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Aibu feeling uneasy about men taking little girls to the toilet in the womens toilet?

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Fasdmama · 06/09/2026 10:57

I've seen this a few times and I dont know what is the right thing to do.
So the other week we were at the cinema. I took my daughter to the toilet and as I was waiting for her a man came out of a cubicle with a little girl and went to wash her hands.
It got me thinking.
I feel uncomfortable a man in the womens toilet. I understand how you'd potentially feel uncomfortable taking a daughter into the mens toilets.
And the only other option in this situation was the disabled toilet but morally thats wrong.

I dont know what I feel is right in this situation so wanted to know other people's opinions.
So yabu: its right for a man to take girl into female toilets
Yanbu: he should take her somewhere else...but where?

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Duckduckgander · Today 18:34

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:32

@Duckduckgander nothing wrong with my comprehension I was replying to a post of yours that didn’t say anything about disabled toilets. Maybe you should check your own comprehension before throwing out silly insults

No you didn't read the initial post that referred to disabled toilet not being available. Have another look.

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:36

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Duckduckgander · Today 18:39

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:26

So what ? They are spoiled . Being treated as above everyone else is the very definition of spoiled . Calling someone spoiled is not dehumanising . That is a gross exaggeration. Thanks for your opinion pet

The Pope is treated by some as above everyone else - is he spoiled pet?

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:40

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Tralalalala88 · Today 18:42

@Duckduckgander so you hear I am from Ireland and you try and get a discriminatory rascist little dig in about “my religion” in even though I’m not actually catholic over a discussion about toilets . It’s laughable how ignorant you are .

Duckduckgander · Today 18:44

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Limeandfigs · Today 18:47

Tralalalala88 · Today 13:36

Well I cannot comprehend some of your posts because they make no sense . Now can you leave me alone please . I am no longer engaging with a bully

I feel like this wonderfully ironic post bears quoting given a certain posters behaviour and continued personal attacks.

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:48

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I'd stop before you get whacked with the ban hammer.

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:51

Limeandfigs · Today 18:50

I'd stop before you get whacked with the ban hammer.

So you think it’s fine for someone to bring the pope into a discussion about toilets because I am Irish and they assumed I was Catholic and wanted to get a dig in ? Yeh grand whatever .

Duckduckgander · Today 18:58

Tralalalala88 · Today 18:51

So you think it’s fine for someone to bring the pope into a discussion about toilets because I am Irish and they assumed I was Catholic and wanted to get a dig in ? Yeh grand whatever .

Because the Pope is the most identifiable human that is put on a pedestal above all others that I could think of and cos I'd happily put money on it he has his own toilet wherever he goes. So not a racist pet.

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Motuihe · Today 19:11

I was in a toilet and there was a mother outside the loo as he son was using it. Thoughts? I felt a bit uncomfortable, he was about 8

Gloriia · Today 19:13

Duckduckgander · Today 17:40

So what is the answer for situations where my teenage disabled daughter who needs to be escorted and assisted to the toilet is with a male family member and a disabled toilets isn't available?

Why isn't the disabled toilet available? If this was a frequent occurrence I'd make sure she always had a female carer with her.

We have a disabled relative, I'm very aware of the challenges faced and however we do that other people must always be considered too.

Men should not be in the ladies toilets.

Duckduckgander · Today 19:23

Gloriia · Today 19:13

Why isn't the disabled toilet available? If this was a frequent occurrence I'd make sure she always had a female carer with her.

We have a disabled relative, I'm very aware of the challenges faced and however we do that other people must always be considered too.

Men should not be in the ladies toilets.

It's not just the case the disabled toilet isn't available, in some older smaller buildings there isn't a disabled toilet. 99% of the time she does have a female carer, me. The only other people that take her out are my parents. My mum is also disabled and wouldn't be able to take her to the toilet.

But why should people have to lay out their whole personal details just so people came weigh up whether they think the person's situation merits an exemption to the perceived rule.

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