Boyfriend watching porm every day!

[GodHelpMeImStressed]

Posting here for traffic, not sure if im blowing this out of proportion in my mind.

For context, he and I have been together 2 years. We are soon moving in together as a blended family. He has 2 kids, and i have 2 of my own.

We've always been very open about sex, whether together or solo, and i knew he wanted a lot but yesterday he mentioned about watching porn every morning. I was shocked, horrified even. I dont mind porn, I watch it myself sometimes which he is aware of and he had given me the impression he watching it 'sometimes' too. But every day?!

So everyday morning while my first thought is of him and message him good morning, his first thought is to seek sexual gratification from other women. Same in the evening I guess. I thought his horniness was something to do with me, or our relationship (how silly), but in fact its just because I have a hole. He doesn't seem to understand the issue that he gets off more frequently on other women than me, the one whose been working this arse off to buy our new house. He thinks im hurt, im not, im disappointed and kind of disgusted.

Am I being OTT?

But that wasn’t the only concern raised was it?

There’s been a long laundry list of concerns about porn raised on this thread (justifiably in my view), most of which centre around the underlying attitudes it betrays towards women and girls. But you keep homing in on this one aspect of it as if that was the only objection raised.

Some of us think its a bad idea for a woman with kids to move in with him for a variety of reasons, why are you so hyper focused on this one aspect?

Hyper focused? That's the only concrete concern you raised, so I responded to it. The rest of your posts is him not being a good man because of this, which is too abstract for me to form an argument.

I don’t think its abstract to say that men who watch a lot of porn tend to have pretty low opinions of women. A lot of people on this thread apparently share this view.

But you seem very keen to defend this mega-wanker (literally). I just find your support of him a bit odd.

I'm not supporting him, I don't know him! I disagreed with your assertion that he'd do it in front of children.

I respect any woman's boundaries. I think porn is very normal for men whether you'd like to think so or not. I don't think it makes them a pedophile or a misogynist. I do certainly respect an internet stranger's boundaries for her personal relationship.

What’s the rush? 2 poxy years. Your kids presumably barely more than a year. And suddenly…. Sharing their home, bathroom, lounge, holidays - everything with a virtual stranger. Makes no sense to me.

Do you have any quantitive evidence that there is a statistical link between viewing of porn and low intelligence? Genuine question.

Who sign up for such a study 😆

What have you decided to do @GodHelpMeImStressed ?