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AIBU to refuse apologising after being blocked in at Tesco?

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ThisIsAbsolutelyCrazy · Yesterday 00:07

So, yesterday I go to Tesco with DH. DH is a wheelchair user and has a Blue Badge.

There were no disabled bays or parent and child bays so I went to a far corner of the car park where there were two empty rows of normal bays and parked between 2 bays so had room for DH to get in and out.

Lo and behold we came back to a car parked so close to my driver's side that I couldn't get between the cars - less than 10 inches in between. The car had parked over into the bay I had half parked in.

We were obviously WTF. The other bays around us were still empty.

Coming round to the front of the cars, we saw there was a young lad no more that 15-17 sitting in the passenger seat of the other car. He obviously couldn't get out of his door either because it was up against mine! I said 'what kind of idiot would park like this' or some such. He said 'my dad'. Then asked him why he'd blocked him in.as well. He didn't answer and just kept his head down. I will admit I did swear a bit saying for fucks sake, this is fucking disgusting. Then said 'tell your Dad he's a complete cunt'. At no point did I make threats to the lad or swear at him. I knew he didn't park the car.

Anyway I then climbed in through the passenger side, moved the car into the row in front, got DH in and we left.

The Dad had not come back. I'm kicking myself because I didn't take a picture of the way he'd parked.

Anyway, tonight at around 8pm there's a knock at the door and two policemen are there. My heart dropped because I thought it was about one of the DC (both were out with friends), but they said they'd had a complaint about me causing 'fear and alarm' to a minor!

Turns out the Dad must have already had my reg number and told the police what I'd said. No mention of how he'd blocked me deliberately and left his son trapped in the car!

He must have known whoever came back to the car would be angry!

Anyway police said I could make a formal apology to the boy and the matter would not be taken further - this was because I admitted swearing.

I said No I will not as I had figured out by then that the Dad had done this all deliberately. No clue who he is.

AIBU to think he must be an absolute psycho?

Especially to leave his son trapped in the car!

OP posts:
Pinkchickenwine · Today 16:55

OliveMyLove · Today 16:49

People that have no empathy for a woman and her disabled husband being purposely put in an anger inducing situation should not be overreacting to her, no.

Are you actually describing OPs replies on this thread as equivalent to the online bullying of children?

I’ve no empathy for someone who gives the wrong person their wrath!

Im saying your analogy of it’s just words on a screen is wrong!

OliveMyLove · Today 17:00

Pinkchickenwine · Today 16:55

I’ve no empathy for someone who gives the wrong person their wrath!

Im saying your analogy of it’s just words on a screen is wrong!

Then we are back to hypocrisy.

You expect OP to behave better in a very upsetting situation than you do online where there are zero stakes.

AgnesMcDoo · Today 17:03

OliveMyLove · Today 16:50

Yes because no one else would express anger when being purposely stopped from accessing their vehicle for no reason.

There’s expressing anger and then there is swearing at an innocent teen.

FirstOfTheGang · Today 17:40

OliveMyLove · Today 16:50

Yes because no one else would express anger when being purposely stopped from accessing their vehicle for no reason.

How many times? It’s not the expressing of anger that people object to. It’s the expressing of anger in a crude and sweary way to a teenager who wasn’t the person who blocked her getting in the car. Do you really not grasp the difference?

OliveMyLove · Today 17:43

AgnesMcDoo · Today 17:03

There’s expressing anger and then there is swearing at an innocent teen.

Swearing in front of a teen. Not at, and everyone knows the difference.

OliveMyLove · Today 17:44

FirstOfTheGang · Today 17:40

How many times? It’s not the expressing of anger that people object to. It’s the expressing of anger in a crude and sweary way to a teenager who wasn’t the person who blocked her getting in the car. Do you really not grasp the difference?

I’m responding to someone who expressed anger here in a crude and sweary way; who called OP the same thing she called the Dad.

You know the type “Do as I say and not as I do.”

Walkden · Today 17:45

"Swearing" about their parent " in front of a teen. Not at, and everyone knows the difference."

Fixed that for you. The minimising of this reprehensible behaviour from an adult is ridiculous.

OliveMyLove · Today 17:47

Walkden · Today 17:45

"Swearing" about their parent " in front of a teen. Not at, and everyone knows the difference."

Fixed that for you. The minimising of this reprehensible behaviour from an adult is ridiculous.

I’m not minimizing it but being accurate.

PolkaDotPorridge · Today 17:47

You sound like the psycho, how dare you speak to someone like that?! Poor lad.

AgnesMcDoo · Today 17:53

OliveMyLove · Today 17:43

Swearing in front of a teen. Not at, and everyone knows the difference.

You are splitting hairs and you know it

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