dyslexic 2 months before GCSEs. Assessor said it would have been picked up straight away in a grammar school. But due to lack of challenge, my child went under the radar in both primary and secondary school. He loved sixth form and currently at uni. He probably would have had a better time at schoool wifh such challenge clubs.

Goldenbear · Today 20:45

FirmSnake · Today 20:41

Why does it matter if rigid talent labels are unreliable? The extra lessons aren't for the potential lazy 17 year olds, or mediocre 30 year olds they might become.

I have already explained- it perpetuates inequality of opportunities!

FirmSnake · Today 20:47

Goldenbear · Today 20:45

I have already explained- it perpetuates inequality of opportunities!

So who exactly benefits from bright kids learning less?

TorkTork27 · Today 20:51

Do you feel the same about sporting and musical extracurriculars? As they're usually based on aptitude too. It never even occurred to me at school that I was owed a place on an extracurricular to reach my potential. Those classes were for people who excelled in those subjects, whether it was Maths Challenge, Orchestra, or the netball team. The school's obligation is to educate your child for a set number of hours per year, in set curriculum subjects. Beyond that...

Pinkypromise43 · Today 21:02

Beepboobeep · Yesterday 21:35

Funny enough I didn’t realise my 3yo (her age when you have to apply) had dyslexia.

I’m from the area, this is my closest primary school. most other parents moved to the area specifically for this school.

it was covid so I couldn’t look round it.

we are already in the process of moving her.

This is why there are so many sen kids in private schools. The parents realise it’s pretty shit being a sen child in state schools and sacrifice everything for them to go to a private school. Might not be right or fair but it is the cold hard reality of life.