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"Nearly all women who try to reach UK in small boats are raped during their journey, Home Secretary says"

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supernaturalmilkshake · 07/10/2026 11:12

Well, this is absolutely sickening and terrifying. Those poor women and poor women and girls in the UK who will no doubt end up suffering too. Women's rights and safety seems to be the last thing that matters these days.

www.dailymail.com/news/article-16183281/Nearly-women-try-reach-UK-small-boats-raped-journey-home-secretary-says.html

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JHound · 07/10/2026 17:35

5MinuteArgument · 07/10/2026 17:20

When Britain was being bombed in WW2 people didn't flee. Children were evacuated to the countryside but adults stayed and fought or kept the war effort going from their home towns.

Men in Ukraine are fighting, they're not allowed to leave the country.

So I have little respect for military aged males who flee their country of origin for an easy life in the West.

The enemy Britain was fighting was not the British government.

I am sure a lot of anti-Nazi Germans did flee Germany.

Fwio · 07/10/2026 17:36

user1464187087 · 07/10/2026 17:29

I agree. I don't call them asylum seekers either. I use the phrase illegal immigrants. France is a safe country generally.
And the men are given leaflets telling them not to sexually assault or rape women here.
My goodness. Our forefathers would be bewildered.

Someone will point out "but British men are bad too. Here are the crimes they did".

But they don't seem to comprehend per capita and the fact we don't need to make the situation worse than it already is.

user1464187087 · 07/10/2026 17:38

ghostyslovesheets · 07/10/2026 14:26

You are confused, the people trafficking asylum seekers are organised criminals making a lot of money - I doubt they are seeking asylum

among those who are seeking asylum will be male and female victims of sexual assault

And some of the male illegal immigrants who have made it to the UK have raped and even murdered UK women.
I don't think any of us are confused about that, though thanks for collectively patronising us.

ImBeeZee · 07/10/2026 17:41

I still don’t understand why the rule isn’t applied - they can ONLY apply for asylum in the first safe country they reach. By the time they have got to France many of them have already applied and failed to get asylum in other countries. Or not bothered to apply because UK is a soft and more desirable target.

It is desperately sad but whilst our police, border services, courts and politicians are so incapable of enforcing effective asylum rules, whilst it’s so wide open to organised crime, we really have to make the country secure and shut down the routes that encourage this totally abhorrent traffic in vulnerable (and sometimes criminal/not vulnerable!) people.

If we can’t control it, we have to completely stop it.

user1464187087 · 07/10/2026 17:48

Summerhillsquare · 07/10/2026 16:18

The ignorance on here is astounding sometimes.

Visas are impossible to come by for ordinary people in developing countries who are being persecuted.

I do hope you never have to flee, we are so lucky in the UK. But can you tell me why you ignore the common human feelings of empathy or sympathy in understanding others people's motivations?

I think what annoys people is how many countries the illegal immigrants travel through before arriving in England.
I would flee to the nearest safe country. Would you not do that?

user1464187087 · 07/10/2026 17:58

Fwio · 07/10/2026 17:36

Someone will point out "but British men are bad too. Here are the crimes they did".

But they don't seem to comprehend per capita and the fact we don't need to make the situation worse than it already is.

I read a post earlier in the thread from someone who said that we don't need to make the situation worse just because some UK men are rapists. I don't know if this was you Fwio.
I totally agree though.

5MinuteArgument · 07/10/2026 19:13

ImBeeZee · 07/10/2026 17:41

I still don’t understand why the rule isn’t applied - they can ONLY apply for asylum in the first safe country they reach. By the time they have got to France many of them have already applied and failed to get asylum in other countries. Or not bothered to apply because UK is a soft and more desirable target.

It is desperately sad but whilst our police, border services, courts and politicians are so incapable of enforcing effective asylum rules, whilst it’s so wide open to organised crime, we really have to make the country secure and shut down the routes that encourage this totally abhorrent traffic in vulnerable (and sometimes criminal/not vulnerable!) people.

If we can’t control it, we have to completely stop it.

