Simple answer: Jealousy. Most of them are jealous. They are as jealous as fuck that you have your own little space. Also a few of them just genuinely don't understand and don't get it, because they can't be away from iccle hubster for 5 minutes and just have to cuddle up in bed with him, and feel lost without him there. A few others genuinely cannot fathom any married couple sleeping separately from their spouse and think it's the first sign of problems in the marriage. I have known a few married couples in the past where the woman can't sleep properly AT ALL because of her husband's snoring and she will NOT go to the spare bedroom. because 'married couples shouldn't sleep apart.' LOL! What horseshit. 😆Imagine being such a martyr! Go to the spare room and get some sleep woman!
I cannot fathom how anyone can sleep in the same bed as their spouse/partner for 40-50 years or more. Sharing a tiny 6X4 ft space sleeping with another adult for the rest of your life is bizarre IMO. It is not conducive to good sleep at all. Men snore, they grunt, they thrash about in the night, they fart, they breathe on the back of your neck, they cough, and they steal the duvet. There is NOTHING appealing about sharing a bed with anyone IMO. Even if you have a bigger bed, you can't get away from the snoring. And NO I am not wearing bloody noise cancelling headphone!
I grew up with my own bedroom and my own bed, and I have never liked sharing. I had a one bedroom flat with my DH when we first got together, and we were OK for 3-4 years, then we bought a 2 bed house, still shared a room for another 3-4 years... Then I had our first baby. They had the second bedroom. DC 2 was born a couple of years later, and shared that bedroom.. During the first 3-4 years of their lives DH thickened out, put weight on (maybe 20 pounds) and hit his mid 30s, and he started to snore. So I had to sleep on the couch and it pissed me off as I couldn't sleep properly. He got worse as time went on..
tl;dr, we moved when the DC were infant school age to a 4 bed house and I had my own bedroom. 25-ish years have gone by, and I would never go back. I love it. My own little cosy room exactly how I want it, and peace and quiet and no DH snoring, grunting, farting, coughing, or thrashing about in the bed. BLISS!
He was disgruntled at first, and all like 'what will people think?' and tried to hide it from people. I didn't give a shit. Still don't. He was OK after about a year and didn't care anymore, and loves having his own room now too.. Over 30 years married now, and perfectly content. Seen many a couple hit the rocks and spilt up. And some of them slept together.
(We moved out of the 4 bed about a decade ago, and moved to a smaller home, a cottage, but I still have my own bedroom.)
Oh, and we pay for separate bedrooms in hotels too. Sod the cost. The holiday would be ruined if I had no sleep! I have had quite a number of women who have come on the holiday with their husband (and are sharing a room) sigh, and roll their eyes, as they didn't know they could have had separate room, and they are deeply envious of me. 😆 'Oooooh I wish had known you could have separate rooms from your husband!' they say as they look at me wistfully, getting my OWN room key!
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