AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

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Basically, my 17 year old daughter wants to go to watch the new Spider-Man movie at 845pm this Wednesday, and she's going to the town about a thirty minute drive from us because that's where her friend is (and this is a town we are very familiar with etc. we used to live here but it's still obviously not super near as a local cinema).

She'll reach there by about 730 and hang out with her friend for a bit till the movie but the movie is about 2 hours 20 mins + adverts so I don't think it'll be finished till close to 12am. Then I have to go and collect her and I'm really worried about her safety of being out so late at night and I feel like I shouldn't allow her to go because it's so late and it will be dark by that time obviously even though it's summer...

She booked this time because all the other times were sold out and she wanted to see it specifically on opening night but I'm having serious doubts.

She’s 17, not 7? It’s not like she’s got school tomorrow.

No. Her dd is 17 years old. It’s a perfectly normal time to be out for that age, be it for parties, work, other.

The expectation was that the OP picked her up so not sure what the ‘non driving’ relevance is.

Midnight is not the ‘evening’ either.

I’m not sure if you haven’t read the thread, but the op isn’t ’expected’ to pick her up. She wants to pick her up as she doesn’t want her to get a cab.

I have a 17 year old. We do not pick her up at midnight on any night she fancies, and neither do her friends parents.

There is literally no real life parent of a 17 year old girl other than on mumsnet who would let them get a taxi at midnight. But 🤣

And mine wouldn’t have in 1992 either if I was alone.

Anyway you all crack on, the OP is NBU. Other than for asking bizarre questions on mumsnet.

Stop being ridiculous 🤣🤣🤣🤣

The OP isn’t “expected” to pick her up. Deary me.

The OP would be well within her right to tell her daughter “have fun at the cinema, make sure you get home via bus or uber with your friend, take your key I’ll be in bed”.

Giving that cinemas are usually in retail parks, shopping centres and city centres it’s going to be pretty straightforward arranging to get back home.

The OP is just over protective and anxious. It doesn’t mean she has to pick her daughter is. She is choosing to.

Honestly, please read (or, if necessary, re-read) OP's posts. This is not about OP not wanting to pick her up. It's about some completely barmy fear about dangerous cinema trips.

From the first two posts - let me know how you ended up with the impression that the issue was OP having to collect her:

1- AIBU to not let my 17 year old daughter go to the cinema at this time?

2- I don't think it'll be finished till close to 12am. Then I have to go and collect her and I'm really worried about her safety of being out so late at night

3. I feel like I shouldn't allow her to go because it's so late and it will be dark by that time obviously even though it's summer...

4- She wanted to see it specifically on opening night but I'm having serious doubts.

5- Don't have an issue going to collect her, a little annoying but that's fine by me

6- I'd much rather get her than her take a taxi or bus late at night or something which I do think is a bit more dangerous

Nah I’m not the one being ridiculous here.

i can read thanks 🤡

Sorry 🤣 Yep. 31 with my own kid now.
Unfortunately time ticks on and none of us get any younger.

I honestly can't see how, if you can read and understand English, you have decided this is about OP not wanting to drive to pick up her daughter. I'm guessing you're just having us on? Strange but takes all sorts, I guess.

Accusing a bunch of rational people as being “Russian bots” for thinking it’s perfectly ok for a 17yo to go to a late screening cinema show - you definitely are being ridiculous 🤣🤣🤣

Yes, you are. At 17, my niece is away at uni. Her mum certainly isn’t forbidding her from going places or preventing her travelling by taxi.

And that no-one in real life would let their 17 year old take a taxi 😂
Do they know that tonnes of (actual) children travel to school and back by taxi every day? Although of course the nice daytime taxi drivers get replaced by axe murderers after the watershed.

No wonder younger people are struggling to navigate the workplace/real life and plan think for themselves and solve their own issues
I despair !

So what when the parents CANT drive or don't own a car?

Someone tell literally every Scottish parent with a kid at uni that they're not real people if they let their 17 yo baby leave home unsupervised

This is what I assumed by their posts so stopped bothering responding to them. Very strange.

Must be the heat 😂

even though I do think you’re just on the wind up, there is 3% who thought Yanbu, so I do have a question for this response…

Why wouldn’t you pick up your 17 yo from a party? (Given that you seem to think 17yr olds don’t get cabs). That’s really sad if they’ve missed out on that whole pile of fun.

Things have definitely changed, we were out all night and coming home at 6am in the 90s. I would be the same though OP, mine aren’t that age yet but I do think things are different. But midnight being picked up from the cinema with a friend is very different to underage clubbing. I would be fine with this.

My parents were like this and would have told me to be home by either 9.30pm or 10pm on the dot, depending whether it was a weekday or weekend. I also moved out at 17 as a result.

Err how about Don't drive, younger kids asleep in house, or out themselves. Or maybe they just don't want to