Noisy hotel sex. Why?

[Tiredthismorning]

Why do people have such noisy sex in hotels? I have just got home from a wedding yesterday, after which I stayed in a hotel. The couple in the next room had vocal sex at 2am and again at 8am. Proper shrieks and moans and grunts and words that I could hear through the wall from both of them, for a good half an hour both times.

Have your fun by all means. But why make so much noise?? I know hotel rooms are private but hotels aren't, especially not in the middle of the night.

AIBU to think it's no less selfish (and quite a bit more unreasonable) than keeping other guests up with music or any other noise. It's not the first time I've been kept awake like this.

I don't agree with them either. And I'm not engaging with them any more.

I’m in the “it’s rude and inappropriate” camp I’m afraid. I went away to a hotel for a mini break last February and there was a woman there with her partner. She screamed the place down. Multiple times.

Everyone could hear. It really was unnecessary and inconsiderate. No-one wants to hear sex shrieks whilst trying to relax and enjoy the hotel in their own way. And also slightly disheartened at the way people just have no consideration for others these days judging by the “I don’t care, I’ve paid for the room” trope on here. Newsflash - we all have to be considerate to others, and it’s lazy to assume otherwise.

Well exactly. Its not the fact they're having sex, its the fact that they're making a fuck ton of noise at 2am. You dont have a right to disturb people's sleep just because you havent shagged properly in a while

We all know couples have sex, but if your going to do it at 2am with people trying to sleep around do it quietly.

@HowNowBrownCow33
"But having had sex with plenty a man, I know for certain that jackhammering for 30 minutes does not feel that good, and if it did we wouldnt be going at it for 30 minutes. Theres no better marker of shite sex than performative screaming"

Completely agree. The only-one-setting jackhammer guys are shit, and they need the screeming bc they wouldn't have a clue what a woman who's actually enjoying herself looks like. It's the same guys who think fingering is just jamming a couple of fingers in and out for a bit. Ugh, I'm getting cystitis just thinking about it 😖

I'm sorry! I know I shouldn't laugh, but .... 😂

Ask me how i know about shit sex 🤣

This!

You can have noisey sex in your own home, after all it's your home.

You just choose not to.

People with kids can't. Not that I see that as an excuse to be noisy in hotels instead. It's one of those things you just have to compromise on if you decide to have children imo.

Not if you have neighbours you can't. Having noisy sex when you have people next door is just rude, and inconsiderate, and performative, and attention-seeking.

“Pound me harder Timothy, Ahhhhhhh oooo ahhhh!” Whilst Timmy junior is the other side of the wall is definitely not going to cause long lasting MH issues.

this will always make me think of MJF in The Secret of My Success

Courtesy isn't jealousy. People pay for a restful room, not front-row tickets to your personal life or a cloud of secondhand smoke. Shared spaces require basic respect.

A hotel room isn’t a shared space.

Horrible people basically then. People cheating.

You sound like a complete idiot
Do you understand ????

So you don’t want your children to hear it but if other kids do and people have an issue with it they’re prided and tough shit? What a horrible attitude

Of course it is. The hotel room is part of a hotel shared by others. There is no excuse for making a noise that disturbs other guests.

There are some really selfish and frankly stupid posts on here.

Did you mean to be so rude? What part of the point I was making did you struggle with, because I was correct about everything.

People should be respectful of others when it comes to noise. That includes loud music, talking/shouting, sex and general banging about.

Having been on MN for a while I can now see how there's so many "I'm alright jack, do as I say not as I do, pull the ladder up" type people there are out there.

Happy to force their ways onto others children but good god never their own.

Just want you all to know that I am having amazing noisy sex right this very second.

YYYYYEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!!! I HOPE YOU CAN HEAR ME MRS ROBINSON!!

Friends of mine had really noisy sex in a tent at Glastonbury one year... they knew everyone could hear. I think it's a thing.

You are completely missing the point in order to seem cool about having sex. No one cares that your shagging, we care that your keeping us awake.

Lots of animals have a "society", they have hierarchy, they have rules. Apes have rules they follow around mating, animals aren't all shagging each other with pleasurable abandon.

Its specifically keeping people awake