AIBU to think wearing shoes indoors is a bit odd?

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For thinking it’s weird to wear shoes inside the house?! Had a couple over last week for lunch and they never took shoes off- even if it’s not bad weather the bottom of shoes are filthy!! So would they go round their house all day in shoes? So weird to me!!
now I’m cleaning my floors as they are so dirty!

I know it's a contentious cultural/hygiene thing but you can't honestly think that they would walk around in their own house the way they walk around in yours. Imagine her walking into your house and ripping her bra off or him walking around yours in his boxers.

It’s awful manners to ask someone to take their shoes off in your home , your guests comfort should be paramount, unless of course your guests are wearing muddy and clearly dirty shoes.

in terms of class signalers, it’s very working class lower middle to want shoes off. Upper middle, middle middle etc wouldn’t dream of asking a guest to do so, complaining about “pavement dirt” and certainly wouldn’t go to someone’s home and put their sweaty bare feet or socks on their floors like they were in their own home.

My shoes don’t dig in. I don’t wear anything uncomfortable.

Shoes are solid when your slouched on the sofa how are they not digging into your bum or ankle or back of leg

Very easily. My shoes never go near my bottom and they’re soft enough not to dig into anything.

Better to have peoples sweaty socks seeping into your carpets, obviously.

Not really

Are your shoes fluffy

I find it incredibly rude not to offer to remove them; you're in somebody else house not your own so it is their rules. I think it is even worse if young children crawling around. If you see people in the house with no shoes you should go to remove yours, the host will say, "no it's okay keep them on" if they don't mind. It is quite hypocritical as most that don't remove their shoes in other people's homes don't wear any in their own homes, and also don't say, "Oh it's okay just keep them on", when you visit them.

I always tell my mum to keep hers on as she is disabled.

I don’t want to walk around someone’s house in my socks or bare feet. I might catch something!

i should add, i always ask if fhey wish them removed, unless say it’s a party at large house with hard floors and I can see other guests all have them on.

but it’s rude to say yes remove.

it really is working class, wish to be lower middle thing, my friends in this bucket are all take your shoes off, my friends and acquaintances in the upper middle bracket wouldn’t dream of if and have shoes on when you visit them, but don’t when they are just at home on their own.

I don't want to walk around after somebody has been to my home, and could have stepped in dog pee or anything, meaning I need to reclean my floors, when I have after already done them before they arrived. We had a chewing gum on shoes incident once which was disgusting!

Unless you eat off them, you don’t need to reclean your floors unless they’re visibly dirty.

I wouldn't want to go to a shoes on when you visit people for a cup of tea (when they don't usually wear them) house, as it sounds incredibly formal; unless of course it is a dressy up party.

I would as i don't walk around the garden in bare feet or socks. If you do and come back in, look at the bottom of your socks. You don't get that from your home floors.

I say it’s bad manners to not offer to take th off when you can clearly see it’s a no shoe household.

Someone said up thread that it’s working class trying to be more middle class to not wear shoes which is opposite to what you say. Wonder which is right

It’s not the opposite. Read it again.

YABU. It's an affectation of the working classes to make themselves seem "posh"
Wipe your feet when you come in and there's no issue.
I find it incredibly rude to ask someone to remove their shoes

This poster thinks taking your shoes off is to try to appear ‘posh’ the other poster said it’s a working class thing to want them off and the ‘middle classes’ would never ask!

It's rude to walk around someone's house in dirty shoes, but it's not 'odd' to wear shoes indoors if they're relatively clean. Floors don't stay pristine, no matter what you do. Obviously it varies by culture, but in the West, shoes-on indoors isn't considered strange.

There’s no logic whatsoever to that. If the sole is visibly soiled it would transfer to the floor which would make it visibly dirty. If the floor looks clean it is clean.

In the UK, it's a class signifier. If you are lower middle class - no shoes. Working class or upper middle class - leave them on. Middle class - could go either way.

Upper class people tend to be less fastidious and house-proud and tolerate more mess. Middle class people are more house proud.

This is why people feel so strongly about it.

I am actually pretty horrified by the amount of people on this thread saying shoes on in the house 🙀 never read one of these shoe debate threads before. If you pay attention when walking outside the amount of gross stuff on the floor is horrible. Maybe I’m weird for noticing these things (I pay attention when walking my dog as she has a habit of eating random things like acorns or rubbish from the floor) but on my normal route at the minute there are:

loads of clusters of bird poo on the pavement under the canopy of trees on one part of my walks

multiple dog poo smears where people have obviously picked up messy ones

an old dried vomit patch where someone clearly walked home from the local pub after one too many

I also notice loads of unpicked up dog poo in the winter when it’s darker when people walk their dogs and they can’t see it

and before anyone asks, I do give my dog’s paws a quick wipe with a dog cleaning wipe after walks (mainly because most of my furniture is light coloured and I also have a crawling baby)

Probably many people will think I’m weird

@GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/wearing-shoes-house-bacteria-hygiene-health-infection-disease-home-a8292811.html
Faecal matter 😁

I'm barefoot at home all day and quite like sitting on the floor, so I want those floors to stay clean.
Hard floors aren't a biggie though, I can give them a quick mop, but absolutely no shoes on the carpet.
Nothing to do with jumped-up working class pretentions, it's about having a house that feels comfortable and clean to me.

I actually find people who go on about class entirely classless. Constantly obsessing over status is the quickest way to show you haven't got any.