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AIBU to think if we need to politely ask men not to rape women (or men), then we don't want such people in the UK? PART 2

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:09

'Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK

UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.'

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

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AccidentallyWesAnderson · 24/08/2026 20:54

phoenix098 · 24/08/2026 20:12

Why are we acting like white men don't also rape and kill women at disproportionately high rates? I'm sick of people that pretend to care about womens rights turning this into a race issue when it's clearly a gender issue.

No one is.

Have you been on holiday to Afghanistan, Sudan or Eritrea recently? If not why not?

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 20:55

phoenix098 · 24/08/2026 20:12

Why are we acting like white men don't also rape and kill women at disproportionately high rates? I'm sick of people that pretend to care about womens rights turning this into a race issue when it's clearly a gender issue.

I'm sick of people not understanding the point being made. When its been made so many times there's no excuse for not understanding it. Not only not understanding it, but then throwing accusations of racism around. It does demonstrate a weak intellect though so perhaps it's unfair to get sick of people not understanding. Perhaps we need to understand the people not understanding.

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 20:56

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 20:26

It’s been deleted for breaking Talk Guidelines

They don't allow links to fundraisers x

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GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 20:57

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 20:55

I'm sick of people not understanding the point being made. When its been made so many times there's no excuse for not understanding it. Not only not understanding it, but then throwing accusations of racism around. It does demonstrate a weak intellect though so perhaps it's unfair to get sick of people not understanding. Perhaps we need to understand the people not understanding.

It really is getting beyond tedious now.

I feel like asking people ‘What is wrong with you?’ which I know is not really acceptable.

But that’s where I’m at.

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 20:58

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 20:56

They don't allow links to fundraisers x

Thank you.

I’ve just seen RedToothBrush’s reply to my post.

I thought if it was from an official page/ link it would be ok.

Thank you both for your input x

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:00

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 18:57

And when the right/ far right/ whoever it will be get in, people will be wringing their hands and wailing and asking ‘Whyyyyy?’

Yes, I hope the useful idiots of the Willkommenskultur have now woken up to how utterly stupid they've been. To inflict this damage on a safe and stable country like Germany, absolutely criminal.

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:07

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:00

Yes, I hope the useful idiots of the Willkommenskultur have now woken up to how utterly stupid they've been. To inflict this damage on a safe and stable country like Germany, absolutely criminal.

They were throwing teddies at the train stations back in 2015.

While my country was already in a bad state and it was starting to become public knowledge.

This is what always gets me…do the various countries/ governments/ citizens not take a look at their neighbours and think ‘Do we really want this here?’

I can only conclude most of them do.

JuliaBraverman · 24/08/2026 21:18

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:07

They were throwing teddies at the train stations back in 2015.

While my country was already in a bad state and it was starting to become public knowledge.

This is what always gets me…do the various countries/ governments/ citizens not take a look at their neighbours and think ‘Do we really want this here?’

I can only conclude most of them do.

But is this not the most important question? Western leaders seeming to be absolutely determined to change the demographics of their countries?

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:23

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:00

Yes, I hope the useful idiots of the Willkommenskultur have now woken up to how utterly stupid they've been. To inflict this damage on a safe and stable country like Germany, absolutely criminal.

Oh and the fact that Merkel has said she’s going to do ‘everything in her power to keep out the AfD’ is beyond tone deaf.

You’d think she’d be ashamed of what she’s turned her country into, but no. Big mouth on her.

No self awareness whatsoever. But then, can we really blame her when she is being showered with awards and people are queuing up to get her to sign her autobiography?

She has caused so much damage to Europe.

Really she ought to be brought before a court.

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:23

JuliaBraverman · 24/08/2026 21:18

But is this not the most important question? Western leaders seeming to be absolutely determined to change the demographics of their countries?

It is and it’s fucking (sorry) baffling to me.

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:28

HollyhocksandPeons · 24/08/2026 19:39

Went through the thread and don't understand the need for statistics - why? Is it not enough to say 'we don't want them here'? Why all justifications and concerns - we just don't want them here. Those who want them here, can marry them, adopt them, sponsor them in their own homes - we just don't don't them here.

Yes, I agree. Britain is a small, crowded island and all our public services are under strain. We haven't got enough reservoirs or prisons, housing is massively in short supply, everything else is struggling. We have over a million young people out of work.

The very LAST thing this country needs is thousands of military aged males from incompatible cultures demanding to be housed, fed, clothed, given healthcare and dental treatment and costing us millions in lawyers, legal aid and endless appeals.

