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To think this shows poor follow-through before a first date?

78 replies

ThisOliveTurtle · 31/07/2026 23:59

I met a man through a mutual friend at her event. We got on well and later started messaging.

Last weekend he asked when I’d next be in London. I told him I’d be in London this Saturday (tomorrow) late afternoon because I already had appointments there. He then suggested three different areas and asked which I’d prefer. He said if I had no preference he could figure something out. I replied that I was happy with any of them and would leave it to him to decide. He then replied saying he’d “work something out.”

Since then, I haven’t contacted him again because he’d said he’d organise it.
It’s now late Friday evening and I still haven’t heard anything. As things stand, we have no confirmed time or place for tomorrow.

AIBU to think this is poor follow-through? I don’t think someone has to organise everything days in advance, but if you say you’ll work something out, I’d expect to hear back before the day you’re meant to meet.

OP posts:
Spiffingdarling88 · 03/08/2026 10:01

Anyahyacinth · 02/08/2026 14:50

Interesting tell...'spite your face'

Congratulations

Ump · 03/08/2026 10:30

BlackRowan · 02/08/2026 23:30

No I agree with you, this is poor. he should have confirmed specific plans sooner. The fact he messages you on the day of the date to reconfirm if you are still free makes it clear that in his head plans weren’t confirmed either. Bin him.

Why bin him? They had a lovely date and have arranged another one.

AgileMentor · 03/08/2026 21:49

Crushed23 · 01/08/2026 11:00

“princessy” to want a man to organise a date he said he would organise 😂😂

Pull you standards up from the gutter, woman!

To which he did organise and she said at 10am it was ‘late’. They weren’t meant to meet until evening so yes a bit princessy and nightmarish.

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