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AIBU to expect air freshener in toilets when visiting friends?

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HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:11

Is there an expectation that people's toilets should have an air freshener in? Like a spray air freshener?

We always have air freshener in both our toilets in case friends or family get caught short when visiting us or even to freshen the bathroom after having a wee if necessary, so I hate it if I go to a friend/family members house and they have none.

I get some people may be affected by asthma but surely if you had asthma you wouldn't use it?

We have a glade air freshener at work that sprays into the space where the wash handbasins are for example.

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Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 12/09/2026 18:30

grumpygrape · 09/09/2026 23:16

Carry a box of matches with you. Brilliant for neutralising any nasty nifs.

I agree. I have mentioned this on numerous posts where people have talked about what they allow in various bathrooms in their homes.

No-one seems to take any notice. They would rather spray nasty chemicals into the atmosphere.

Bonkers!

MrsSlocombesCat · 12/09/2026 18:30

hotmumshit · 09/09/2026 23:13

Yanbu tbh

Theres this tiktokker who i love and think is amazing, but she refuses to have a toilet brush! I'm like, what if someone (usually a man) has no choice but to poop in your toilet and finds he cant clean it?! 😩😩😩

Toilet brushes are vile. Just wipe the poop off with toilet paper.

NimbleTaupeTiger · 12/09/2026 18:31

Yep, air freshener and bleach in all toilets. I think you're totally normal.

House12 · 12/09/2026 18:32

Get a life.

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 12/09/2026 18:33

HangryBrickShark · 09/09/2026 23:36

We're on holiday at the moment and stopping in a large caravan with two loos, and not having anyone visit. But we have an air freshener in each toilet that we brought from home. I hate toilet smells.

For those that say their shit doesn't smell, are you serious??? Of course it does! 😅

Edited

For goodness sake - just strike a match, and it eradicates the cause of the smell. It immediately burns the methane.

I don’t understand how people don’t know this!

DrNo007 · 12/09/2026 18:33

I can't bear air fresheners - the smell makes me nauseous and that applies to many people who have chemical sensitivity. They contain toxic, including carcinogenic, chemicals and pollute the environment.

Confusedbytheworld · 12/09/2026 18:33

I'm sorry but you absolutely are.
As someone who is made quite badly ill by air fresheners I absolutely welcome homes that have none. I really don't understand why everything nowadays has to be highly scented. Or actually I do ... its because of advertising trying to make us believe that natural smells are undesirable so companies can make money off selling us products that contain carcogenic chemicals and hormone disrupters and neurotoxins. Air fresheners have stickly molecules specifically designed to cling, so they mask the smell by coating your nose and airways with chemicals. Think about that.

FeralFucker · 12/09/2026 18:38

Wonder how all those medieval types coped with their poop pongs. Bet they weren't demanding air freshener.

ClairDeLaLune · 12/09/2026 18:40

Ewww I hate air fresheners, they NEVER smell nice. If you do a poo at someone’s house, flush it immediately (“courtesy flush”) then wipe yourself and flush again. By the time you’re out of the loo, the smell should’ve gone.

Ocean67 · 12/09/2026 18:41

Yes… usually men who stay in there for hours on their phones🤢

SunnyOchreNewt · 12/09/2026 18:42

I made the mistake of buying a spray air freshener once and had to hide it after visitors insisted on using it. The stench (worse than s**t) would permeate the entire house.
I provide scented candles, incense and matches. They can take their pick.

Mumtotornadoes · 12/09/2026 18:43

I'm asthmatic. We have no aerosols at all in our house. I would be fuming if I went into my bathroom and someone had fogged it in chemical spray just because they'd done a poo on a toilet. It's 50% of its purpose. Clean you skids and flush the toilet. Yeah there might be a faint smell for a short period, it's a toilet, we don't congregate in there. Who cares?

Seziah · 12/09/2026 18:45

Ireallycantthinkofagoodone · 12/09/2026 18:30

I agree. I have mentioned this on numerous posts where people have talked about what they allow in various bathrooms in their homes.

