Was she right to expect dinner?

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I had a friend over the other day we are both mid 20s she is actually a good friend from school but we don’t get to see each other as much as we went to different uni and different areas and so when we have got together it’s usually been a night out rather than to the flat which I’ve only recently moved to.
Anyway I invited her over for 4:30 and she came and I offered some snacks and wine and she said no I will wait until after dinner and laughed or it will go straight to my head.

I hadn’t said anything about dinner so I was surprised when she asked what we were having but it wasn’t a problem I just made a quick tuna salad and offered a jacket potato but she was fine with just the salad and enjoyed it.
She is absolutely not the cheeky sort so it was obviously just misunderstanding but it just got me thinking do people usually assume dinner if they are invited over that time as I was just thinking wine and catch up but she did stay until about 8 so it worked having eaten.
I know we should have communicated better but it wouldn’t have occurred to me to mention it as I had only meant for drinks and hadn’t intended to serve a meal, not that I minded but don’t usually host dinner
She did bring wine and I know her well enough to know she would cringe if she knew it was a mix up.

Can’t imagine inviting someone and not intending to feed them, to be honest.

Yes at that time i think I'd expect a meal , if not dinner afternoon tea or something like that. It's a strange time to invite someone over for a drink

There's rarely a good reason for serving wine without a meal at a time when most people won't have eaten since lunchtime.

I would never just ‘expect’ to be fed dinner.

And if my best friend and I go to each others houses we tell each other we’ll make dinner. So it’s always known beforehand.

When I’ve gone to other friends houses, around teatime, if they haven’t mentioned food, I will offer to pick something up on the way for us both. They will either say ‘great!’ or they’ll say ‘no don’t worry, I’ll order a takeaway for us!’.

Either way there’s some form of communication so we both know.

Why is everyone saying that 430 is such a strange and weird time to meet! Why? People can meet at whatever time they want,maybe OP and friend do shift work or maybe that was the only available time that suited both.
Also why is 430 a strange time to have a glass of wine?
With regards to the post,it depends on the plan that was arranged,if my friend said come over for the evening then I would expect some sort of food.How far did friend travel? She may have left home around 2-3pm so would have been hungry by evening

Nice to give her dinner. Supper is after 9. Just being picky. Had a whole conversation re serviettes v napkins with a friend a few weeks ago (it's serviettes).

Unless the invitation expressly mentions dinner, I would not expect it.
Serviettes to me are paper napkins. Napkins are linen or some other fabric.

It really depends on how far she's travelled because if it's up the road, then no I wouldn't expect dinner having had wine and snacks. Because I would have enough time to be there and then travel home. But if it was far then yes definitely Id expect dinner, logically.

Unless she was going to be leaving before 6pm then yes I would definitely be doing dinner.

I always take a bottle of wine as a gift even for a lunchtime meet. Just as a nice present but wouldn’t expect to drink it