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AIBU to think if we need to politely ask men not to rape women (or men), then we don't want such people in the UK? PART 2

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CoventryCity · 24/08/2026 11:09

'Don't rape, sexually assault or make kissing noises' at people, asylum seekers warned in guidance about living in UK

UK arrivals have been told to treat women equally, not sexually assault partners or have sex with children in a new Home Office pamphlet. As well as the guidebook, a series of posters have also been designed by the government.'

https://news.sky.com/story/asylum-seekers-warned-not-to-make-kissing-sounds-at-people-in-new-guidance-about-living-in-uk-13574744

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NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:28

@NullaEffugium then we can look at Sweden. Two thirds of rapes are carried out by either first or second generation immigrants.
https://portal.research.lu.se/en/activities/nearly-two-thirds-of-convicted-rapists-in-sweden-are-migrants-or-/

In Paris, 77% of street (ie stranger) rapes are carried out by foreign nationals. This link describes it as "misleading" but despite their attempts to debunk that, those are indeed the figures that they themselves admit to
www.misbar.com/en/editorial/2024/07/12/misleading-anti-immigrants-claims-regarding-sexual-crimes-in-france

NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:31

@NullaEffugium

And then there was the Cologne incident

" Approximately 1,200 women were reported to have been sexually assaulted, especially in the city of Cologne. In many of the incidents, while these women were in public spaces, they were surrounded and assaulted by large groups of men who were identified by officials as men of North African and Arab origin.
"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 25/08/2026 19:36

Menopausalsourpuss · 25/08/2026 19:01

I personally would like to take Christians who are being persecuted in places like Nigeria , it makes a lot more sense. To this country's shame there have been cases like Asia Bibi where asylum has been denied because of threats from Muslims https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/nov/13/asia-bibi-foreign-office-accused-of-allowing-pakistan-mob-to-dictate-asia-bibi-asylum-case
This one more recently was given asylum but Muslim home office staff tried to tamper with her application https://christianconcern.com/news/christian-woman-who-fled-islamic-persecution-overturns-asylum-decision/

Edited

They are shocking cases and our Home Office has clearly been compromised by staff with an anti British, anti Christian agenda.

We shouldn’t be surprised, some senior Muslim leaders (and I’m not aware of any dissent from the other Muslim leaders) have been clear about their intentions to impose Islam and Sharia law on us and our current government are very keen to facilitate them. My only question is, why?

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 25/08/2026 19:43

NullaEffugium · 25/08/2026 19:25

Sorry what? The LRA is not having their views and customs on sexual slavery of women, rape as a weapon of war, forced marriage protected? Why on earth would they be?

Exactly. You appear to be trying to claim that some tiny and extremely niche Christian groups have abhorrent practices in an attempt to wave away the behaviour of a very large and very present group. Or have I misunderstood you?

5MinuteArgument · 25/08/2026 19:51

NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:31

@NullaEffugium

And then there was the Cologne incident

" Approximately 1,200 women were reported to have been sexually assaulted, especially in the city of Cologne. In many of the incidents, while these women were in public spaces, they were surrounded and assaulted by large groups of men who were identified by officials as men of North African and Arab origin.
"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

Yes, I think this incident alerted a lot of people to what was happening. And people who had previously been welcoming towards migrants started to realise the safe, stable country which they had so taken for granted was under attack.

BubbleAndLeek · 25/08/2026 20:08

NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:28

@NullaEffugium then we can look at Sweden. Two thirds of rapes are carried out by either first or second generation immigrants.
https://portal.research.lu.se/en/activities/nearly-two-thirds-of-convicted-rapists-in-sweden-are-migrants-or-/

In Paris, 77% of street (ie stranger) rapes are carried out by foreign nationals. This link describes it as "misleading" but despite their attempts to debunk that, those are indeed the figures that they themselves admit to
www.misbar.com/en/editorial/2024/07/12/misleading-anti-immigrants-claims-regarding-sexual-crimes-in-france

In Paris I've never been scared of the actual French people. They might be a bit rude, or direct or brush you off but that's it. Look at who does all the crime, runs all the scams and who the pickpockets are.

BubbleAndLeek · 25/08/2026 20:16

NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:31

@NullaEffugium

And then there was the Cologne incident

" Approximately 1,200 women were reported to have been sexually assaulted, especially in the city of Cologne. In many of the incidents, while these women were in public spaces, they were surrounded and assaulted by large groups of men who were identified by officials as men of North African and Arab origin.
"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

There was a poster once who just called it a "freak event" and wasn't reflective of what it's truly like in Germany

LuckyHazelFox · 25/08/2026 20:21

Whatabout the army, whatabout Christians, whatabout catholics.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/08/2026 20:22

BubbleAndLeek · 25/08/2026 20:16

There was a poster once who just called it a "freak event" and wasn't reflective of what it's truly like in Germany

Probably the same people who didn't believe rape took place on 7th October.

