AIBU to tell him I have booked the ballet weekend alone?

[cheveuxblanc]

I am in my 50s. I am dating a man who is a bit hopeless.but we go to events together, like ballet and the opera

I said to him a few weeks ago that I had tickets for a ballet this weekend if he wanted to come. He did not reply. It is also my birthday next week and he said he was not able to think of something to do this weekend as he had too much else to think about - this really related to a weekend in Rome for him and his daughter that I had paid for but he was stressed about: he’s been now and had a ball but not mentioned next weekend since he’s been back this week.

I obviously have the tickets, and have booked a hotel room for myself as well as a nice meal.
He has not yet asked about the weekend and what I am doing, but would I be unreasonable to tell him that he had his chance and I have booked a night just for me?

Good for you! What an ego he has.

He certainly does not lack ego!

He was not happy, but doesn’t say that, just doesn’t ask about it. I think more about the restaurant than the ballet

This might work! I have taken a massive step back. Planning my own stuff to do.

Really pleased you went, and had a fab time!

Can’t believe he thought you wouldn’t go. Apart from anything, tickets aren’t cheap. He could have met you halfway, and met you for the meal beforehand, but it was all about him controlling the narrative.

The tickets were cheap, tbf and I didn’t tell him about the meal until after I’d been 😂

So pleased that you went and enjoyed yourself OP. I'm also rather pleased that you cut him down to size by refusing his last minute offer of a home made meal, in favour of sticking to your plans. I bet he was majorly pissed off at that, lol.

Nice work OP 👍

Excellent outcome. Go you, and I'm so pleased you enjoyed your birthday 💪

You buy him a weekend in Rome and he can’t be bothered to even text to make plans for your birthday?

Don’t date a man who is hopeless. Set your sights much higher.

Great update op - glad you enjoyed yourself

He just expected you to not go because he wasn't? What a plonker. And peeved because you didn't take him out for dinner, what a cf. I'm sure you can find someone more on your level, he's not really enough is he.