Whats the point of consent and asking permission if you get lied to

[MrsOctaviaCharlotteSmythe]

Whats the point of consent and permission ? friends meal and they cover the cost, they said here is x amount get what you want, so permission is asked what the limit is eg £20 and i can get whatever food / takeaway with it, the yes permission is given that i can buy what i want within the budget.

turns out a day or two after wards a sarcastic comment was made because i had 2 jacket potatoes with different toppings, so i said why is that an issue and it turns out that they still thought id get one instead of two ,

so i said i asked permission of what the budget was and i did ask what i could get then all i got was oh id still thought you would get 1 so i said why then say i can get x why not just say and be honest.

i guess this is more me moaning but why do people do this, say yes to x then they actually want you do to x instead its like why ?

before anyone asks we usually do a weekly meal out, and no they are fairly wealthy

So stop taking advantage of your friend.

but not because of them potatoes

Oh. I must read a lot more Cheeky Fucker threads than you then!!

just friends from uni days

mines more relationship ones or friend ones

Pay your own food and move on. Not that hard.

i mentioned sheldon, because to him yes is yes no is no and help yourself is help yourself same with me, if i ask permission and get told yes then yes is yes

Because it's greedy and taking the piss! Jesus wept...

true, but people are difficult

You do realise it's fiction? Nothing to do with your friendship or lunch money.

Just pay your own food.

no but it helps me make my point of how i understand things when yes is yes etc

OP if your friend starts with that "I insist" stuff I would be honest. Say no, I'm sorry but you have expectations of what food I can order that I don't understand and so I find it too stressful when you buy food for me. I'll just buy my own and we'll eat together.

It makes you appear rigid and stuck. Drop it if you even want to continue your friendship or have the slightest desire to understand social relationships outside the world of fiction.

HE IS NOT REAL, AND NOT A ROLE MODEL.

Asking permission is quite infantilising?

Thank you.

OP, your friend buys you lunch every week. What do you bring to the friendship? Do you help he with lifts to work, or babysitting, or gardening or is it just that you take because you believe she has more money than you?

Even people who are wealthy don't like feeling like they're being taken advantage of. And no one would say have what you like but don't order two mains - cos who orders two mains!

i know that, i used it as a way to explain how i understood people at times

i order because they were medium sized poatoes

true but i would not need to if they didnt moan

ok in real life when should yes mean no and no mean yes ?

fair points

whatever - you ordered two mains.

what do you bring to the friendship or do you just take?

You are being ridiculous.