Chinese takeaway

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Partner A & B agreed they would feed their child a bit earlier tonight after a hectic week of Halloween discos and clubs, then the grown ups would have a takeaway for dinner once said child is asleep.

Partner A picks what they would like from the takeaway menu, sends to Partner B before starting bedtime.

Partner B knows the takeaway is usually really quick midweek, but takes around an hour on a weekend. Partner B goes ahead and orders the food (including what was requested).

Partner A is unhappy that the order is placed before the child is asleep (and therefore may come before they are ready) and wants to cancel the full order. Partner B calls the takeaway to ask to postpone delivery, which they are happy to do. Partner A no longer wants the takeaway and is making a sandwich for dinner instead.

Is Partner A unreasonable?

What a mountain out of a molehill.

Partner A is an arse 🙄

Yes.

Eat it happily with lots of happy sounds and exclaim that “This is the best Chinese EVER”

This has DEFINITELY been posted before!!!

Partner A is a total tit.

Why on earth couldn't it just go in the oven if it arrived early?

but why would it definitely mean the food coming too early? OP said 'up to an hour,' you'd like to think bed and bath wouldn't take that long. If they didn't even order until the DC was asleep and then it took a further hour I'd be eating my arm off!

I really don't see the issue in keeping it warm for a few minutes.

But, yes, 100% agree that the 'well I don't want anything now,' petty sulking even after B had sorted the non existent problem is just embarrassing.

I think it depends on if B planned to eat the takeaway when it arrived even if A hadn't finished the bedtime routine and whether its part of a bigger picture of B prioritising themselves and not adapting to having a small child.

E.g. did A plan for it to be a take away and a bit of adult time/date night and B just saw it as food and didn't understand that A wanted to delay and eat like an adult without care giving distractions. A bigger picture of B just not giving a shit about what A feels/needs?

Please update and please, please don't cancel the delivery, enjoy every mouthful!

I want Chinese now!!

Hilarity when it emerges OP is Partner A.

Yes. Very. Idiot.

Does partner A or B have access to a microwave to warm up the slightly earlier than wanted food? Amazing inventions these things.

Yeah, partner A is being a bit of a diva.

Surely if this is as big a deal as you’ve made out partner B should do the bedtime routine and partner A eat when it arrives?

There must be more to it otherwise partner A is being ridiculous

Partner A is unreasonable.
which one were you?

Yes

Person A is a spoilt, sulky brat, yes.

I mean, how fucking long does it take to put a child to bed?

Partner A is throwing their toys out of the pram, however, as another poster said, A might be at the end of their tether with B for a string of inconsiderate actions (or non actions)...

This. The only rationale reason I can think of why parter A could be annoyed is that partner B was expecting them to do bedtime and then risked partner A having cold dinner.

OR was it supposed to be a special dinner together and partner A feels partner B never thinks through things properly and that there could be a cold takeaway.

Either way, Partner A is over reacting and being passive aggressive rather than communicating properly, so is unreasonable.

Even if A is prawn-crackered after a busy week, they are being sour and not sweet, and a bit chow-mean 😀

Yes.

I assume you are parter B?

You are partner B?

Yes of course A is unreasonable.

Yes