AIBU sleeping arrangement

[strawberrylemons]

I’m visiting my parents this weekend, as are my 2 sisters (we’re all adults 23,29 and 32). I’m bringing my husband, sisters are going alone. I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant with twins, this is relevant.
all the bedrooms have a single bed in them, prior to pregnancy id just share with my husband and we’d have a bad nights sleep but get over it. Now im pregnant sleeping is a bit more uncomfortable and I need a pillow under my belly etc. so someone has to sleep on the sofa. I can’t make hubby sleep on the sofa because the living room is the walk way through to the kitchen so he’d have no privacy. So the options are for pregnant me or my sisters to go on the sofa. I’ve asked both my sisters if they’d give their bed up for me, they’ve both said no. My one sister even had a tantrum over it and said she just won’t visit if I’m going to take “her” bed (bear in mind she hasn’t lived at my parents house for 7 years).
I’m feeling a little disappointed in my sisters and that they wouldn’t let their pregnant sister have a bed for a weekend. My parents have offered their bed to my husband and I as a result but it doesn’t seem fair as they are both older and need the bed too.
Am I being unreasonable expecting someone to give up a bed for me? I would never ask at any other time in my life, it’s just one weekend during my pregnancy.

Your husband can sleep on the sofa. Can’t see why your sisters need to give up their room and sleep on the sofa where your husband may need to walk through anytime.

Your sisters are being a bit ungenerous yes. But it doesn't really make a difference whether it's your sister or husband who sleeps on the sofa - however nobody wants to, which is just how it is. You can't change that, so focus on solving the problem instead.

I suggest an airbed/mattress on the floor of your room for DH. Or failing that, leave DH at home and if anyone asks why just say (uncrossly) that unfortunately there was nowhere reasonable for him to sleep.

Hotel. You take care of you first. DH needs to back you up with no questions.

You take care of you.

He wouldn’t walk through, it’s not his house, but the family will get up in the morning to let dogs out etc. he’s a guest in that house so I don’t feel it’s right for him not to have the privacy, he’s not refused, he doesn’t even know the situation. I want him to feel comfortable in the family home that’s all

£20 air mattress on the floor of your room for the husband with you on the proper single bed.

And shame upon your parents for not standing up to their daughter when another daughter is in need.

I wouldn’t ever be forgetting.

So you want your sisters to be put out so "hubby" isn't? Don't be one of those women.

Why can't your husband sleep on an airbed on the floor of your room?

Single air bed sounds like the way to go. They’re not expensive.

Air mattress on the floor of your room works then.

It’s too small! Its a tiny box room, otherwise we’d absolutely do something like that

I’d just get a hotel.

Your sister is being very unkind. Obviously you should have a bed.
I think you should be in a bedroom with your DH. If that needs to be on the floor for him then so be it. I wouldn’t expect him to sleep in public at the in laws.
Tbh, when we go places where space is tight- we book a hotel. Much more comfortable and no one in the front room.

It doesn’t fit an air mattress, I’d absolutely do this if I could, it’s a small house

The issue is space, it wouldn’t fit!

Ask a sister with a bigger room if they will swap so you can fit the air mattress

No way would I give up my bed for a brother in law. Why should your sisters prioritise your DH? He can sleep on the sofa or put something on the floor for him to sleep on.

Being a futon/camping bed for your husband. He can sleep on the floor beside you. You keep single bed.
might be worth changing your single bed to a double for next visit

Whoever loses out and ends up sleeping in the living room will have no privacy. II don't understand why your husbands need for privacy while he sleeps is more important than your sisters.

Under the circumstances someone is going to be inconvenienced. I think it's unfair for your sisters to give up their rooms for your DH's comfort.

Honestly even though it'd be nice for one of your sisters to accommodate, your husband is part of the family, he can sleep on the sofa even if it is a walk way.

My husband isn't a guest in my parents house, it's his home too, he's part of the family.

• Why are there single beds? If there is a room size issue then there are small doubles which might be better.
• Why does your husband need more privacy than your sisters which would mean that one of them has to give up their bedroom?
• Can you get a blow up bed and your husband sleep on that in your room?

Just book a hotel and avoid all this angst and drama.
Ive slept on the sofa before being quite heavily pregnant (granted not with twins! And when I say slept I’d say more watched tv and dozed, I had weird pregnant insomnia towards the end), I was fine for a night or two but if you don’t want to then get yourself a nice hotel room for the night. Would be more comfortable for you both.

no not at all, that isn’t it! It’s nothing to do with my husband deserving better. My sisters both lived at the house their whole lives, the whole family is pretty comfortable together so sleeping in a communal room isn’t an issue but hubby isn’t going to be as comfortable as the rest of us in that situation.
im not putting my husband above them in anyway, I’m just trying to make sure he feels welcome and has a private space

There isn’t space for an air mattress please stop suggesting this. There aren’t any other options than for someone to be on the sofa

Get an airbed and put on the floor on your room. Or leave husband at home.