To expect everyone at my wedding to stick to the colour scheme?

[Autumnalbride]

I'm having an autumn themed wedding. I've asked everyone, all the wedding party, family and all the guests to wear autumn colours - brown, orange, yellow, red etc.
Some of the men want to wear grey suits but I am upset by this because I don't see grey as an autumn colour. They say they will wear autumn coloured ties and accessories but I said I want the suits to be in Autumn colours
Is this unreasonable?

What if someone doesn’t have a brown suit? Are they expected to buy something new to match the colour scheme? Don’t be daft OP, YABU

Bridezilla alert.

I hope someone turns up looking like this 🤣

How’s about you request the men wear Ghillie suits OP ? Only with autumnal leaves rather than the usual green ones.

All for the photos ehh?

I'd really love to see your fiancé's wedding outfit. Will it be a different colour to your dress?

A wedding is about celebrating getting married and enjoying the moment.
It is not a fashion show for Instagram.

So let me see.

Yellow is an autumn colour.

Big Bird is yellow

Therefore it'd be OK to turn up dressed as Big Bird.

I'm in.

Brown suits then? Very 1970's! If I were an invited guest I would struggle tbh as no autumn colours suit me! I probably wouldn't attend. In others words 'YABVU'

With the exception of the people you're buying outfits for (bridesmaids, ushers, best men), you don't tell anyone what to wear.
Taking it this is a joke? Because who would seriously expect anyone to spend a fortune on something they'll never wear again?

People aren't made of money. They may have more important things to spend their money on, like the gas bill, or rent, or food.

Sorry - I know to you it's the biggest day of your life, but for everyone else it's another wedding. Most people outside the wedding party probably won't even notice a request to stick to a colour scheme, let alone follow it.

Entirely unreasonable . I wouldn't come to your wedding.
Its meant to a solemn comittment to another person. All the rest of it is superfluous attention seeking nonsense.

Reverse surely

A decent quality suit costs a minimum of £400. A good quality one will be £1000 or more. A man buys a small number of suits in neutral colours and then accessorieses for each event, wearing the same suits every event. None of your male guests are buying a suit especially for your wedding, even if it is geing bought new it will be used for dozens more events so choosing a colour to suit you is very inappropriate.

Grey is certainly an autumn colour. It's the colour of the sky on most autumn days.

I did buy a brown suit once. In the shop I was happy with it, but once I was at work it seemed awful, it was a total waste of money. Brown can work for a flowing lacey dress. A suit in brown does not work.

Why don’t you offer to buy everyone a new suit?

If you are buying their outfits for them then Yanbu. But if they are buying their own then yabu.

Someone's bored.

So you expect all the men to buy new suits in brown? Seriously?

This is shallow, vacuous nonsense. Have a really serious think about why your guests wearing specific coloured clothing matters. It’s got nothing to do with love, that’s for sure. Now remind yourself why you’re meant to be getting married.

Aww c’mon op it’s no fun when you don’t come back to argue the toss.

I hope every man gets an orange suit, so it looks like a Tango wedding

Sorry that is in the Bridezilla realm

You’re so unreasonable that it must be a wind-up.

On the off chance it isn’t, a man shouldn’t have to buy a new suit to attend your wedding, if he already has a perfectly good suit. It’s more than reasonable of them to say they’ll accessorise it within the colour scheme.

You’re so unreasonable that it must be a wind-up.

On the off chance it isn’t, a man shouldn’t have to buy a new suit to attend your wedding, if he already has a perfectly good suit. It’s more than reasonable of them to say they’ll accessorise it within the colour scheme.