To stop reading with ds?

[ohmaaaan]

Honestly, I am aware of how important it is. But it is an unbelievably frustrating experience and I am worried it’s putting him off reading more than anything else. Would actually really welcome advice on to how to make it less arduous 😩😩

How old is he and what's the frustration?

take the pressure off and read to him. Show him how nice it is to hear a story . Don't use a talking book, be present with him with an open book

Stop asking him to read and switch to reading to him. So long as he's looking at the pages he'll still be absorbing some.

Read to him all the time.

Also learn poems together - Michael Rosen etc.

How old is he and what’s his reading level?

What's the issue? He it his homeland he should be reading to you?

Or is it a bedtime story you are reading to get his interest?

Either way depending on his age you need to do it, assuming you can read.

Do you have a DP that can take a turn?

Get a book he's interested in.

Try reading in the morning?
Try him just doing the first sound of each word?
Try alternate sentences?

Sorry that would help. He is five (nearly six, so Y1.)

He is a bit lazy when it comes to reading so for example we had the word blanket tonight and he read it. I praised him. Then the word back and he just kept saying blanket even when I’m saying no, try again, give that one another go! That sort of thing happens a lot. I just don’t want it to become a source of stress but he is a bit behind so I want to help him.

I do read to him as well, always have, will only stop that when he wants me to, but him reading to me … arrghhh!

Also read comics. The beano us fabulous

Mornings when less tired for his reading.
You read to him other times.

Cover up part of the word and slowly reveal if he is guessing rather than sounding.

Yes, this is rather crucial. I wouldn't stop, but I might maybe scale back on how much he reads but not the frequency - he does a page, you do a page eg.

If he's of sounding out age, the books are bloody tedious. I always read lots of other books.

Don't say no. Never ever say no. And he's not lazy, he's learning.

Say good try, it's lots of the same letters isn't it, but this one is b-a-ck back. You're getting so good at this, I love hearing you read.

Better two happy sentences than two miserable pages.

Thanks. I’ll try mornings, just always so hectic, but worth a go.

The books are tedious but it’s pointless giving him books to read that he can’t, if you see what I mean. We do read very widely, but it doesn’t seem to have made much difference to his achievements academically.

At this age I would just read to him. He’s frustrated and so are you. When his reading picks up it will be better but leave it a year or so and you do the reading.

I haven’t read all of the responses but I hate it when people say they’ll get there in the end because some children/adults don’t

Two things that helped with my very reluctant reader
Found books that were at their level but they were interested
insisted on a set amount per day but let them choose when and who with, me or dad
It was still really hard but they were never going to read voluntarily!

No don't give up. It's bloody torture but then they get it and it's a lot more fun. Maybe give up biff chip and twatface and just get them reading a line of a normal book. Reading on Kindle helps so you can increase the font size for them.

@ohmaaaan just read something else.

My DS hated the school books but we used a whiteboard and he read words like BUM FART DOG POOP WEE CAT. He found it hilarious.

He is now 15 and when he was 10 he was doing exactly the same with his 5 year old brother!!

Rather than getting into a battle just say “good try, let’s sound it out together” as much as anything you need to be helping model how to decode the words.

keep the reading for pleasure completely seperate as it sounds like you are doing but keep going with the school books even if only a page or two every other night. It does help in the long run.

Of course you can't give up, reading at home is incredibly important. Keep trying different things.

One of the best things to do is echo reading. You read a sentence (or a couple of sentences or the page). They track the words as you read and then the child repeats/ reads. You could do this for just a few pages or for the whole book.
Some other things that have helped me are: reading first thing in the morning rather than at night. Doing a little every day rather than a few times a week (stops arguing when you decide to read as they know it is expected everyday). Aim for a shorter more positive session.

Does he know all his sounds?

Reading with my son at that age was torturous. What worked for us is making reading a bedtime thing. I found he was more engaged (probably as it meant he wasn't having to go to sleep) and we would read together. Take it in turns to read a page etc. It did really help and we still read in bed together now and he's 8. He has improved but he is not a natural reader. It does get better OP I promise but him learning to read has been my hardest parenting experience to date!

No, not all.

i also say to kids that when they are in big tesco/aldi/etc to read the words on the food labels. they don't have to buy it but if there's something they recognize. when we were doing the /ir/ sound i showed them a Twirl and then said - when you're in the shop and you see the /ir/ etc etc etc.

if he's doing read write inc. then that translates programme well into non-school (i've found)

reading doesn't have to be in a book etc to build confidence

Seperatly then I would focus on helping him with the sounds he is missing.

every half term we send home a list of sounds a child is secure with and the ones we have covered but they aren’t yet secure in. We then suggest to parents they focus on the next 3-5 sound and help reinforce them. don’t try to do too much at once just keep it simple.