To be annoyed by this?

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On holiday at a holiday park with evening entertainment, the entertainment staff tried to get me on stage as they had randomly decided to pick me, I said no, they kept on and on before telling my daughter to get me or I obviously didn’t love her.
I made it clear I did not want to go on stage and then he asked my daughter my name before getting the audience to chant my name to go.
This is kids entertainment and although the children were asked to grab a parent, many didn’t and I really didn’t like the humiliation.

She says she takes part when she can.

She could, so what stopped her?

Can you tell us where you DO go, so I can avoid it and you?

Absolutely embarrassing for older children but primary school children love it.

Take part in school activities yes, on stage performance, not so much.

No it's not.
The OP didn't want to perform. The entertainers should have moved on to someone else.

@Swanned

She didn't want to. Doesn't matter if it's a cup of tea, a walk in the park or a biscuit. She said no. No means no.

Do you not understand the word "no"?

Jesus, leave her alone! She doesn't have to get up on stage if she doesn't want to.

You’re not a spoilsport. You didn’t give in and do something you didn’t want to do because of peer pressure. You should be proud and your daughter should be proud of you too.

That's bloody shocking. A female kids entertainer pestered me during the summer in Spain.
No, means no.

I would have absolutely hated this

Try not to be so childish.

Nothing childish about wanting to avoid twats 🤷‍♀️

Oh OP, if you go to those places then you have to be prepared. If you won't do the stupid stage performance then you have to accept the fallout. How can you not know the rules? 🤣

Sit at the back and if they seem to be looking at you then go to the toilet.

Perhaps avoid Mumsnet then if you think women are twats.

Bloody hell were you the one badgering her to go onstage?

It's ok to ask or suggest, but at the first sign of "no", they should move on.

They were very rude and inappropriate, there are plenty of reasons why you would refuse, none of their business, and because you don't want to is enough anyway

I never did the parents' race at school sports day. Many others didn't either.

Our children don't seem to have suffered for it and I don't give a shit if anyone else thinks I am a spoilsport.

OP, I hope you walked out. Complain about this, both verbally to the management and in writing. It was bullying, and it was totally unacceptable that this arse used your child to get at you.

That's awful, OP. I think I'd have walked out when they didn't accept my initial refusal.

she didn’t want to. End of.

This is why I refuse to go anywhere with enforced jolliness. I’m amazed that this is still a thing. The entertainment staff have no idea if the person they are picking on has hidden disabilities that prevent them from joining in.

Sure. Sandals Barbados.

I bet if the OP said that she went on stage even though she really didn’t want to and felt stupid at the things she had to get involved in everyone would be saying
“ why didn’t you put your big girl pants on”
”why didn’t you use your words and say no”
”no is a complete sentence “
and any if the other MN phrases
she didnt want to participate
end of

No means no.

No way in hell I would go up on a stage, if you enjoy it, by all means carry on. If someone says no, move the fuck on and don't be a dick.

Christ that reads as though it was pontins/Butlins in the 60s/70s
What a prick.