Yes, shut down the whole racket. We can't possibly accommodate all of those who want to flee their country of origin, not even close. We can help more people through our foreign aid budget. I'd be happy with that.

But importing military aged males into our country = hard no.

Accepting women from Afghanistan / Palestine on 'safe routes' won't wok either. There's not a chance in hell that they'd leave their sons behind, especially from countries that place such a high value on sons. If they're allowed to bring their families over (wait till the lawyers get to work on this), we could be talking about millions of people, like a giant chain migration. Recently a Palestinian woman won the right to bring 18 family members to the UK. No thank you.

Catterbat · 07/10/2026 19:24

moonraker0 · 07/10/2026 12:53

Another reason not to keep letting all of these unchecked, undocumented men into this country. And yes, I know rape happens here but it’s not a reason to keep importing more of it.

I wish people would stop churning out this absolute shite.

There’s no evidence whatsoever that asylum seekers are more likely to be rapists than our own homegrown blokes. They’re also just as likely to become decent law abiding tax paying citizens as our homegrown folk, just as likely to shop in Asda, to do charity work and learn to play the bloody trumpet!

Shall we stop importing potential trumpet players and lawyers as well?

5MinuteArgument · 07/10/2026 19:36

Catterbat · 07/10/2026 19:24

I wish people would stop churning out this absolute shite.

There’s no evidence whatsoever that asylum seekers are more likely to be rapists than our own homegrown blokes. They’re also just as likely to become decent law abiding tax paying citizens as our homegrown folk, just as likely to shop in Asda, to do charity work and learn to play the bloody trumpet!

Shall we stop importing potential trumpet players and lawyers as well?

Yes, absolutely stop importing potential trumpet players and lawyers (definitely lawyers).

This country doesn't need more people. We have a million NEETS, thousands of over 50s struggling to find work and we are one of the most nature depleted countries in the world.

SleeplessInWherever · 07/10/2026 19:48

5MinuteArgument · 07/10/2026 19:36

Yes, absolutely stop importing potential trumpet players and lawyers (definitely lawyers).

This country doesn't need more people. We have a million NEETS, thousands of over 50s struggling to find work and we are one of the most nature depleted countries in the world.

I always find that side of the argument very interesting.

I manage a recruitment business that specialises in education and & SENd support. Entry level roles paying £15 an hour. More for
experience/specific qualifications.

We advertise our vacancies to everyone, there’s no “must be a migrant,” the same terms and offers apply universally.

Workers from overseas origins apply at least ten times more than UK workers. At least. For some, we get close to 0 applicants from the UK and upwards of 50 for overseas staff.

They’re less likely to call in sick for a broken fingernail, they will travel wherever the work is, and they have every compliance document they need ready the very second you ask for it.

We have a work ethic problem, and until that’s resolved, many of our workplaces and sectors would be chronically understaffed.

Dibdibbob · 07/10/2026 20:06

DebbieSavage · 07/10/2026 16:55

Nearly all British women have too so there's no difference there. At least these men will want to come and make a better life for themselves so will be inclined to work hard and contribute in gratitude for their asylum.

Not sure if you’re being sarcastic or just incredibly naive?

Just because British men are a threat to women does not mean it’s ok to import more men who are a threat to women.

Many, many of these men come from places where FGM, child marriage, marital rape and honour killings are accepted. Women and girls are not worth the 💩 on their shoe. Why oh why do you think these ingrained cultural practices are suddenly going to be abandoned once they reach the UK?

Even so called moderate Muslims still believe in segregation of the sexes, that women and girls must be modest, that the male is the decision maker in the family etc.

I’ve said it many times - it’s not colour, it’s culture. That’s the problem.

Thirstysue · 07/10/2026 20:10

I work in a school next to an AS/refugee hotel. And yes, anecdotally, I would say that's correct. Some raped in every country they've travelled through, some from Iran via seven other counties over two years. Their children have more often than not also witnessed the abuse.

Lugol · 07/10/2026 20:19

ghostyslovesheets · 07/10/2026 12:50

Because it’s organised criminal gangs people trafficking that refugees rely on to escape - there are no safe routes

These are NOT refugees. Anyone who thinks they are should get themselves over to Sangatte, they'd learn a lot.

