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Lindsay Clancy was let down

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hds873banana · 14/08/2026 10:47

For those of you who may not know, Lindsay Clancy is an American mother who killed her three children (all under age 5) then tried to commit suicide by throwing herself out of a window, and is now wheelchair bound as a result. Her defence is she was in the throws of post natal psychosis.

You can watch the full trial on Court TV. The trial is ongoing now.

She was totally let down by the system, the doctors, maybe even her husband. I’ve never watched a full trial and been so appalled at what I am seeing and hearing. Kevin Reddington her lawyer needs an award.

It is interesting to me because I have a close relative who I’ve cared for for over a decade who is regularly in psychosis. The lack of understanding of psychosis generally is wild. I My relative can slip in and out of psychosis on a minute by minute basis some days.

I really hope Lindsay’s defence lawyer gets the best outcome for her even though her life is completely ruined whatever the outcome of the trial.

OP posts:
Missey85 · Today 05:41

Firefly1987 · Today 00:34

So it's different to regular old psychosis? She's special because she's a woman and a mother? I guess that's a get out of jail card.

Only woman are allowed to be depressed 😂 if a guy did this they'd be ripping him to shreds! But a woman gets to say she was crazy and get away with it ❤️ ❤️

Missey85 · Today 05:45

Redpaisley · Today 01:28

I didn’t know about this case. Yes I have been living under a rock for some time and trying to avoid news.

I just read about this case. It’s so tragic but I find it strange that with a year of losing all his 3 kids, he was in a new relationship. Apparently, new wife is so vivacious, she helped him heal his trauma in a year.

He started dating her within months of the tragedy. I can’t help but suspect that he may have killed the kids and tried to kill his wife and as she had a compromised mental health, she thinks she did it. Also, even if he didn’t kill kids, why he left his kids with their mother was listening such voices. He just asked her and she said she can manage the kids alone. Both parents failed those sweet kids.

Christ a guy does absolutely nothing wrong but of course you'll twist it to still be his fault? God forbid he move on in life

Zanatdy · Today 05:46

I have watched the trial every day. These ridiculous Patrick did it theories are detracting from what should be a focus on women’s mental health. Especially in the US when mat leave is so short. What shocks me is the amount of people believing these ridiculous suggestions, that Patrick did it, I mean some of the things they’ve suggested are insane. When Lindsay has admitted it, and told 2 people before she had thoughts of harming the kids. It’s got Jay Slater / Nicola Bulley hysteria all over it.

Missey85 · Today 05:49

PaulAndPaulineCalf · Today 00:07

But it all seems very circular to me. “She’s a woman and she killed her three children in a horrific way so she must have been psychotic”. People almost seem to want to believe this, based on the awfulness of the crime.

They rather believe she was psycho it's better than the alternative that she just killed her kids and didn't care the answers would be very different if this was a father that killed his children

Zanatdy · Today 05:51

iveseenthefilms · 19/08/2026 17:47

It’s so strange that her dna wasn’t on all murder weapons and he was happily married again within months of it!

Her DNA was there. If you watch the trial it was explained when its a family object and everyone is closely related, individual DNA doesn’t always show. It’s laughable people believe Patrick did it just because he had now remarried. I feel so sorry for this guy, as if it isn’t bad enough to lose 3 children and find them all, crazy people on social media are suggesting you did it. Everyone praising Lindsay’s lawyer Kevin Reddingon, but they really think he’s spent 3yrs on this case and wouldn’t mention if he thought it wasn’t her? His opening statement was she did it, that’s an agreed fact. People need to stop with the Patrick blame.

Zanatdy · Today 05:52

Missey85 · Today 05:45

Christ a guy does absolutely nothing wrong but of course you'll twist it to still be his fault? God forbid he move on in life

Agreed. And no-one knows when he started dating her, it’s all just rubbish they read online. So gullible. And so what, just because he has moved on, doesn’t make him suspicious in anyway. Lindsay committed these crimes and is not denying she did.

Sometimeswinning · Today 05:56

Missey85 · Today 05:41

Only woman are allowed to be depressed 😂 if a guy did this they'd be ripping him to shreds! But a woman gets to say she was crazy and get away with it ❤️ ❤️

Her defence is PPP. She sought help for it constantly. This is about how women are treated after pregnancy. This is about the lack of support women receive.

Men don’t get PPP. They get depressed but this case is specifically about a woman and other woman resonate with it. Watch the trial, you will see how she was ignored and fobbed off with random medications.