5MinuteArgument · 25/08/2026 20:29

CornishDaughteroftheDawn · 25/08/2026 19:36

They are shocking cases and our Home Office has clearly been compromised by staff with an anti British, anti Christian agenda.

We shouldn’t be surprised, some senior Muslim leaders (and I’m not aware of any dissent from the other Muslim leaders) have been clear about their intentions to impose Islam and Sharia law on us and our current government are very keen to facilitate them. My only question is, why?

Yes, Islam is an expansionist religion. That can't really be denied. But politicians on both sides court the Muslim vote so they allow sectarianism to flourish. But they don't realise they're playing with fire.

MaturingCheeseball · 25/08/2026 20:36

The Greens are the pits. Look at that Spencer individual prancing around in Gorton & Denton - like the Muslim community there respected her. And the shady Mothin Ali lurking in the background with a burqa-clad wife.

The Greens want to repeal the ability to hold arrested suspected terrorists for longer than normal suspects, and no doubt want to make migrants not liable for any crime committed.

Violetdeparma · 25/08/2026 20:37

NancyThompson · 25/08/2026 19:31

@NullaEffugium

And then there was the Cologne incident

" Approximately 1,200 women were reported to have been sexually assaulted, especially in the city of Cologne. In many of the incidents, while these women were in public spaces, they were surrounded and assaulted by large groups of men who were identified by officials as men of North African and Arab origin.
"

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2015%E2%80%9316_New_Year%27s_Eve_sexual_assaults

I think the colonge assaults and various reporting of it was a big wake up call for me.

Violetdeparma · 25/08/2026 20:42

Menopausalsourpuss · 25/08/2026 19:01

I personally would like to take Christians who are being persecuted in places like Nigeria , it makes a lot more sense. To this country's shame there have been cases like Asia Bibi where asylum has been denied because of threats from Muslims https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2018/nov/13/asia-bibi-foreign-office-accused-of-allowing-pakistan-mob-to-dictate-asia-bibi-asylum-case
This one more recently was given asylum but Muslim home office staff tried to tamper with her application https://christianconcern.com/news/christian-woman-who-fled-islamic-persecution-overturns-asylum-decision/

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I wonder if this got investigated this is very worrying isn't it !
Deeply worrying and one wonders what the hell has been going on and just how powerful these behind the scenes influences are.

Violetdeparma · 25/08/2026 20:49

5MinuteArgument · 25/08/2026 19:16

Yes, I agree, women have closed ranks with their menfolk when it came to the grooming gangs. I dont want that mentality here. And of course they would bring their children with them and if granted LTR would be allowed to bring their families (a Palestinian woman was enabled by judges to bring 18 family members into the UK). No thankyou.

I imagine there was a strong loyal element to the closing of ranks but we can't forget that many women are married into uk families and often have very little English at all. I wonder how many such women understand the laws of our land and infact their own freedoms
The men come with their own fiefdoms and it's ingrained that what they say goes and this is backed up with sharia laws ,culture and segregation within the religion .
Added to all these controls women are often arranged marriaged to cousins which has been called out before as a form of unescapable control.
Layer upon layer of control and then commity elders who speak for them and so on .
That leaflet that went out really needs to be rolled out in schools and onto all commuties because we very much operate a two maybe three tier of freedoms in the UK.
It seems we think that some women don't need to have the same freedoms we do.

FirstNationsEnglish · 25/08/2026 20:53

GunnelVallquist · 24/08/2026 21:23

It is and it’s fucking (sorry) baffling to me.

Fabians! Changing culture and society by stealth - only it's not so stealthy any more.

Windsurf · 25/08/2026 22:05

Violetdeparma · 25/08/2026 20:49

I imagine there was a strong loyal element to the closing of ranks but we can't forget that many women are married into uk families and often have very little English at all. I wonder how many such women understand the laws of our land and infact their own freedoms
The men come with their own fiefdoms and it's ingrained that what they say goes and this is backed up with sharia laws ,culture and segregation within the religion .
Added to all these controls women are often arranged marriaged to cousins which has been called out before as a form of unescapable control.
Layer upon layer of control and then commity elders who speak for them and so on .
That leaflet that went out really needs to be rolled out in schools and onto all commuties because we very much operate a two maybe three tier of freedoms in the UK.
It seems we think that some women don't need to have the same freedoms we do.

A leaflet!

If that's how they are going to live there is absolutely no reason for us to provide them with space to do it in Britain.