No-one seems to take any notice. They would rather spray nasty chemicals into the atmosphere.

Bonkers!

I’ve tried this, it actually didn’t work that well for me. I took a box of matches on my first ever holiday with a boyfriend. But the room still smelled a bit of shit, but also burning and blown out birthday candles too. Then you have to dispose of a match. And if the box gets damp from the bathroom the matches won’t light. Unfortunately didn’t eradicate embarrassment like I thought it would

BridgetMonica · 12/09/2026 18:45

Carry a small air freshener in your bag.

BabblingBiddy · 12/09/2026 18:47

BridgetMonica · 12/09/2026 18:45

Carry a small air freshener in your bag.

Edited

And ignore any allergies in your friends houses.

BridgetMonica · 12/09/2026 18:50

BabblingBiddy · 12/09/2026 18:47

And ignore any allergies in your friends houses.

Don’t get your britches in a wad, Babbling Biddy. She can easily ask her friend if the friend minds freshener spray in the bathroom. 🙄

Seziah · 12/09/2026 18:51

MrsSlocombesCat · 12/09/2026 18:30

Toilet brushes are vile. Just wipe the poop off with toilet paper.

Do you never get limescale that needs scrubbing off? No skids in my toilet because I use loo paper too but it needs scrubbing once a week due to the scale. I do agree they’re gross though, I have found that some people (men) use brushes before they’ve flushed instead of after, so the brush gets paper mashed into it 🤮

Teddy1949 · 12/09/2026 18:52

Open the window.

Outtaxed · 12/09/2026 18:52

No those sprays are horrible. What appears to be the on trend solution is to buy some very overpriced French scented matches.

Iloveeverycat · 12/09/2026 18:54

Haven't you heard of vipoo you can take your own with you

BlueFahrenheit · 12/09/2026 18:54

Air fresheners make me feel sick. Prefer reed diffusers.

RG89 · 12/09/2026 18:56

What an odd thing to get so hung up about! If it worries you that much then carry one with you. To me the poo smells worse mixed with air freshener and lingers a lot longer than just the smell of poo on its own! Expensive, bad for the environment and I haven't found one that actually smells nice.

If something like that annoys you so much you must live a really nice, trouble free life.

Teddy1949 · 12/09/2026 18:57

ThisAutumnTown · 09/09/2026 23:30

In each of my bathrooms, I have little baskets on the windowsills. In the baskets I have 3 loo rolls, flushable wipes, poo-pouri (spray in the loo before you poop to trap the smell) and air freshener.
All set up neatly!
I don’t know a single other person that does this so I think I might be the weird one 😂

There are no flushable wipes.

CandidRaven · 12/09/2026 19:01

I can't deal with air fresheners or perfume of any kind so no it doesn't come in my house.

Sherrijames138 · 12/09/2026 19:15

aterriblemiddleclassfanny · 09/09/2026 23:17

This.
It wouldn't ever occur to me.
I'm vegan which may make a difference but honestly other than the odd occasion where I've maybe been on holiday and eaten a lot of foods I wouldn't usually, you could go in the bathroom straight after I'd been for a number 2 and not smell anything.

Do you have bowel issues and/or a rubbish diet in your family? I'd understand why you'd have air freshener if so. But to expect others to always follow suit is unrealistic.

Absolutely, no!! Sorry but everyone's poop SMELLS and being vegan is no exception to that lol.

Yes, the particular foods you consume play a role in how your poop smells but it's only one small factor. Eating "rubbish" isn't the sole determinant of odor. Digestive factors, hormones, gut bacteria, whether you consume alcohol, conditions like diabetes or celiac, tolerances and allergies to things like gluten, activity level, OTC & Rx medications.... ALL play a role.
Eating clean definitely has an impact. Being vegan doesn't automatically mean one isn't eating rubbish, either.
Common to have freshener in the bathroom.