Chinese takeaway

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Partner A & B agreed they would feed their child a bit earlier tonight after a hectic week of Halloween discos and clubs, then the grown ups would have a takeaway for dinner once said child is asleep.

Partner A picks what they would like from the takeaway menu, sends to Partner B before starting bedtime.

Partner B knows the takeaway is usually really quick midweek, but takes around an hour on a weekend. Partner B goes ahead and orders the food (including what was requested).

Partner A is unhappy that the order is placed before the child is asleep (and therefore may come before they are ready) and wants to cancel the full order. Partner B calls the takeaway to ask to postpone delivery, which they are happy to do. Partner A no longer wants the takeaway and is making a sandwich for dinner instead.

Is Partner A unreasonable?

Disappointed at this thread. Thought it was going to be one of those "what are you ordering?" threads.

😂

I wish this stupid partner A/B shit would go in the bin.

But to answer your question. Yes.

THIS. We always do it with takeaways anyway, because I like food to be served hot.

Partner A is being a twat.

Genuine q, doesn't your Chinese come in plastic these days
. Do you decant it to put it in the oven??

Leave him to his sandwich. You get a Chinese banquet to choose from.

Parter A sounds unhinged.

Partner A sounds like hard work.

If B hadn’t delayed the delivery then hangry A would have had a Chinese meal to eat instead of making the sandwich

so A created the whole drama by not focussing on bedtime and then getting the order delayed

There's only one move you can do here. Go ahead and order the take away just for you. Peking duck them.

You would be very annoyed if the food arrived too early? It's a takeaway delivery!

How does it make you anxious about the bedtime routine? Is your bedtime routine particularly complex?

I hate cold food too that is why we have an oven and a microwave!

I don't mean to be rude but being "anxious" about bedtime because Chinese came at a certain time that was not your perfect bedtime time - it's a takeaway! They have tons of orders - they can't accommodate your bedtime routine?!

This is so interesting.

On the face of things of course A sounds unreasonable but unless you have been A in a relationship with a B partner who just doesn't give a fuck about you or think things through then you just don't understand.

I can absolutely see myself in this situation asking B to order a takeaway to come after bedtime and subsequently finding out it was coming right in the middle of bedtime because B plans to eat his hot and chuck yours in the oven to stagnate whilst you cover bedtime.

Completly missing the point that A wanted to eat together without children and wanted to eat their meal fresh rather than reheated.

My take is that people who think A is unreasonable are in healthy relationships with considerate men and the people who get why A is fucked off and has pettily declared that they might as well have a fucking sandwich then know exactly what it's like to try and parent with someone who couldn't give a shit about you.

But that’s not what happened here - there’s no suggestion at all that B planned to eat the takeaway without A. B made a decision that given how long it normally takes to be delivered the order should go in at a certain time

A, though busy with bedtime, found out and kicked off. You could interpret that as A being a control freak and B feeling they can never do anything right

doubt OP will return but it’s difficult to tell because we don’t know the dynamic

ETA and it looks like B was right and that if they hadn’t delayed the takeaway the food would have been there for when bedtime finished

We dish it up onto plates. That can go in the oven on a low setting or be microwaved later.

Do you eat from the plastic containers?

It sounds like Partner A was very hungry and should have eaten a small snack until Partner B was available to enjoy the takeaway together.

Smooth it over and have a Chinese tomorrow night 🍜

Partner A is a twat

Why do parents make such an utter performance out of bedtime nowadays?

Yes they are. Let partner A sulk with their sandwich. Partner B can eat more and have it cold tomorrow

I agree.

Yes and yes.

I suppose it depends on if you class Friday night as a weekend or weekday.

If A asked B to order takeaway for after bedtime/ 8pm and B ordered at 6.30pm knowing it meant it would most likely turn up before 7.30 then B is unreasonable. I get everyone saying 'use a microwave, put it on a plate etc' but if A is also the person normally responsible for cooking meals and this is supposed to be a night off from cooking and a treat then A would be within their rights to be absolutely fucked off if they had to eat their takeaway reheated because their 'partner' couldnt be bothered to wait 30 mins to order.

I doubt this is a one off and I think A has had enough of inconsiderate behaviour from B and has declared that if he doesn't care about takeaway date night then she's bloody well going to have a sandwich instead.

#teamA

(Although I suspect that it is B posting and is going to use it to show A how unreasonable everyone on mumsnet thinks she is)

Partner b should ignore A cutting off their nose to spite their face for no reason and just enjoy their Chinese

But if A had so little faith in B to do the right thing then why send their order over and not say ‘let’s order once the kids are down’

and B called to delay the takeaway so why was A having a sandwich instead? A got what they wanted in the delayed delivery so why were they still kicking off?

I actually read the OP as being A!

What fresh hell is this???

Quite. How petty.