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Lucy Letby

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kkloo · 22/07/2026 20:03

New thread as the last one has filled up.

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kkloo · 29/07/2026 18:09

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 17:57

I mean serial killer trial, and she was accused of serial killing. I would have thought forensic psychologists would have been brought in. Or maybe they did give evidence. I dont know.

The thing is that a forensic psychologist may well say that if a person committed crimes then this behaviour may well make sense because of x, y and z about them and that x, y and z behaviour may have been because she was relishing her crimes etc etc but they would also have to concede that this behaviour could also be seen in people who have not committed any crimes, and it's not really particularly unusual, it wouldn't be a case of oh this is indicative of being a psychopath for example, but there's a small chance a normal innocent person could do it. There'a a very high chance an innocent person could bahave like that, the behavior just isn't that odd at all.

If anything, if a forensic psychologist is going to be brought into a retrial it will be on the defense side.

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Isitevensummer · 29/07/2026 18:30

PinkTonic · 28/07/2026 07:39

Why would you write “You' re with family, you've got Christmas lunch on the go”
when she was single and at work on Christmas Day?
See I think it takes a ghoulish way of thinking to make something of it, and an astonishing lack of insight and empathy to not be able to think of one normal reason why.

This is 100% spot on! Complete lack on insight into these jobs, how they work and how they might affect people

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:49

DailyEnergyCrisis · 29/07/2026 12:14

Please could I ask out of interest- is anyone who was firmly in the guilty camp starting to have doubts?

Absolutely not. They talk a good argument on here but unfortunately they're wrong. I'm not sure what happens when conspiracy theories manage to convince most of the public something is true when it's not but I know it won't have any bearing on the justice system.

kkloo · 29/07/2026 18:55

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:49

Absolutely not. They talk a good argument on here but unfortunately they're wrong. I'm not sure what happens when conspiracy theories manage to convince most of the public something is true when it's not but I know it won't have any bearing on the justice system.

You know well that this is not a conspiracy theory, it says more about you than it does about others that you try to make out it is one.

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Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:58

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 13:42

I dont think it's 'cod psychologising' to have an 'ick 'reaction to what has been reported of her personality. I wasn't saying that should have been used in the trial. I've learnt that much on here and am willing to admit that. I'm just saying I find her weiird enough to have serious doubts about her innocence, and I think I'm allowed to have an opinion on that. I'm not the trial judge so you dont need to worry sbout it. I'll tell you what, if I were in hospital and I found out some healthcare professional I'd engaged with was looking me up on FB months later, I'd be bloody freaked out. Certain standards are expected of healthcare professional and she seems to have crossed a load of lines. I wouldnt want someone treating me who seemed to display such a poor work- life balance either. Whether she has done what she is accused of or not, I dont think she should ever have been employed as a nurse. She doesnt seem.remotely suitable to me.

Yeah imagine losing a baby and on that very day, the worst of your entire life-a healthcare professional who was involved in their death is looking you up on facebook! They'll gaslight they'd all be fine with this if they found out later but the vast majority of people wouldn't. It's like they're totally unable to accept it could've been done for sinister reasons.

She also made sure to do the memory boxes whenever she could-some of these parents have nothing of their child's that Lucy Letby hasn't touched. She's utter evil on so many levels. I can't really comprehend anyone being that calculating and evil-to kill a child and then to make sure you were the one who did memory boxes and dressed the baby. It's so sick.

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 18:58

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 18:03

But you haven’t said what she has done that’s objectively weird.

She FB searched some parents, she worked a lot of shifts, her life centred around her work, she was keen to work with the sickest babies, she took home handover sheets and failed to destroy them. Some of these would be frowned upon by her managers. Some of them are totally normal for healthcare staff.

It's when you put it all together. To me it seems weird. I'm sorry, but you simply cant tell another person what they do or dont consider weird behaviour. And I'm pretty sure there's s load of other people who'd feel.fairly uncomfortable if they were around a nurse with that bunch of behaviours too. Disordered, garbled ramblings. Bags full of notes that are long out of date. Being on duty all the bloody tome. Expressing a desire to work with the sickest babies. If I was on a ward really ill and I heard a nurse saying she really wanted to work with the sickest patients coz she was somehow motivated by the intense need in that ward, I'd run a mile. No thanks.