So it’s not ignoring men and depression, it’s just not about them. It’s bizarre anyone mentions a man in a case about depression linked with pregnancy.

allthingsinmoderation · Today 06:17

ktopfwcv · Today 02:46

On her knees but not following the medical advice or treatment? Ok

Non compliance with medical advice is often seen in psychosis .

allthingsinmoderation · Today 06:24

Zanatdy · Today 05:46

I have watched the trial every day. These ridiculous Patrick did it theories are detracting from what should be a focus on women’s mental health. Especially in the US when mat leave is so short. What shocks me is the amount of people believing these ridiculous suggestions, that Patrick did it, I mean some of the things they’ve suggested are insane. When Lindsay has admitted it, and told 2 people before she had thoughts of harming the kids. It’s got Jay Slater / Nicola Bulley hysteria all over it.

When an admission from a clearly severely mentally ill,over medicated,under medically supervised woman is accepted seemingly without question and without other evidence this is bound to lead to speculation some of it is wild.

HRTQueen · Today 06:42

Firefly1987 · Yesterday 22:56

If this was a dad with MH issues there wouldn't be all these apologists for him. Seen it before on here-women can do no wrong.

ffs this is very clearly a case of someone becoming psychotic, they are not able to think logically their actions are driven by their delusional thoughts/voices

there are many cases of men killing people while they are psychotic and will be treated in secure hospitals, often a close relative

server postpartum depression can lead to postpartum psychosis, the reason why is thought to be many factors one being shift in hormones (which men will not get after birth) which she was treated for this is thankfully rare and as men do not give birth they are not treated for postpartum depression psychosis

MintChocCat · Today 06:47

I don’t think she did it. When husband discovered her, he claimed that she told him the children were downstairs but her thyroid was completely destroyed apparently and couldn’t speak. Also her Apple Watch wasn’t on her. Speculation that he used it to send messages. He showed barely any emotion in court, whereas she regularly broke down crying. He moved on very quickly with a new woman. It doesn’t seem right to me. I do think she was very unwell though.

Sometimeswinning · Today 07:04

MintChocCat · Today 06:47

I don’t think she did it. When husband discovered her, he claimed that she told him the children were downstairs but her thyroid was completely destroyed apparently and couldn’t speak. Also her Apple Watch wasn’t on her. Speculation that he used it to send messages. He showed barely any emotion in court, whereas she regularly broke down crying. He moved on very quickly with a new woman. It doesn’t seem right to me. I do think she was very unwell though.

You do realise reporters who have heard the 911 call have said the word basement was said by LC right? So it’s no longer a question. It is fact. You know she slit her wrists? Why do you think she took off her watch?

You don’t get to judge how PC holds himself in court. He lost everything that night. LC isn’t a constant mess. She’s sat up, watching and listening. You saw a snippet of him. Stop repeating and start looking yourself. At least have a fresh opinion on it.

Clar1ty · Today 07:08

MintChocCat · Today 06:47

I don’t think she did it. When husband discovered her, he claimed that she told him the children were downstairs but her thyroid was completely destroyed apparently and couldn’t speak. Also her Apple Watch wasn’t on her. Speculation that he used it to send messages. He showed barely any emotion in court, whereas she regularly broke down crying. He moved on very quickly with a new woman. It doesn’t seem right to me. I do think she was very unwell though.

Have you ever supported somebody with severe mental illness?

So the sane father who’s got a rock solid alibi did it because he fled to another city to rebuild after losing everything in the most unimaginable circumstances and suffering a long time supporting somebody who was incredibly mentally ill. The same person who supports his wife now along with his family?

That is ridiculous.

Zanatdy · Today 07:21

allthingsinmoderation · Today 06:24

When an admission from a clearly severely mentally ill,over medicated,under medically supervised woman is accepted seemingly without question and without other evidence this is bound to lead to speculation some of it is wild.

You have no clue what was investigated in early days. For a start, Patrick is on video a few miles from home and has an alibi. You’re all bonkers if you think Patrick is guilty. Have you seen any of the videos of reporters who heard the 911 call? The reason it is withheld is because it is so harrowing. Patrick could have probably done more to support Lindsay, but he did not kill the kids. That’s not even up for discussion in the court, as Patrick is being tried only by people on social media who have nothing better to do than make up stuff to make the case more exciting for them. Its a disgrace to the memory of those children, and completely unfair to Patrick, and worse of all, detracts from the serious issues that should he focussed on here, lack of post natal womens health care.

