AIBU to think violently rattling an occupied toilet door at work is rude?

[Futurehappiness]

I was in the toilet cubicle at work. The door was locked, so from the outside it clearly shows that it is 'engaged'. Regardless, someone outside came along looking for a free cubicle, rattled the cubicle door really violently (to the extent I was worried it would break the lock) before moving on to another one.

AIBU to think this is really rude? It is not the first time this has happened, once I was just in the cubicle about to lock the door and a male colleague burst in nearly pushing the door. These are unisex closed cubicles which is all there are; It has to be said that when we had old fashioned dedicated female toilets this rarely happened....perhaps the men are resentful about the time women take & aren't used to queuing?

Yes, more than once I've walked past a queue of people who are waiting for people to come out of unoccupied cubicles

If I think a cubicle may be unoccupied I usually try the door really gingerly to make sure there is nobody in....what I don't do is try to force or rattle the door. I thought that this is what anyone with manners does.

It is, don't worry.

Unfortunately, lots of people appear to be bloody clueless, as this thread shows.

I think it's rude and also rude to knock and keep knocking on a locked bathroom door. Obviously, someone is in there doing something. They're not going to do their business faster if you knock. I'll take even longer if I get a persistent knocker. Ugh. It's a bugaboo of mine, can you tell? :)

Sounds intimidating and overly aggressive. Perhaps they couldn't read the Engaged sign.

It would have upset me

Are employers allowed to have cameras in work toilets.l don't mean the actual toilet obviously.

I would mention this to your HR. Another employer may have reported this already.

I hate when that happens. I always say loudly it’s clearly engaged! So rude.

In my case, shitting memories out. IBS is no joke.

This often happens in pubs/clubs, and it's always women then, so it's unreasonable to say it's just men!
It is rude-if one person has a genuine issues meaning they need the toilet more urgently than others, could the manager make this known? I get it might be problematic, but places have done this for colleagues with medical conditions.
If this doesn't apply, and they're just rude, maybe an email about not banging on doors would help?

It's extremely bloody rude, and your workplace is BVVU in not providing female toilets - especially if the unisex ones have only cubicles and aren't single stall toilets with proper enclosing walls.

I think some people sit there looking at their phones !

What is their plan, though? Are they intending to break in, wrench you off the toilet and throw you outside the door in your own mess, all so that they can then go?

If a toilet is occupied, that means it isn't available for somebody else to use; surely that isn't difficult for these people to comprehend?

If you have any doubts as to whether a cubicle is occupied, or maybe if the door is stiff and has jammed shut or whatever, or the person inside might have had an issue and need assistance, any normal person would knock, call out "Hello???" A few times and/or try the door gently and carefully.

Anybody who seeks to force open a toilet door when they know there is somebody inside (who doesn't need any emergency assistance) is, quite frankly, a pervert and/or a predator, and should face appropriate consequences for this abuaive behaviour unless they have an extremely convincing excuse.

I wonder that too, but reasonably often when I’ve wondered that it’s a man who comes out.

But always rude to rattle a toilet door!

I find shouting, “I’ve got a turtle’s head peeping out” speeds things up.
At school if people were taking too long you’d chuck a cupful of water over the top

How long were you taking? Maybe they just needed the loo!Sometimes I wonder what people are doing in there...

A man at our work recently pointed out that the only indicator on our toilet doors was a red or green window, which was completely useless to him, as he was colour blind. I did wonder if noting which way the line was oriented would help, but had a look and it is random.

But even then, if a door was closed, you would knock, call and/or push the door very slowly. You wouldn't just try to batter it down.