Have you ever known the woman to leave the family home and leave the kids behind? (title edited by MNHQ at request of the OP)

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Or did you leave yourself?

It seems to be very rare, but it surely must happen

I know one woman who walked away completely, leaving her children with her ex.
I didnt know her at that time but later. By the time i knew her she was in another relationship and had children with that man. She said she had left because the first man was abusive. She walked away and left the children with him.

Someone I know did it twice.

to nest?

Yes, a family I knew many years ago. The mum walked out on her 4 children and her husband. One of the sons told my brother that they were badly in debt and she couldn't cope. The parents divorced and the dad eventually remarried to a lovely woman, whom the children all called mum. The real mum took the youngest child out every week but the older 3 would never have anything to do with her.

Yes I had one friend at secondary school who lived with her dad. Her mum had mental health issues (addiction, bipolar) and so had left them.

However I knew 20+ who lived with their single mum.

Yes three. Two work colleagues and my best friend who left two kids and actually emigrated with the affair partner leaving the kids behind. Each went to their own father so sadly the siblings didn't end up together and lost contact.

I know of 2 women who did this. Not sure of many of the circumstances of 1 of them but the other I think, having got to know her ex husband, she was at least emotionally abused by him. It doesn’t excuse it but might explain it. Both of them left for another man and went to live with him and neither had a job at the time so none of their own income except maybe child benefit and similar so they had fewer practical options. Not saying I’d have made the same choices ( in fact I didn’t- when I left I took my kids with me, it didn’t occur to me to not do so) but I try really hard to not get

I moved out but i didn’t leave the kids or take them, we did 50:50 from when i moved out.

My dsis did. Her husband came home one day and gave her the old script. He loved her but wasn’t in love. He needed space to process how he feels. He’d been unhappy for years. All this was totally out the blue. Dsis got up, went and packed a bag and when she came down he went to take it from her thinking she had packed a bag for him. She told her boys she would see them Friday and she left.

she stayed with me for a few months regularly seeing her dc. She then got her own place and has her dc 50/50.

she wasn’t letting that prick think he could just bop off and make a new life. And that’s what he wanted. He spent the first few weeks after she left screaming down the phone insisting she came home and took responsibility for the dc. He was livid she had left him without childcare (he worked part time, Dsis was full time breadwinner). And the bit on the side that he was inevitably hiding got in touch calling Dsis a bad mother. Then promptly dumped him anyway lol.

she doesn’t take no shit my Dsis lol

Met my now husband when he was bringing up his 2 children on his own ( they were 2 and 4), his wife had been on a girlie weekend overseas , met the man of her dreams and decided to pack her bags and go and be with him !
went on to marry him and have 2 further children with the guy , left him with the children for another man and has now married him and had a further child at the age of 49 !!

Op, nest is where the parents rent a separate place for them, the kids stay in the family home. Then parents take turns to live in family home. Its so the kids can continue to live at home

Yes a woman at my DD's school, she had remarried and had another child and her two adult sons that she had left with her supposedly abusive first husband as very small children had 'found' her (only her new husband knew about her previous family). The new found relationship with her sons didn't last long, and she divorced the second husband soon after, breaking up a second family. She was really not very nice.

I've known of two - both happened in the 70s.

1. I'm told Aunt was in an abusive relationship and ran off with a colleague. Her husband apparently threatened to kill her if she took her young son. My grandparents (her mum) didn't believe her, and disowned her. All happened when I was very small.
2. An ex boyfriend's mum ran off with another man and although she sued for custody, she didn't win, and he didn't see her again.

In both cases, the children involved (now men) have serious trust issues with women. In the first case he never got married and is very much a loner. In the second, he's turned into a very controlling, misogynistic man. I ended the relationship when he tried the "you'll leave me, just like my mum" - couldn't cope with that repeatedly. He's rich, self-made, and married to a stay at home mum who he keeps very close. She doesn't have any friends, hobbies, and the kids have now left home.

Yes I do. One child has a good relationship with the mother. The other child’s relationship with her has never recovered. And that’s after 20 years.

My first sister in law did, she ran off with a guy who lived across the road from her leaving my bil to look after their 2 year old niece and 8 month old nephew. She then went on to have 4 more dc with the guy she ran off with.

Neice and nephew are now in their 30’s and have nothing to do with their mother - nephew actively despises her.

Yeah,I knew what she meant too,but some people don't read the OP or are only borrowing the brain cell

My mum

I knew one, I couldn't fathom it. We didn't stay friends.

About 30 years ago, a friend's wife left her husband and 2 little boys who were about 4 and 5. She had recently started working and presumably found out what she was missing.

My late OH's mum took his younger brother and left him, aged 6, with his Dad. We found out years later that one if her sisters looked after the brother for a large part of his childhood.
She had MH issues having been in hospital for several weeks when OH was about 2. He didn't see her again until he was in his late 40s, then saw her once per year until his death. She didn't attend his funeral.

It affected him massively and had repercussions throughout his life.

In almost 40 yrs I only taught 2 families where the mother had left the children in the family home and had no further contact, at least until I lost contact with the children, as they moved schools.

Yes I know someone but it didn’t end well.

My mom walked out on my pre-teen siblings.
She had taken a live in job in a hotel. Really screwed up her relationship with my sibs. Id already left home.

My mom’s sister walked out & left her two preteen kids. Fractured the relationship.

A sister in law of mine walked out & left her baby girl. Baby was adopted by another member of the family so at least remained within her natural tribe.

Mothers walk out on their kids more often than we ever know. It’s seems so unnatural but it happens.

I know two friends who's mothers left when they were 13/14. It affected them both very badly. Both are very insecure in their relationships with women, have trust issues 😕

Someone I used to work with was married to a man whose first wife had left him and two very young children. He picked them up from nursery one day and came home to find a note and all her stuff gone. She'd left with another man and had no contact for years, then reappeared wanting custody when the children were late primary school age. I'm not sure what happened in the end as I changed job and we lost contact after a while but I think it was very traumatic for all concerned.