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AIBU to feel uneasy about a teacher commenting on my daughter's eyes?

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Kickinthenostalgia · 24/09/2026 11:56

For context dd14 is in year 9, she’s very much all for her friends, always stuck in the middle, never starts arguments, she’s never in trouble, never had detention, most of the teachers love her, although she has a few boy best friends she’s not really into relationships just yet. Got a call today from the school, immediately my backs up because usually the only time they call me is when she’s in the medical room. No it’s a teacher singing DD’s praises, saying how she’s a pleasure to teach, etc etc. he mentioned he’s a new teacher at the school and as a father didn’t get feedback for his daughter who has just left so wanted to do it for his promising students.
so I was just talking to my mum about it, and she said to me is that the same teacher that told dd she had really nice eyes.
of course I’m like what you talking about, she never said anything. I laughed it off at first but the more I think about it, it’s a bit creepy. No? My mum defo wasn’t impressed and I’m surprised dd didn’t tell me considering she tells me everytime a teacher so much as shouts at her class. Obviously I don’t know the full story as she’s at school. I know I’ll need to keep an eye on this. I don’t know who it is, but just a bit surprised. I’m not being unreasonable to think this is slightly creepy right?

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Ladyfromthehill · Today 06:11

Ilovemyfam · 27/09/2026 11:52

I would not report , but I would ring school and ask to speak to the safeguarding head. Say that you are “not going to name the specific teacher, but is it a school protocol to call home to praise a child”. Dependent on the response you know if to take it further.

I would expect what the teacher said to OP to be said at a parents’ meeting. It is sad but in 2026, random calls sound creepy (unless it is school policy then fine).

OP I would not quite consider this a red flag - maybe just a red pennant.

Edited: after hearing what other schools do maybe I cannot compare what happened in my kids schools in the 90s

Edited

Yeah, things changed in the last 30 years... Surprise!

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