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Adults at petting zoos/farms/kids days out

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ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 12:42

Has anyone else noticed a massive uptick in grown adults (many in late teens and 20s) going on days out aimed at kids/young families? I’m finding it increasingly irritating - small children having to queue behind grown adults to stroke rabbits or see tanks of fish.

(Exception where there is clearly a disability at play)

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XenoBitch · 19/10/2026 18:18

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:17

I take it you haven’t seen the adult babies 😬 a very unsettling group of people.

That is a fetish. Totally different to your OP.

NCOneDayOnly · 19/10/2026 18:19

XenoBitch · 19/10/2026 18:18

That is a fetish. Totally different to your OP.

I was about to say… questionable kinks aside! And, yeah, I judge those fucking weirdos HARD.

RedBullAndYop · 19/10/2026 18:20

I sort of understand where the OP is coming from where opportunities to interact with the animals are limited. We went to a local farm last year where you could watch the lambs being bottle fed and the first 10 of so people in the queue could also have a turn feeding the animals. My DC didn’t want to feed them so we turned up last minute but I was really surprised that it was mostly childfree adults that did the feeding, I was watching my DC do another activity and could see the adults started queuing about an hour before the start of the feeding to ensure they got a turn. I admit I did think this was a bit sad but on the other hand I have no enjoyment of farms, the smell of them in particular and wouldn’t go to them if I didn’t have DC.

XenoBitch · 19/10/2026 18:20

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:07

I don’t care what people do but I find grown adults rushing to queue to hold hamsters so little kids get less time to do it, sad and a bit selfish 🤷‍♀️ the fact this view has caused such massive uproar is hilarious

I call bullshit.
No petting zoo would be getting a hamster out for a load of sticky fingered kids to paw at. Hamsters are nocturnal. No establishment that looks after animals would be doing that if they are meeting the needs of the animals in their care.

If you want your kids to stroke a hamster, then buy them one.

Newname26 · 19/10/2026 18:20

There was definitely a time when I wouldn't tell anyone about my Lego. 20-30 years ago in my 20s and 30s I just wouldn't tell people. The 18+ sets in the last few years has changed that and made Lego a socially acceptable adult hobby.

If that has also spilled over on to trains then great.

5128gap · 19/10/2026 18:21

Purplebunnie · 19/10/2026 18:01

@sittingonabeach only wish I'd found the Swannery earlier in life, it was a wonderful day out if a trifle smelly😂I plan to return

@5128gap I was thinking more that one in Wales which is extremely long. If the sports massage that I've had has done the trick I may attempt one in a playground but at the moment I feel a bit ... delicate shall we say

Edited to hopefully make sense

Edited

I'm not that brave unfortunately, the playground was my limit. Surprisingly speedy I found.

moderndilemma · 19/10/2026 18:21

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 12:58

They should queue… behind other kids

No adults did this when I was younger. They watched, like adults should!

"They watched, like adults should". Who said these were the rules? Are you in charge of the world? @ExtraHotDoubleShot that would be sad world indeed!

You've called people sad, and silly, and described them as having 'issues'.

Yes - their issues are that they have empathy, feelings of warmth and like to express them, acknowledge their own innate needs to connect with life and nature, enjoy a chance they might never have had as a child to feel the feathery down of a duckling or the ticklish nibbling of a goats mouth (and the nip if you let it!).

There are people who grew up too early with the responsibility for always letting younger siblings be at the front and have their turn - not people living in abuse, just in normal families. There are people for whom childish joy was lost too early. They don't have 'issues' they simply didn't have the opportunities that others had.

On a personal basis there is small thrill that I get from interacting with nature, including animals. I love seeing my dgc have that experience but it doesn't lessen what I might also feel. I can observe dgc experiencing something but the giggle of doing it myself is also joy - and we should all have a joyous day out together. Of course if there were 3 or 4 or 5 children fretting a queue behind me, I'd most likely let them go before me, but I'm not going to stand back and let every child in the park go ahead - eventually I do want the experience for myself.

@ExtraHotDoubleShot I don't know whether your were the most fortunate child who lived with pets, had young animals (chicks, kittens, foals) nearby and therefore you cannot empathise with any current adult who didn't experience any of these, and might crave the once-in-a-lifetime experience; or whether you were a child who learnt that you stand back, let others have their turn first, whether you learnt that once you grew out of being the age of a child it wasn't OK to enjoy or prioritise childish things for yourself.

Newname26 · 19/10/2026 18:24

XenoBitch · 19/10/2026 18:20

I call bullshit.
No petting zoo would be getting a hamster out for a load of sticky fingered kids to paw at. Hamsters are nocturnal. No establishment that looks after animals would be doing that if they are meeting the needs of the animals in their care.

If you want your kids to stroke a hamster, then buy them one.

Now that i think about it ive never seen a hamster at a petting zoo, its normally guinea pigs & rabbits.

MyLimeGuide · 19/10/2026 18:24

Kids normally need adults to attend such events with them.

ilovesooty · 19/10/2026 18:24

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:17

I take it you haven’t seen the adult babies 😬 a very unsettling group of people.

What have they got to do with petting farms?