TaleOfTwoHalves · 24/08/2026 21:30

CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:09

'Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK

UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.'

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

Previous thread here:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5568695-aibu-to-think-if-we-need-to-politely-ask-men-not-to-rape-women-or-men-then-we-dont-want-such-people-in-the-uk?page=40&reply=154338993&utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

We CERTAINLY dont need anymore in Coventry City that’s for sure. Full to the brim with these foreign men!!!! We had enough of our own dysfunctionals. Horrifying to be honest.

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:33

JuliaBraverman · 24/08/2026 21:18

But is this not the most important question? Western leaders seeming to be absolutely determined to change the demographics of their countries?

Cheap labour at any cost?, the absolute refusal to understand concerns and file them all under racism, Blair’s version of rubbish their noses in diversity?

Idk but it’s coming back to bite politically

TaleOfTwoHalves · 24/08/2026 21:34

@phoenix098

Oh behave. Use some naunce. Of course it’s a fucking male problem, but there will be NOTHING positive about importing these men into this country from these warped countries. Why is this being allowed to happen? It’s criminal. You are thick quite frankly if you don’t factor in their way of life and how they view us as women. Totally thick and naive.

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:36

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:33

Cheap labour at any cost?, the absolute refusal to understand concerns and file them all under racism, Blair’s version of rubbish their noses in diversity?

Idk but it’s coming back to bite politically

The labour aspect I’ve never understood.

At best those people are just illiterate. At worst they’re criminals.

I’m sorry, but the myth that they’re all coming over to work and contribute and ‘prop up the NHS’ needs debunking.

NancyThompson · 24/08/2026 21:44

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:36

The labour aspect I’ve never understood.

At best those people are just illiterate. At worst they’re criminals.

I’m sorry, but the myth that they’re all coming over to work and contribute and ‘prop up the NHS’ needs debunking.

I suppose they staff Uber Eats.

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:47

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:36

The labour aspect I’ve never understood.

At best those people are just illiterate. At worst they’re criminals.

I’m sorry, but the myth that they’re all coming over to work and contribute and ‘prop up the NHS’ needs debunking.

Yeh it’s a strange one. What happened? Why did politicians ask us to look away from a 16 year old girl pushed on tracks, and other crimes

BubbleAndLeek · 24/08/2026 21:47

The average IQ in these nations now comes to mind

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:48

NancyThompson · 24/08/2026 21:44

I suppose they staff Uber Eats.

Yep (something I never use).

But seriously, according to mumsnet the NHS would collapse without them.

Do those posters realise there are different types of immigration?

The most ridiculous post I saw was a OP arguing that the best two surgeons at the hospital her daughter was working at both came over on a lorry (back in the day).

I so wanted to reply but thought better of it (I was lurking back in the day)

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:50

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:47

Yeh it’s a strange one. What happened? Why did politicians ask us to look away from a 16 year old girl pushed on tracks, and other crimes

Edited

That was horrendous.

And the girl and her mother had fled the war in Ukraine.

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:58

One of the most concerning things about all this is that the poorest neighbourhoods are the ones who have to shoulder the biggest burden. Despite what Andy Burnham says, I'm sure it will be low-cost places like Bolton that will continue to pay the biggest price in terms of safety.

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:59

I feel like women and girls have been told we have to be collateral damage for a risky system and up until recently yelled at if we don’t want to be.

JuliaBraverman · 24/08/2026 22:00

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:23

Oh and the fact that Merkel has said she’s going to do ‘everything in her power to keep out the AfD’ is beyond tone deaf.

You’d think she’d be ashamed of what she’s turned her country into, but no. Big mouth on her.

No self awareness whatsoever. But then, can we really blame her when she is being showered with awards and people are queuing up to get her to sign her autobiography?

She has caused so much damage to Europe.

Really she ought to be brought before a court.

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Agree

BubbleAndLeek · 24/08/2026 22:00

EasternStandard · 24/08/2026 21:59

I feel like women and girls have been told we have to be collateral damage for a risky system and up until recently yelled at if we don’t want to be.

But "white people commit crime too"

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 22:00

5MinuteArgument · 24/08/2026 21:58

One of the most concerning things about all this is that the poorest neighbourhoods are the ones who have to shoulder the biggest burden. Despite what Andy Burnham says, I'm sure it will be low-cost places like Bolton that will continue to pay the biggest price in terms of safety.

Sounds about right.