AIBU to think a couple moving into in a five bedroom house is selfish?

[activedough]

AIBU here??

I’ve noticed that a couple have recently moved into a 5 bed detached property in my area. They don’t have any children…

I honestly don’t understand it. Why on earth would two people need five bedrooms?! Surely a house that size should be going to a family who actually needs the space?

It just seems incredibly selfish to me when there are families struggling to find suitable homes.

You sound consumed by jealousy and bitterness that they can afford something better than what you have.

I think you'd not BU if it was a couple moving into a council/HA place....but I doubt that would ever happen.

If it is a couple who are buying or private renting a house that size, then they can surely buy/rent whatever size house they want? Hell, I'm a single mum with two kids. I'll never be able to buy even the place I live in now. If I won the lottery, there's a beautiful house that I'd buy - has more bedrooms than we need, but I love the layout, the space and the land it's on. And it would allow me to have family and friends stay over in a way that is pretty difficult now (we live in a very small 3 bed house: one WC/bathroom, one small kitchen, small living room, 2 of the bedrooms are box rooms, no hallways or places to store shoes/coats). Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful every day that I can afford to rent the house I'm in now, but some extra rooms would be amazing!

YABVU.

A family with 4 kids could’ve bought this but they didn’t! It wasn’t a secret sale, any size family could’ve bought it, but they didn’t.

Also, all larger families can’t afford to just buy a large 5 bed detached property you know. The seller might not have had much interest, and this couple were the only ones who put in an offer

You do realise that house are not allocated to people in the UK if they’re not council houses? People can buy whatever house they want and it’s none of your business unless they gazumped you personally?

But the couple the OP is talking about are in their late 20s so not “the older generation” and surely with them buying this big expensive 5 bed rather than a smaller less expensive house this gives the other younger people with less money more chance of buying something they can afford…

I live in a four bed alone - what do you think of me and where should I live?

If it's a cooncil hoose, then 😮
If not, it's none of your beeswax

Why is this anything to do with you? Did this couple trample all over a lovely family with kids in their way into the house?!

Quite, and non of them anyone's business except their own.

You’re entitled to your own opinion and others are entitled to disagree.

Me and OH retired and moved from a 4 bed house to a 5 bed house (different part of the country). We have a bedroom each, I have a sewing room/spare room for guests, we have a music room and a study (we both work remotely very part time). I love it and appreciate we are very very fortunate.

OP, clearly you want to condemn couples to living in a small house or flat where they are never able to entertain friends and family. I live in the family house I had when all my DC lived at home - as none of them now live near me, when they visit, I need to have room for them and the DGC to sleep over. Or are you suggesting that once my DC have left home, I should be compelled to live somewhere tiny and never see them? The couple you are so upset about you describe as “in their late twenties” - does it not seem likely that they will soon be having a family? Or are you suggesting they should move house each time they have a new DC so as never to be under-occupying a property? How expensive would that be simply in terms of stamp duty and moving costs? Your post could not be more unreasonable.

Kindly, stop being a busybody. It is none of yours or anybody else’s business.

Generally, it’s quite helpful to read everything op posts, before forming an opinion. Knowledge is power and all that…
That said you sound slightly….unhinged. You’ve zero idea why anyone spends their money. Your rattling on about “snooty and snobby” is nonsensical. You genuinely believe people make the biggest purchase of their lives based solely on what other people think?

And, even if they did do it to be “snobby” what is that to do with you? They can afford it and pay the vast amounts of tax required to purchase it. End of conversation.

We have one child and plan to buy a 4/5 bed. We both WFH and are hoping for an annexe we can rent out and have family to stay in.

WFH supports an excellent life balance for our son, the annexe will support us financially and pay tax, and guests will spend money in the local area too, which depends on tourism, whilst also being a family home, with my son maybe working holiday industry jobs in the future.

We could buy a 3 bed and keep all the money for foreign holidays and private pensions if you prefer though, OP, do let us know.

Perhaps they aspire to have 3-4 children, or sleep in separate bedrooms and need the extra ones for offices or future DC.

I have seen a house (in need of serious work) with five bedrooms. Due to its magnificent location, I would move there (on my own) immediately if I could afford it!

My parents bought a 5 bed house. They wanted the space downstairs and rooms for family to stay - brother visits every year from Canada and we stay with them/my dc stay with them every summer holiday. We have a 4 bed home and I’ve no plans to move when dc leave home.

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Sorry, quoted in error, this is meant for the OP.

@activedough So are you saying you want to buy a five bed house but can’t because they’re all being snapped up by people who don’t need five bedrooms?

If not, you are being unreasonable and illogical. Would you prefer them to buy up all the two/three bed houses instead? Surely most young couples are not looking for five bed houses?

This is absolutely none of your business. You say they are in their late twenties, they may be hoping to be the new 20 kids and counting family, or they may love socialising and want to hold loads of house parties, their money, their life choices. How many bedrooms do you have, and how many children?

Maybe they'll use it to run Swingers Parties...or rent rooms to Ladies of the Night?

IMO it is greedy and selfish to live in a house that is larger than you need.

IT creates a demand for large properties where 2 or 3 smaller houses that could house normal families.

This does seem to be the case. The big houses are harder to sell than two or three beds where I am. I think I will have to wait a long time before mine sells and I sometimes wish we’d gone smaller. Twenty plus year’s ago though I would have said bigger houses got snapped up.

OP

Why not keep your bloody ignorant comments to yourself??????

People who think they can dictate what size house households need without looking at their lifestyle and hobbies piss me right off.

Another thing - grow up