To think if you hate kids you shouldn’t have become a parent?

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I see so much of “I hate kids, I only like my own” on here, and I just think it’s awful.

You became a parent but you will actively hate your children’s friends, school mates, any other child running round and playing with your child in the park/play area etc.? How on earth do you cope in child/family oriented settings?

If you hate kids (apart from your own) why did you become a parent?

They're loud and annoying and...sticky.

I don't really like children in general. I like mine and close family and sometimes friends of my children. Wtf am I expected to live all.kids just because I have some?
Children are just small people. And most people are assholes 🤷

I agree, OP. I think it's to do with how many people are wired naturally to perceive any project that they are involved in as superior in some way to the things that other people do. And they extend it to their children. It's the Amandaland 'SoHa' effect. So naturally their children are funny, interesting, witty, polite, good mannered, while everyone else is raising little unpleasant little torags. The reality is that where there are no ties of family or friendship, we all have limited patience for the things done by other people, including children, and limited interest in them. And also we kind of mould our children in our image, if not in the fundamentals at least in the everyday habits that they adopt, so that they become less annoying to us than those who are unaccustomed to our habits.

Personally I think my children are probably objectively more annoying than the average child - they're loud, energetic and not blessed with an ounce of shyness. They certainly annoy me a fair amount so I assume they annoy others more. But they weren't put on this planet to be my personal vanity project or to shine reflected glory on me, and they're quite funny to be around sometimes, so I try to enjoy their company as much as I can and limit the annoyance they cause others to reasonable levels, while defending their right to exist and take up space in society.

It's a natural biological urge? The sex drive, which until recently no one questioned, is said to exist to drive us all to reproduce.
And it's not so much about hating kids, but not getting lumbered with ones who are badly behaved/going along with other people who let their kids annoy people and think the world revolves around their kids. Most of the "hate" posts are about people stuck with babysitting/annoyed with entitlement.
And many people are happy coping with one kid-it's multiple they can't stand the idea of.

Mine are only 16 months apart because I knew if I had a larger age gap, I just wouldn't have bothered doing it again. The newborn/baby stage was a means to an end for me, just like pregnancy was.