Timeforachange26 · 19/10/2026 18:25

Newname26 · 19/10/2026 18:24

Now that i think about it ive never seen a hamster at a petting zoo, its normally guinea pigs & rabbits.

Vicious little things hamsters.

Shoobadadoo · 19/10/2026 18:25

Yeah I was at chessington world of adventure and loads of 25 yos on all the toddler rides and we were in the queue just watching them. Pointless

XenoBitch · 19/10/2026 18:26

Timeforachange26 · 19/10/2026 18:25

Vicious little things hamsters.

My sister used to have one that growled. It was so cute.

strictlybusinessuntildecember · 19/10/2026 18:28

I admit I find it a bit cringe but people aren’t having kids these days so

MyLimeGuide · 19/10/2026 18:29

Shoobadadoo · 19/10/2026 18:25

Yeah I was at chessington world of adventure and loads of 25 yos on all the toddler rides and we were in the queue just watching them. Pointless

😂 LOADS of 25 year olds on the toddler rides! Really??!!

Couchdweller · 19/10/2026 18:35

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 12:59

I mean when there’s limited spaces as part of an activity, it’s a bit sad and selfish for an adult to take a place when a kid is waiting

What's sad is that your DC will probably grow up to be as entitled as you are. Don't worry about what others do. It really has nothing to do with you.

Salmonoftheseas · 19/10/2026 18:35

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 12:54

I didn’t get the opportunity to go on the teacup rides, doesn’t mean I’m going to do it at 35!

I feel so much pity for you.

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:37

Shoobadadoo · 19/10/2026 18:25

Yeah I was at chessington world of adventure and loads of 25 yos on all the toddler rides and we were in the queue just watching them. Pointless

Sad!

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AppleDumplingWithCustard · 19/10/2026 18:37

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 12:55

Because it encourages them to infantilise themselves. We’re adults for gods sake 😂

You just sound like a misery. Take the stick out of your arse and try having some fun.

Badlands1 · 19/10/2026 18:38

If I was on a first date and some bloke said let's go to a petting zoo that would be a red flag like no other!
I also thought immediately thought of the Alan Partridge at the owl sanctuary.
Overall I do sort of agree with the OP unfashionable opinion that it appears to be although each to their own etc but not for me.
That said I was pissed off when I took my kids to a disney musical and 2 women in front turned round and said ' I can't believe they let children into this!'. The kids were starstruck all the way through and didnt make a noise unlike the two middleaged women singing tunelessly along.

5foot5 · 19/10/2026 18:39

sittingonabeach · 19/10/2026 17:59

Escape rooms for us are great multi generational thing to do, older DC, us and GPs

Same here really though it's usually just DH and I plus our adult DD

ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:39

RedBullAndYop · 19/10/2026 18:20

I sort of understand where the OP is coming from where opportunities to interact with the animals are limited. We went to a local farm last year where you could watch the lambs being bottle fed and the first 10 of so people in the queue could also have a turn feeding the animals. My DC didn’t want to feed them so we turned up last minute but I was really surprised that it was mostly childfree adults that did the feeding, I was watching my DC do another activity and could see the adults started queuing about an hour before the start of the feeding to ensure they got a turn. I admit I did think this was a bit sad but on the other hand I have no enjoyment of farms, the smell of them in particular and wouldn’t go to them if I didn’t have DC.

Yep! Sorry I just find it gross. Imagine queuing for an hour to make sure you get a turn over a child.

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ExtraHotDoubleShot · 19/10/2026 18:40

Badlands1 · 19/10/2026 18:38

If I was on a first date and some bloke said let's go to a petting zoo that would be a red flag like no other!
I also thought immediately thought of the Alan Partridge at the owl sanctuary.
Overall I do sort of agree with the OP unfashionable opinion that it appears to be although each to their own etc but not for me.
That said I was pissed off when I took my kids to a disney musical and 2 women in front turned round and said ' I can't believe they let children into this!'. The kids were starstruck all the way through and didnt make a noise unlike the two middleaged women singing tunelessly along.

I love that episode 😂 this thread is like a Partridge phone in at North Norfolk Digital - all kinds of nuts! DH is loving it

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FloorToCeilingWindow · 19/10/2026 18:45

RedBullAndYop · 19/10/2026 18:20

I sort of understand where the OP is coming from where opportunities to interact with the animals are limited. We went to a local farm last year where you could watch the lambs being bottle fed and the first 10 of so people in the queue could also have a turn feeding the animals. My DC didn’t want to feed them so we turned up last minute but I was really surprised that it was mostly childfree adults that did the feeding, I was watching my DC do another activity and could see the adults started queuing about an hour before the start of the feeding to ensure they got a turn. I admit I did think this was a bit sad but on the other hand I have no enjoyment of farms, the smell of them in particular and wouldn’t go to them if I didn’t have DC.

Why do you think feeding animals is only acceptable for children to take part in? Why is “sad” if adults like animals and want to interact with them?

Please can you explain your reasons. Because I’m fucking baffled here.

CanYouComeUp · 19/10/2026 18:53

I found having to queue with my 6 year old for teacup rides and similar at Disney behind adult only participants utterly bizarre

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