Yetanotherone12 · 07/10/2026 20:24

5MinuteArgument · 07/10/2026 17:20

When Britain was being bombed in WW2 people didn't flee. Children were evacuated to the countryside but adults stayed and fought or kept the war effort going from their home towns.

Men in Ukraine are fighting, they're not allowed to leave the country.

So I have little respect for military aged males who flee their country of origin for an easy life in the West.

So if a man is gay in a country where homosexuality is illegal, he should stay and what?

fight what? What war? Why is military age relevant?

what about the Afghanistani’s who fought for the west, interpreted for us, interrogated for us, joined our side, and are now at risk from their own government for being traitors?

sons and their families of deposed regimes, who are seeing their friends and relatives “disappeared” and know they will likely be next.

none of these people can apply for a visa and hop on a plane, as that will sign their death sentence.

everyone talks about “military age males” .Some are seeking safety.

what I do agree with is we should massively speed up the processing of asylum claims and deport those not genuine, and get the genuine cases assimilated.

in ww2 where would people flee too? The whole of Europe was at war. You can bet though if we outlawed homosexuality with a penalty of death people would leave.

Yetanotherone12 · 07/10/2026 20:30

user1464187087 · 07/10/2026 17:48

I think what annoys people is how many countries the illegal immigrants travel through before arriving in England.
I would flee to the nearest safe country. Would you not do that?

Many reasons. If you look at the stats a very small percentage actually continue here, the vast majority do stop.

an afghani who worked with the British army and is now at risk from his government might come here because he believes we will support him in return, or he has a better chance of an successful claim. Or it may be as simple as a working knowledge of English rather than French means he can understand the process, sort the legal documents, and eventually work and live knowing the language.

Friendlygingercat · 07/10/2026 20:44

Perhaps if they stayed where they belong and did not criminally invade another country where they have contributed nothing then they would not get raped or molested.

Yetanotherone12 · 07/10/2026 20:46

Friendlygingercat · 07/10/2026 20:44

Perhaps if they stayed where they belong and did not criminally invade another country where they have contributed nothing then they would not get raped or molested.

And if Jane doe hadn’t gone to a frat party she wouldn’t have been gang raped.

bloody hell. The thought that anyone could somehow “deserve” a sexual assault.

Summerhillsquare · 08/10/2026 10:00

Paganpentacle · 07/10/2026 16:32

Can you tell me why in this financially fucked country that cannot house, feed, adequately care for or employ its own citizens should feel obliged to take in every single person who wants to come?

But it isn't - there are clear agreements internationally about how asylum works, and each country and sub rules below that.

And until our birth rate increases (not gonna happen) we can either take younger fitter people in or pay more taxes.

Decisions not to build housing, treat veterans badly, cut health care etc are taken by govt after general elections. people vote for tax cutting govts. There are always consequences down the line.

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:16

Catterbat · 07/10/2026 19:24

I wish people would stop churning out this absolute shite.

There’s no evidence whatsoever that asylum seekers are more likely to be rapists than our own homegrown blokes. They’re also just as likely to become decent law abiding tax paying citizens as our homegrown folk, just as likely to shop in Asda, to do charity work and learn to play the bloody trumpet!

Shall we stop importing potential trumpet players and lawyers as well?

If these illegal immigrants were likely to become lawyers or trumpet players, they would come here legally.
It's a worry for women that we have no idea who these men are. At least with british men we can do a Clare's law / Sarah's law request. We can't with illegal men. If you are that trustworthy, i'm worried on your behalf.

Ereshkigalangcleg · 08/10/2026 10:23

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:16

If these illegal immigrants were likely to become lawyers or trumpet players, they would come here legally.
It's a worry for women that we have no idea who these men are. At least with british men we can do a Clare's law / Sarah's law request. We can't with illegal men. If you are that trustworthy, i'm worried on your behalf.

