To find this entitled?

[Aaaaaaaaaaaaahh]

This doesn't apply to people with childcare or caring responsibilities, any sort of illness or disability which means they cannot work full time.
But I've seen a few people on here or social media basically saying 'I can do supply/care work/0 hours work and sometimes only get a shift or two a week, because my husband earns well.'

So they're pretty much choosing to swan about and avoid full-time work, because they assume their husband or partner will carry on in their high-earning, full time role.

What happens if this husband loses their job, becomes sick, or just decides they're sick of having to be the breadwinner?

I see it all the time on supply teacher pages,'Oh I've only had 1 day of work in 2 months but it's fine because my husband is the breadwinner!!'

There are other jobs where you could make a living, you just don't want to do them, yet you still want your dream forever house and luxury lifestyle. If it were the wife full-time and the husband taking the piss there would be uproar.

You can disagree all you like, but for many of us, you are simply incorrect.

Yes it is silly but you cant do much about it other than experience smugness when it blows up in their faces

Beyond that I'd keep your nose out

What a twattish pov.

I work 2 days a week, my husband is a highish earner. We made the decision together and if at any point it doesn’t work for one of us anymore we will review it together as a family. Nobody is taking advantage of anyone. We have 2 young kids, and due to our work schedule we don’t need any breakfast club/ after school care. Our evening s are spent having dinner together, playing in the garden, going a walk/bike ride. Not rushing home at 6pm stressed and hungry and trying to get everyone fed and down as quickly as possible. My husband and I spend every evening together after the kids are in bed, not running around doing chores and making packed lunches and ironing uniforms. Our weekends are spent doing family activities not catching up on the house work that couldn’t get done during the week. Yes it’s a privilege but no it’s not entitled and no my husband doesn’t feel taken advantage of, he benefits greatly for the arrangement!

Ok...just saying !

I hope you're right. Best of luck. 🍀

People probably say this about me. My husband works full-time, the funding for my job ended and I chose not to look for full-time work as I’m happy in a relief role that will be around 15/20hours per week instead. If anyone asks, I always say my husband earns well (for what it’s worth, he does) but in actual fact, we have no mortgage because I bought our house outright and I have loads in savings that earn interest. I just don’t want to disclose my finances to everyone and feel it’s easier to say he earns well that go into details. He does earn well but if it wasn’t for me buying the house and earning interest on my money, we wouldn’t afford the cars, holidays or lifestyle that we have. I find it amusing that most people look at me as a low earner that relies on my husband financially when it couldn’t be less true, but its nobody else’s business.

No idea.

I supported my partner for many years as he has a debilitating autoimmune condition, now in remission, but my God it's been a tough 15 years.

I've never been financially supported by a man, so maybe I'm in the minority and don't really understand.

I don't need it, I'm the higher earner (now). But when I wasn't I didn't need luck either, I have my finances well sorted and always have done.
This notion that every SAHM or economically inactive woman is a fucking moron utterly dependent on a man is patronising misogynist bullshit.

I do it now (0 hours teaching contract). But I'm 62 and worked long enough. Juggled 4 kids while he was working abroad. I love doing a few days in my old school but I absolutely can't do it full time now. I'm too old and too sarcastic. I don't swan about though! DH is a bit older than me and works ft still but it's sitting on a chair work and he gets paid way more than I ever did as a teacher.

I just can't see what business it is of yours OP. Envy is very unattractive.

Why do you care about other people’s, (especially strangers) domestic arrangements? Its none of your business.

If your life is making you unhappy, and I assume it is if you’re stewing over other women not working, you need to address that not waste time thinking about and judging other people’s lives, whether you know them or not.

I'm sure you're right.

I am, but you still sound patronising.

Apologies. I'll try to do better.

What a twattish reply. Get a grip.

I believe i have one, but you seem confused.

No looking at most of your responses on here you appear to be a confused troll, arguing with yourself and showing your ass. I'd stop if I were you before you embarrass yourself further. You're in the minority and acting like a child. Do yourself a favour.

Until fairly recently, society expected women to stop working when they married and concentrate on running an efficient home so that the man could pursue his career. My mum was a journalist who worked full-time, and quite anti-social hours - there were a few of her cohort of mums who felt she must be letting the side down and neglecting her home and family. She certainly found childcare and buying fresh food a problem.

My life is sort of like this. I have two children, both with conditions/additional needs. They have their challenges but are great kids and not wheelchair users or anything like that but do need extra support. Me & DH discussed 2 years ago about me giving up work. I was earning about 13k (part time). Since I left DH has had 2 pay rises that exceed that 13k. It makes financial sense as well as practical for us. He recognises that by me being at home it allows him to further his career quicker than if I was working and he was having to pick up the slack. Each to their own.

Haha, I had that convo with DH many years ago when he suggested he went part-time rather than me for childcare purposes. I said not a chance, if I'm at home with DC I'll also be doing laundry, shopping cooking cleaning as well as making the sure the kids are exercised ,suitably entertained ( not left in front of the TV while DH buried himself in the paper) fed a balanced diet, do their homework, get to clubs on time etc. I was multi-tasking the whole time. DH would not have been doing that. He would have been lounging around all day, and I would have come home to no dinner, a huge mess and whingeing children.

Even without the childcare element, I think most women who work part-time or sporadically,do it as part of a family decision that life runs more smoothly for everyone if one person has a bit more time to deal with the practicalities of running a home. Why should both people have to work full-time? Why do you have an expectation that they should?
You might say a lot of what I've said is potentially sexist, and technically you might be right, but the reality is that once there are children, even if they are at school, there is a lot more grunt work that needs to be done in order for the household to function. Women are often the default parent . Of course there must be men who shoulder the life admin but `I've only ever met one who was able to run the household as well as his female partner.
Even if you remove children from the equation entirely, there are still valid reasons for one partner being at home more flexibly than the other.

That's your feelings and opinion for your life, many live like this, my husband is the breadwinner asked me to leave my job at 30 so we could live different places abroad, travel etc it was a joint choice that suits us both then and still suits us 15years later, we didn't have alot of money back then so was risky as I had a good job but I trusted him and it has paid off, we made sacrifices for each other but we're happy living our lives our way if you don't agree with that that's ok it's not your life to live, I don't see it as sponging as its a choice and the path that we chose together as a couple.

We all need to get used to the idea that work is optional in the age of AI. Find another purpose.

Argue against what? Traditional roles used to be that way. Can't change history. Nowadays they refer to these women as a "tradwife".

Per AI
A "tradwife" (short for traditional wife) is a married woman who chooses to embrace traditional gender roles, focusing on homemaking, cooking, cleaning, and raising children while supporting her husband as the primary financial provider. The term is heavily popularized by an online social media subculture.

I would say nine times out of ten when women complain the husband is not fully employed, he's not pulling his weight in the home either. I stayed at home when children were young and worked part time later. My husband was very happy with it because he didn't want to be doing washing/ ironing, can't cook to save his life etc. I also did majority of gardening and decorating etc. He was building a business where he could earn much more than working for someone else. If I had worked full time we would have been paying cleaners, decorators and gardeners. So no a distribution of labour is not sponging. Do I deserve recognition for work I do. I have savings and pension in my own name, I'm not a mug and neither is my husband. Also I did not vegitate, I studied with the OU for the sheer pleasure of pursuing subjects that interested me and achieved degrees doing it, it was my hobby. Your post and it's tone drip with festering jealousy, it kind of proves the old adage that comparision is the thief of joy.