AIBU to think a couple moving into in a five bedroom house is selfish?

[activedough]

AIBU here??

I’ve noticed that a couple have recently moved into a 5 bed detached property in my area. They don’t have any children…

I honestly don’t understand it. Why on earth would two people need five bedrooms?! Surely a house that size should be going to a family who actually needs the space?

It just seems incredibly selfish to me when there are families struggling to find suitable homes.

Five bedrooms five reception rooms here. No kids and there won’t be kids. No rattling around here except for one room which we can’t seem to figure out. Currently a gym/disorganised utility room extension. As for whether or not it’s fair, reckon the previous owner received our offer decided it was good enough and chose not to scour the market for large families who could afford the house instead of us. We considered offering to buy it for a large family that couldn’t afford it but the bank wouldn’t agree the mortgage on that basis - what is the world coming to…

8 bedrooms?

So it’s not selfish or wasteful for you to have a larger house than the number of people in your family because you need to use one of those bedrooms for something else but you can’t understand how anyone who isn’t you would want or need another bedroom?

It’s just you that’s not selfish and wasteful. Everyone else who has other reasons for having bigger homes is selfish and wasteful.

We don’t. 4 people and a dog, 4 bedrooms, one doubling as an office for both of us.

Whereas those with a full brain realise you've drawn a virtue line to neatly incorporate your own wants as acceptable needs, and anything beyond that as an indulgence to be judged.

What’s bat shit is your lack of nuance and your faux lack of understanding.

Two 4 bed houses in our small rd were bought in the last 2 years by retired couples. I don't know what they use their 4 bedrooms for but it's really nobody's business but theirs. My parents have a 4 bed too, one room is a sewing room, one's a grandchildren bedroom, one's a spare room for friends/adult family.

Perhaps they intend to have kids. Perhaps they both need a home office. Perhaps they have family coming to stay a lot. Perhaps they want a craft room, a sex dungeon and a cinema. It’s none of your business.

I don’t have anything beyond my needs. Each bedroom is occupied. One doubles as a home office for 2 people. Each room is inhabited. Pretending this is the same as a couple rattling about in a 6 bedroom house shows a massive lack of critical thinking ability.

This is the most unreasonable post I have seen in a long while. You unfortunately sound jealous OP.

Whether they go on to have a family or not it is absolutely no one else’s business but their own.

Wow. So they're prime child bearing age. Maybe they're planning a family? Maybe they love throwing parties and have rooms for people to stay over. Maybe they're into the swinging scene and have regular parties a need a good number of bedrooms.

You sound jealous that they can afford a house that they wanted. Funny thing about the house market - it doesn't consider who "needs" the property more. It considers who can pay what the seller wants.

6 bedroom house now? Make your mind up.

There are large 4 and 5 bedroom new homes at the end of our estate. Most of the people in them are retired couples, in their 60's, 70's and 80's. Also someone lives in one alone. These homes are only a couple of years old so these people were mostly retired when they bought them. I know who lives in them as we are in a neighbourhood Whatsapp and I walk past these homes twice a day.

I guess it's up to them, it's their money though I do feel many people as they get older look for smaller homes and less maintenance.

Your strawman house gets an extra bedroom with each iteration.

As an aside, I'm sure a very spacious home would lend itself more to wafting and gliding, than rattling.

If this is true, you really are an envious horror. Wind yer neck in.

Nuance? WHAT nuance? And my lack of understand isn’t “faux”. I do not understand why you think you genuinely “needed” two children or a four bed house, but you lack the understanding that other people might feel they need different things?

So childfree people arent allowed to upsize?

Dual income, no kids, they can afford a nice 5 bedroom house for their massive collection of LEGO and grand piano/games room.

Keep your nosey beak out.

Their money, their choice and you just sound bitter or jealous.

Possibly why they bought brand new then.
A smaller 2 hed bungalow may be 50+ years old and a titache for maintenance.

People on here are always so critical of families who are overcrowded for failing to plan.
Oh look a couple in their twenties has bought a big house and may well be planning to fill it with children.... are we meant to criticise them too?

Our neighbours were childfree when they moved into the 5 bed next door. 4 years later they have 2 under 3, he works from home and they have a spare bedroom for guests. Ping, all 5 bedrooms accounted for.

Well we can sit here and whittle it all down until everything apart from drawing breath and eating becomes ‘unnecessary’ but what I mean is very clear, I think a 10 year old would be able to grasp it. I’m sure you judge people who take short private jet journeys, but I could say but you don’t NEED to fly whatsoever? There’s clearly a distinction between the two.

I mean, you’re the one not understanding that people utilise space differently and that their way is as equally valid as yours.
Every room in my house is used on a daily basis, just like your house. Using a room to work in 8 hours a day is just as valid as using a room to sleep in for 8 hours a night.

U so jell

What the fuck has it got to do with you?

@activedough I have to assume that you are absolutely furious about all the tax relief properties hoarded by foreign nationals that are left empty?
Oh and Buckingham Palace. Far more beds than people using them in that place.

You can't really dictate this as people buy what they want within their means and people's circumstances change all the time.

I live in a road of 5-bedroom houses and half of them are lived in by couples or even individuals mainly older, one is even over 100! But the thing is many have been here for 30-50 years and have had children who have left home. The government has made downsizing or moving of any sort very expensive with stamp duty. The couple next door are younger and bought in their early 30s 5 years ago. They already have baby number 3 on the way so clearly that was always their plan.

@activedough you don't know the plans of the couple but with private housing people do as they please and you can't regulate that.