Namechangewegovyjune26 · Today 07:24

TheJuryIsOut · 14/08/2026 10:48

I'm not one for conspiracy theories but I'm actually starting to wonder if she did it at all. The husband is quite suspicious in what he says and has contradicted himself on a few occasions now.

Did you see the footage of him on the day out when he was just lurking behind?

At best he was being totally unaware and shit father, she was baby carrying and wrangling two little ones. But his manner just seemed really creepy and off to me.

Clar1ty · Today 07:34

Re the OP what has struck me is how shit her psychiatry was in the lead up.

Sartre · Today 07:39

TeenLifeMum · Yesterday 22:21

It’s a fascinating case. Her mother in law supporting her. This feels very different to other murder cases. I do think that people who haven’t any knowledge about psychosis will struggle to understand. Thankfully it’s rare. My friend’s wife tried to kill him and stood screaming in the street about aliens. It took 10 police officers to get her safe. She has no recollection and 5 years later she’s on a low dose of medication, very much in love with her husband and raising their child. There was a point I feared we’d get the call she’d killed then both (her dh and dc) because mh support following crisis was awful.

I agree, that’s what surprised me too. She seems to have full support from everyone who knows her, including her MIL who was incredibly kind towards her despite everything. The ex husband is something else. He went on holiday a month later with his new woman and he’s already remarried Lindsey’s doppelgänger. Her lawyer is fantastic.

Pullie · Today 08:07

when I was at my lowest I literally had to have my husband do all my pharmacy runs and keep track of the 4 pills I took daily. He stood and watched me take them. My head was so gone I couldn’t organise myself to do this independently. I have a first class degree from Oxford. But my mind was gone. I couldn’t even remember the name of my dog that had passed the year before at one point. I was on some of the same medications I’ve seen Lindsay was prescribed. They are no joke. If I wasn’t supported I have no clue where I would be. I would walk around and literally only see methods of suicide - tall building, busy road etc. I had never had mental health issues prior to giving birth

MintChocCat · Today 08:19

Sometimeswinning · Today 07:04

You do realise reporters who have heard the 911 call have said the word basement was said by LC right? So it’s no longer a question. It is fact. You know she slit her wrists? Why do you think she took off her watch?

You don’t get to judge how PC holds himself in court. He lost everything that night. LC isn’t a constant mess. She’s sat up, watching and listening. You saw a snippet of him. Stop repeating and start looking yourself. At least have a fresh opinion on it.

I can do whatever I like actually, you don’t get to tell me what to do. This is a public forum, I’m entitled to my own opinions, as are you 👍

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The only person who is being defensive and childish is you. You are attacking me for voicing an opinion. Stop name calling just because I do not agree with you. How vile.

Sometimeswinning · Today 08:59

MintChocCat · Today 08:47

The only person who is being defensive and childish is you. You are attacking me for voicing an opinion. Stop name calling just because I do not agree with you. How vile.

Says the person accusing a dad of not reacting how she expects him to. Thats vile.

I just said check your facts. A quick google will tell you exactly what I’ve said. But that’s completely up to you 😂 I’m just suggesting before you get upset again!!

Missey85 · Today 09:00

HRTQueen · Today 06:42

ffs this is very clearly a case of someone becoming psychotic, they are not able to think logically their actions are driven by their delusional thoughts/voices

there are many cases of men killing people while they are psychotic and will be treated in secure hospitals, often a close relative

server postpartum depression can lead to postpartum psychosis, the reason why is thought to be many factors one being shift in hormones (which men will not get after birth) which she was treated for this is thankfully rare and as men do not give birth they are not treated for postpartum depression psychosis

So it's ok for a women to murder kids because they've just got to say the magic words?

MintChocCat · Today 09:03

Sometimeswinning · Today 08:59

Says the person accusing a dad of not reacting how she expects him to. Thats vile.

I just said check your facts. A quick google will tell you exactly what I’ve said. But that’s completely up to you 😂 I’m just suggesting before you get upset again!!

Leave it alone mate, I shared my opinion on a forum. Your reaction is extreme and unnecessary.

Sometimeswinning · Today 09:08

MintChocCat · Today 09:03

Leave it alone mate, I shared my opinion on a forum. Your reaction is extreme and unnecessary.

Just a bit more knowledgeable about the case than you. (Way more) Did you
want me to find the links for you?