I’m pretty sure there is evidence, as well, isn’t there? Aren’t Afghan and specific other nationalities’ men supposed to be overrepresented in sexual assault perpetrator figures? I’m not sure how reliable those figures are, but I think there has been an attempt to investigate, hasn’t there?

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:24

Yetanotherone12 · 07/10/2026 20:24

So if a man is gay in a country where homosexuality is illegal, he should stay and what?

fight what? What war? Why is military age relevant?

what about the Afghanistani’s who fought for the west, interpreted for us, interrogated for us, joined our side, and are now at risk from their own government for being traitors?

sons and their families of deposed regimes, who are seeing their friends and relatives “disappeared” and know they will likely be next.

none of these people can apply for a visa and hop on a plane, as that will sign their death sentence.

everyone talks about “military age males” .Some are seeking safety.

what I do agree with is we should massively speed up the processing of asylum claims and deport those not genuine, and get the genuine cases assimilated.

in ww2 where would people flee too? The whole of Europe was at war. You can bet though if we outlawed homosexuality with a penalty of death people would leave.

Ah yes, the new 'I am gay so cannot be deported'.

Mirrio · 08/10/2026 10:28

moonraker0 · 07/10/2026 12:53

Another reason not to keep letting all of these unchecked, undocumented men into this country. And yes, I know rape happens here but it’s not a reason to keep importing more of it.

Totally agree with you.

We have more than enough of our own problematic disturbed men.

Why the F do we need more problematic men who come from a culture where women are considered inferior? Absolutely recipe for disaster. This and previous governments should hang their heads in absolute shame for what they have done to this country and it's citizens.

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:28

Summerhillsquare · 08/10/2026 10:00

But it isn't - there are clear agreements internationally about how asylum works, and each country and sub rules below that.

And until our birth rate increases (not gonna happen) we can either take younger fitter people in or pay more taxes.

Decisions not to build housing, treat veterans badly, cut health care etc are taken by govt after general elections. people vote for tax cutting govts. There are always consequences down the line.

Edited

The fact that the illegal immigrants have already commited a crime by coming here doesn't fill me with hope that they will be law abiding citizens. Maybe a mad view, but there we go!

CalamityJane81 · 08/10/2026 10:31

SixAndJuliet · 07/10/2026 14:43

Such a goady headline that appears to be having its desired effect.

Very deliberately gives the impression that the rapists are on the boats with them and washing up on British shores. In reality the rape and abuse has most likely occurred in other countries along their route probably by the criminals trafficking and exploiting them way before they get on the boat.

Far more satisfying to interpret it the way you want to isn’t it Daily Mail readers?

To be fair I thought that’s what it meant. Should read the whole article but it’s all very depressing so I admit I haven’t.

Yetanotherone12 · 08/10/2026 10:31

user1464187087 · 08/10/2026 10:16

If these illegal immigrants were likely to become lawyers or trumpet players, they would come here legally.
It's a worry for women that we have no idea who these men are. At least with british men we can do a Clare's law / Sarah's law request. We can't with illegal men. If you are that trustworthy, i'm worried on your behalf.

They are coming here legally.

an asylum claim means they are here legally.

if you are in a situation in your home country because your life is in danger- let’s use my earlier example of an Afghani interpreter for the British army, now on “a list” with the afghani government and watching his colleagues “disappear”.

it takes fucking years to apply for residency in the uk. Lots of paperwork, minimum income or sponsorship etc. plus the minute you submit visa paperwork it flags to your government and chance are you’ll disappear before you reach the airport.

it is “safer”, relatively speaking, to just get yourself out any way you can, risk rape, dangerous journeys, traffickers to get to the uk and lodge and asylum claim. This is just as legal as remaining in Afghanistan and applying for your visa. And less likely to get yourself executed.

there’s one of those “999” episodes somewhere I suggest you watch. The police find an Iraqi (I think) man and his family with CO poisoning in the back of a lorry. His dad was a ranking politician in the previous regime, most of his colleagues and their families were taken one by one. He made the decision to leave before he was next.

genuine asylum seekers don’t just leave because they feel like a change or think they will have an easy life. Their lives are under threat.

and again, and asylum claim is “legal” immigration.

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