LuckyHazelFox · 25/08/2026 22:44

CoventryCity · 25/08/2026 18:46

Unveiled: How Western Liberals Empower Radical Islam
by Yasmine Mohammed
Ayaan Hirsi Ali's Infidel meets The Handmaid's Tale

'The author argues that many well-meaning Western liberals and feminists are so afraid of being labelled "Islamophobic" (prejudiced against Muslims) that they turn a blind eye to real human rights abuses and misogyny within Islamic fundamentalism. '

Yet they frequently quote the horrors of the handmaid's tale on MN! Hypocritical cowards.

smallglassbottle · 25/08/2026 23:05

People hate Christians. Other religions teach and promote hatred of Christians. Communists hate Christians. Christians are killed and imprisoned every day because of their belief. Millions were deliberately killed under communist rule last century. Churches are being burned across the Western world. Europe's institutions were founded on Christianity. People on this very forum absolutely despise it and teach their children to despise and reject it.

I hope they enjoy the substitute. I hope they think it was all worth it.

ElenOfTheWays · 25/08/2026 23:48

somethigelse2 · 24/08/2026 23:15

It’s not bizarre. If your lovely hubby would challenge it and fight for women, fab. But I bet he wouldn’t. He’d accept it and benefit from it and he would be the same

Like the armed forces of the west that went to Afghanistan and massively improved the situation for women there while they were in charge you mean?
I know that's not actually WHY they were there but the effect of their presence is undeniable.

As soon as they withdrew the Taliban took over and turned the country back into a misogynistic shit hole.

But yes, western men are just as bad and would immediately roll over and join in being rapists and paedophiles because simply being there is just the green light they were all waiting for.
Except that's not what happened.

ElenOfTheWays · 25/08/2026 23:56

GaaNeen · 24/08/2026 23:17

Lets state the obvious:
violent crime is by far committed by men

some cultures have a greater misogyny and this reflects in increased violent crimes towards females

the small boats problem is by far men.
Large numbers of these men come from countries of misogynistic cultures,
this brings an increased risk of violent crime towards women

hence the leaflets

now to state the maybe not so obvious ..

I think part of the rationale for burnham planning to distribute these males into middle class areas, is to make it more a middle class problem -

currently these men are placed in deprived areas,

middle class liberals more likely to be vocal about we must welcome them, their human rights are valid etc … and the cost / impact of living amongst these people is not felt

if the middle class start to feel the cost and impact in their communities maybe they will stop getting in the way of policies that may actually stem the problem??

I had assumed this was the point tbh. Give the middle class lefty NIMBYS a taste and see how their liberal values stand up when it's their daughters in the firing line. I'm just surprised at a Labour Prime Minister coming up with it.
But maybe there's another agenda here. 🤷🏼‍♀️

ElenOfTheWays · Yesterday 00:02

CheeseyOnionPie · 24/08/2026 23:21

An elderly man was literally murdered by two teenagers in Leicestershire in 2024. Does that mean all teenagers should be banned from Leicestershire? You get bad people from all backgrounds and walks of life. You won’t suddenly have zero rapes and murders by stopping immigration.

Not one person on this thread has suggested that halting illegal immigration would result in zero rapes but nice strawman there.
All you have done here is show that you do not understand how safeguarding works.

ToadRage · Yesterday 00:04

If people need to be told not to rape women then surely these are the kind of people we can do without.

Fancyachangefromitall · Yesterday 00:11

ProudBlackMomma · 24/08/2026 16:41

It’s absolutely bonkers isn’t it? I fear in thirty years time we may all look around and shake our heads sadly at the mess the UK has become. It’s upsetting.

We are already doing this

GaIadriel · Yesterday 00:13

Msbond667 · 24/08/2026 12:23

As a survivor of a serious sexual assault by two men (at same time ) both white and English i have no fear of being attacked by a migrant. MEN rape. Its a male issue irelrvent of colour and anyone who bleats " we have enough rapists already " i will say just p off . If we have enough rapists in this country and your that concerned please tell me your history of campaigning against male violence ? Or are you just jumping on the racist bandwagon. I watched the cringeworthy gb news report from crowborough a few weeks ago and I seriously thought it could pass for a parody, much like that infamous brass eye pedogeddon show.. it was embsrrasing and a insult. Its about racism. Its about ignorance . A vast majority of the so called men shouting and screaming outside hotels have been proven to have dv convictions. Some more serious. One prominent one has a kidnap conviction. And they have the audacity to claim they care for womens safety. Its obscene. Judging by some ridiculous toe curling comments on here this thread should be renamed the great replacement conspiracy thread. Wonder how many posters are men ???

Edited

May I introduce you to the paragraph?

GaIadriel · Yesterday 00:15

A vast majority of the so called men shouting and screaming outside hotels have been proven to have dv convictions.

And how was this proven?