Boyfriend watching porm every day!

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Posting here for traffic, not sure if im blowing this out of proportion in my mind.

For context, he and I have been together 2 years. We are soon moving in together as a blended family. He has 2 kids, and i have 2 of my own.

We've always been very open about sex, whether together or solo, and i knew he wanted a lot but yesterday he mentioned about watching porn every morning. I was shocked, horrified even. I dont mind porn, I watch it myself sometimes which he is aware of and he had given me the impression he watching it 'sometimes' too. But every day?!

So everyday morning while my first thought is of him and message him good morning, his first thought is to seek sexual gratification from other women. Same in the evening I guess. I thought his horniness was something to do with me, or our relationship (how silly), but in fact its just because I have a hole. He doesn't seem to understand the issue that he gets off more frequently on other women than me, the one whose been working this arse off to buy our new house. He thinks im hurt, im not, im disappointed and kind of disgusted.

Am I being OTT?

Excuse you? I was single 6 years before we met. We have good jobs, we are good parents. Dont judge me because I just found out a secret being kept from me.

Urggh. Could always tell when my ex had watched porn because he would be considerably worse in bed. Morally, I couldn't be with someone that watch porn anymore. Now that I know so much about what a destructive industry it is. But even then, every day would be too much and would make me think he just objectified. Women and viewed sex in a pornographic rather than a loving way.

And friends for 3 before that. Stop. Judging.

Whatever you do don’t move your kids into the same house as this man. Cut your losses now. Life is too short.

Seems the New Start isn't his priority..

You have no business moving this man into your children's home after two years.

You don't know him well enough as this thread proves.

Do you honestly think your children would choose this for themselves??

This. You are lucky you have discovered this before moving in. Give yourself and your children the best present possible and end the relationship.

Wow take your shit out on someone else. You dont know anything about me. Stop attacking me and making assumptions about what I think.

Deal-breaker for me. I’d be running for the hills.
No idea why you posted if you don’t want other people’s opinions OP!

We know you plan to move a porn addicted man you've only been with for 2 years, into your children's home.

That's all anyone needs really.

Respectfully OP why did you post this question if you were going to be so defensive about anyone pointing out its not a great idea?

Most of us can see it is a huge slow motion disaster waiting to happen.

You must have been worried enough to post, it should not be beyond the scope of your imagination that some people would point it out?

I doubt that you’ll end this relationship. The fact that you’re moving in with him so soon, blending your families, making excuses/slight justification in the post, doubting yourself and defensive in response to the comments on here. It’s a recipe for disaster.

There would have been signs that he was addicted to porn early on but you continued with him anyway.

I really think some women do it to themselves sometimes. Very difficult to have any sympathy.

I wanted to know if I was being over the top, not have someone implying im happy to put my kids at risk, which ofc im not.

I would find some standards from somewhere

I wouldn't have made this plan had I known, would I? And since this happened about 5pm yesterday, ive hardly had time to make any decisions.

Well if you're not happy to put your kids at risk, why move them in with a man you've only been with 2 years and met through online dating?

Imagine if you'd found out about the porn addiction after you'd forced your kids to live with him?

All readers are judging the situation based on what you've said OP. You're more open to watching porn than many people commenting. It's more normalised to you. For many people it's a red flag. You're offended by people's reactions. They're saying what they're saying as you're moving in with this man with your children and yet you clearly don't know him that well given what you're telling us. Sounds like he has a problem re watching do much porn. That works be a deal breaker for me, not someone I would want my children to live with. People are saying this to you and you're getting defensive yet you asked for people's opinion. You're getting them.

Not worried, no. I can make the decision just fine and have an idea of what I am going to do. But I wanted to get some advise as to whether im blowing this up in my mind before I walk into this conversation.

I hope you don't have daughters now you're moving in with a man who thinks so little of women.

Well now you know and if you're seeing it the same way as people reading this thread you call make a decision and end the relationship.