to think some people do not deserve to have kids? the mean bastards

[greenladybird]

cannot understand they way some people treat thier own kids.

makes me feel sick.

Lock me up and throw away the key.
The op has started a Am I Being Unreasonable thread. Of course you are.

not really that concerned with "fitting in"

GLB - good job you're not concerned about fitting in if the first thing out of your mouth is to call somebody a bitch or a bastard

funny how people use phrases like mollycoddle to make out being a caring parent is such a bad thing.

funny the excuses folk come out with.

No, being a craing parent is about showing your child how the world works, abnd the best way is notpandering to thiwer every whim.

I go to work everyday. I don;t want to, but I HAVE to.

Life isn't all about doing what we want.

I suspect you are going to be the kind of mil most of the horror stories on here are written about.

hahahahahahahahaha

I once sent a note, in French to my dd's french teacher saying' DD was a muppet and forget her homework sheet, plaese send her another one and I'll make sure that she does it'

So sue me!

I love dd but I don't pander to her every whim,because I'm her mother not her bestest mate. Its called being a grown up.

Cripes GLB. Have now read your thread about the football thing, and putting it together with your OP here am sensing that boundaries aren't a major feature of your parenting. Saying 'no' does not constitute abuse. In fact never saying 'no' is neglectful parenting.

how can somebody not 'deserve' to have children.i wasnt aware they were some sort of reward or prize for good behaviour

caring and indulgent are not the same thing.
I am a caring parent and I think to protect your child endlessly from the consequences of their own actions is actually incredibly cruel.

A truly caring parent lets their child make mistakes and picks up the pieces as needed. Then next time they don't make that mistake - that's the idea anyway. You have to be brave to do that and make an effort of will. Or you can run after them for ever more in the firm belief that they are in fact solid gold perfect - but that won't make either you or them a better person to know.

You poor thing glb, you obviously have ishoos. I've heard CBT is very effective these days though.

DS1 is 3, and already has to take resposibility for what he does. If he makes a mess, he helps mw tidy it up. If he tips his drink all over the table, he has to get a cloth and wipe it up.

I'd rather my children weren't brats

Yes, dreadful Lapin.

I don;t know how you can show your face.

Utterly shameful behaviour.

Take heart littlelapin - apparently to be a truly awful mother you have to come out with an 'excuse' - so lets hear yours and then the op can judge you properly

Did you know that the significant risk factors for a person developing Narcissistic Personality Disorder include:-

Overindulgence and overvaluation by parents
Valued by parents as a means to regulate their own self-esteem
Excessive admiration that is never balanced with realistic feedback
Being praised for perceived exceptional looks or talents by adults

Translated this means 'Calling your kid a muppet from time to time is doctor-recommended, and will prevent them becoming a raging psycho' Oh, okay that might be a slightly liberal translation...

Pathetic! Don't know how you can sleep at night or show your face
Am waiting for the op to come back and comment though - of course she may be passed out somewhere at the thought of a child being 40 feet away from it's mother

lapin has a Doctors Note that allows her to be a Dreadful Mum (TM), on account of her fluffy tail and twitchy nose

I have grave concerns about a woman who doesn't do everything her children wants, can we not virtually stone her????