To be upset about meat being cooked in my house

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For context, I am 53 and a lifelong vegetarian. I have never cooked meat or eaten meat.

I was always clear with my kids that if they wanted to eat meat, it was their choice but it had to be out of the house. Put simply, I don’t want it in my house.

They both eat meat and I am ok with that.

But I came home and they have cooked it- used my wooden chopping board to cut it up. Left remnants on the worksurface.

i’m bloody upset and it feels so disrespectful frankly. It’s a real problem for me- I don’t want meat in my house- I have always been really clear about it.

aibu to be so upset about it? It’s a real problem for me.

With the exception of not cleaning up properly though, this doesn’t really impact op like the other things would. This is a food that the DC just want to put in their own bodies and is legal.

YANBU. Your house your rules, they should respect your boundaries.

I am a vegetarian, but I think you are being unreasonable to not let your children cook what they want in their own house. They should have cleaned up ofc but it’s their home too. You say you allow them to eat meat outside the house, but it’s really restrictive not to be able to cook a spag bol with mean on your own home or fry some bacon.

yeah that’s practical.

Agree with this. The fixed stance about no meat in the house is now leading to conflict because there is no agreed provision for meat eaters - if you had a more open initial position you could set boundaries around separate chopping boards etc

Carnivore species like cats have no molar teeth and cannot properly chew or digest plants.
Herbivore species like sheep have no sharp canine teeth and have dentition and a digestive tract optimised for digesting plant matter.
Omnivores have both canine teeth and molars and can digest both meat and plant foods.
Humans are evolved as omnivores and we need a variety of foods to be healthy. If a human tried to have an actually carnivorous diet eating no plant matter they would be very unhealthy. It is possible to eat a healthy vegetarian diet, as long as it is varied enough to get a full range of amnio acids from different sources, but people who aren't vegetarian are not carnivores.

Although cats are meat eaters tiny amounts of broccoli are quite safe but can result in farts 🙀

Some religions ban the cooking or eating of pork, there are some that are vegetarian only. Meat is not the only food.

This sounds an extremely balanced way and a way of avoiding conflict

It's their house too so get them separate chopping boards etc. and insist that they clean up properly

My cat quite likes veggies. And cheese. And other non meat stuff.

Is anyone else craving a steak now?!

So the answer to your original question would be yes you are being unreasonable to be upset by this. For the record I don’t eat meat, but to ban your children from eating it at home is ridiculous. This is their home and they can’t eat a bacon sandwich in it if they fancy. Yes they should of tidied up but now they are older I think you should re think he whole no meat at home

I eat meat, however it’s your house and your wishes should have been followed,

Morrissey would be in support of you.

I don’t get all these ‘it’s their home too posts’. If the children decided to repaint the living room walls in an abstract design because they wanted it to look like that would everyone say ‘it is their home too’. They can cook what they want when they have their own homes.

I’m lactose intolerant so do not have cheese, milk, cream, yoghurt etc as it generally makes me pretty ill. The smell of yogurt in particular makes me nauseous.
These are not banned from ‘my’ house because the other people who’s home it is do eat those things and it’s fundamentally unfair IMO to not allow people to eat food in their own home. If it was an allergy (nuts for example) that would be different

Stick to your guns, OP. My DD is veggie and there's no way I'd take meat into her home.
She also finds the look and smell of meat very difficult to deal with, so I understand your abhorrence.

I do find this strange.
I wouldn't have considered banning meat in my house, despite being a vegetarian.
Surely they just need to clean up properly after themselves and have separate chopping boards etc.

It's their home too so you banning them from eating meat in their home is a bit unreasonable. However I do get why you're upset about them using vegetable only chopping boards etc and not cleaning up.

The way forward could be having separate boards/utensils for them to prepare and cook meat so they don't feel alienated in their own home.

They must clean up though and that's a given.

This is not true. The Inuit have long thrived on a near 100% animal diet.

This can be highly impractical depending on the climate.

Installing a separate kitchen for the kids is a sensible solution.

Food (including meat) = substance = essential
Boyfriend sleeping over = non essential.

This won’t have been the first time they did it. They just forgot to clean up before you got home.

Honestly I can’t believe they can’t even have a packet of ham in the fridge for a sarnie let alone cook something they want.

There should be separate utensils but they should be allowed to cook meat in their own home.

All of which are illegal for children. If you said to an 18 year old they couldn’t drink in your house, yes you’d be unreasonable.

Still waiting to find out why these previously compliant children suddenly turned into feral carnivores.

It's perfectly reasonable for meat eaters to express their point of view. They are speaking on behalf of the OP's children.

Well no, because that is not the same at all.

Repainting a wall changes the whole look of the room until it is painted over, which costs time and money. And often children have their own rooms that they have a say in how they are decorated away from the communal areas of the house...I let both my kids decorate their rooms how they want.

There is no long standing/permanent damage to cooking a chicken breast to eat. Especially if the kids buy it and clean up after themselves