Did something a bit silly at work

[Saracopp]

I regularly visit schools for my job. One school had to change premises to a larger school site whilst building works were being undertaken on the original school building.

The support staff of the new building were unpleasant and unfriendly- possibly because they didn’t want to share their building with another school.

Each week for the past nine months or so I’ve experienced unpleasantness with one particular member of staff on the front desk. Things like deliberately keeping me waiting to let me in and out of the building (she would pretend she wasn’t in the office, but I could see her in the reflection of one of the windows, she thought she was out of sight), abrupt manner, unhelpful, not passing on messages, rolling eyes because she has to get out of her chair to press a button to release the door, huffing because my mere presence is an inconvenience etc, you get the picture.

A couple of weeks ago we had a slight altercation, she was scowling as usual as I arrived and I asked her if everything was ok as she seemed quite unhappy to see me. She immediately became defensive and gave me a right mouthful so I calmly told her she maybe should develop some social skills given she was on the front desk 😳

I spoke to the head teacher of ‘my school’ who said she’d deal with it. Miraculously, over the next couple of weeks the doors were unlocked and she was not in the office as I walked passed. Result

Today was my last day as the school are moving back to their original premises after half term and I did something a little immature. In the foyer at the entrance is a photograph of all the school staff and their names, there was no-one around. Without thinking I got out my sharpie and drew a moustache and angry eyebrows on the picture of this person. Under her name I wrote ‘Miss Funsucker’. I did chuckle about it for the rest of the day but now I feel a bit bad and anxious I will get into trouble- it wouldn’t take Sherlock Holmes to work out it was me 😬

should I do nothing or should I do something - if so what? I know it’s a long shot but has anyone else done this?

Ahhhh. We have 1,850 teenagers, so it's essential!

I don’t mean to be a “funsucker” here, but you don’t know this woman. You don’t know what she’s going through and that may make her seem grumpier than you’d like her to be. You don’t seem all that lovely to be around in either case.

Definitely needed in secondary school, especially that size!

I’ve already explained this several times. It wasn’t premeditated or planned. I hadn’t given this person or situation a second thought. I was presented with an opportunity as I was exiting after completion of my work. I hadn’t actually noticed the pictures before, there was no one around and I saw her face and temptation got the better of me.

I had / have no interest in ‘getting back’. The issue had been dealt with, I moved on.

I believe a funsucker is an apt description of someone who has no fun and tries to stop others from having fun. Feelings which go with fun are happiness and joy. Said person had the opposite effect of those around so I feel the name was appropriate.

I gave a detailed and accurate account to the head and it was dealt with straight away

This is why I love the construction industry, where we traditionally say (and draw) exactly what we think...
well many years ago when I was heavily and noticeably pregnant I walked past a building site and got a whole load of wolf whistles. now that's my type of humour. i thought it hilarious.

No, same here. Plus I'm too used to disciplining teenagers for defacing, vandalism and graffiti. I really don't find it funny.

Yep. Lads will be lads. It’s just bants!!

Works both ways. She has no idea what I may be going through either and felt it was ok to be rude, unhelpful and make me late each visit adding to my stress. I am lovely and kind and empathetic, but don’t tolerate shitty behaviour

To be fair you haven’t seen the picture

I was meaning more internally between colleagues... internal roasting of colleagues in good humour can be a real stress reliever (and sometimes help with otherwise difficult conversations), misogynistic abuse to unwitting members of the public not so much. There will be no wolf whistling or shirtless bullshit on my watch...

Ah I see what you’re doing here.

'I don't tolerate shitty behaviour'. Oh the irony!

No irony, just standards. Also context is important. It’s ok, a lot of people don’t seem to understand context

Given OP's sense of humour I wouldn't say she is strong on irony.

Interesting, quite a blind spot.

I’m actually quite surprised by the strength of the reaction against the OP. Yes, what she did was immature and unprofessional, a lot of people are completely overlooking the extent of the provocation.
This woman has apparently spent nine months being consistently rude, obstructive and unpleasant to someone who has to visit the school as part of her job! Deliberately keeping her waiting, wasting time, failing to pass on messages, hiding, making a performance out of having to let her in and out of the building! That’s not just someone having the occasional off day! It’s completely outside what should be considered socially acceptable in a professional environment! The OP’s response was childish but it was also a fairly harmless bit of petty retaliation in comparison. I find it quite extraordinary that people are treating drawing a moustache and silly name on a photograph as though it’s some appalling act of professional misconduct while seemingly having very little to say about the behaviour that led to it.

I have no desire to. I am familiar with the activity though:
"Izzy, why did you draw that horrible picture of Molly on the toilet wall, she was very upset?"
"Cos she annoyed me and she is a bitch innit"
Oh yes, all too familiar.

Thank you. At last someone who understands context

Of course, there is also the consideration that this is very identifiable to anybody with even a minor level of competency with google. And the OP's name is interesting in this respect as it could be deliberately chosen.

So, are you using the name of a real person in order to get her fired or disciplined for breaching the staff code of conduct, to identify her as the subject of your ire, to deflect away from your own name being similar, or what?

I do wonder what the Music service would think of somebody targeting a person to this degree.

Completely untrue

whats the music service got to do with anything?

That is because this is an adult in her place of work.
The miscreant was dealt with.
This was a nasty, petulant and base response which was not only unnecessary, but foolish.
That's the context.

Attention.

God no I hate attention

It was immature and childish. Keep up the good work.

Thank you 🙏