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:59

kkloo · 29/07/2026 18:55

You know well that this is not a conspiracy theory, it says more about you than it does about others that you try to make out it is one.

To quote Dewi Evans "you've just got your facts wrong" then.

Frequency · 29/07/2026 19:04

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:59

To quote Dewi Evans "you've just got your facts wrong" then.

Dewi Evans wouldn't know a fact if one slapped him in the face.

Aluna · 29/07/2026 19:11

kkloo · 29/07/2026 18:55

You know well that this is not a conspiracy theory, it says more about you than it does about others that you try to make out it is one.

That poster approaches the case as if it were a football match - Forest till I die. It’s an entirely emotional rather than rational position. Unlikely to change even when proved wrong. At which point she will either disappear from the forum or continue to mutter darkly that Dewi wuz robbed.

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:21

@Aluna and you're not just as sure of your opinion 🙄

I'll say it again, I spent years defending her before the trial even started. I've already had to admit I was wrong once.

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 19:24

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 18:58

It's when you put it all together. To me it seems weird. I'm sorry, but you simply cant tell another person what they do or dont consider weird behaviour. And I'm pretty sure there's s load of other people who'd feel.fairly uncomfortable if they were around a nurse with that bunch of behaviours too. Disordered, garbled ramblings. Bags full of notes that are long out of date. Being on duty all the bloody tome. Expressing a desire to work with the sickest babies. If I was on a ward really ill and I heard a nurse saying she really wanted to work with the sickest patients coz she was somehow motivated by the intense need in that ward, I'd run a mile. No thanks.

OK, you can say you think it’s weird. But I can guarantee you that in a selection of 10 nurses there’ll be several people who have done at least one of those things, and all of them will feature. You can add making a medicines error to that.

So it’s common, regardless of whether you (or indeed I) like it. And it doesn’t mean murder.

And as for wanting to care for the sickest babies - should all ambitious and driven staff who choose ICU and HDU as their careers be under suspicion of being a potential murderer?

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 19:25

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:21

@Aluna and you're not just as sure of your opinion 🙄

I'll say it again, I spent years defending her before the trial even started. I've already had to admit I was wrong once.

Why on earth did you defend her before the trial started? On what basis did you form that opinion?

kkloo · 29/07/2026 19:37

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:21

@Aluna and you're not just as sure of your opinion 🙄

I'll say it again, I spent years defending her before the trial even started. I've already had to admit I was wrong once.

That just shows that once you make up your mind about something you think it's fact though, and then if you switch you think the same and anyone who doesn't agree with you is an idiot 😅The trial hadn't even started and you spent years defending her? but then you did say you're drawn to arguments, so I suppose it doesn't matter which side you're on, you just love to argue.

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Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:38

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 19:25

Why on earth did you defend her before the trial started? On what basis did you form that opinion?

Ever heard of innocent until proven guilty?

kkloo · 29/07/2026 19:45

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 18:58

It's when you put it all together. To me it seems weird. I'm sorry, but you simply cant tell another person what they do or dont consider weird behaviour. And I'm pretty sure there's s load of other people who'd feel.fairly uncomfortable if they were around a nurse with that bunch of behaviours too. Disordered, garbled ramblings. Bags full of notes that are long out of date. Being on duty all the bloody tome. Expressing a desire to work with the sickest babies. If I was on a ward really ill and I heard a nurse saying she really wanted to work with the sickest patients coz she was somehow motivated by the intense need in that ward, I'd run a mile. No thanks.

To me I find it weird that other people find things like that particularly weird. I've studied psychology but in real life I know so many people who do odd things, I just expect that a lot of people are a bit odd in their own ways and if you looked through most peoples phones/homes you'd find something that was a bit odd. It genuinely makes me wonder do some people just not know that many people?

Of course sometimes someone will do something that is so odd that I will think ok that is very odd and it will make me think something is not right here, but nothing here is anywhere close to that level to me.

If this was your family member who was accused and they wrote those notes while distressed, and had previously said they preferred to look after the sickest patients and worked a lot would you really think that that was very odd behaviour? or would you just think they had loved their job and helping the sickest patients and that they were extremely distressed that people thought they were harming babies? If you knew they had handover sheets would you think it was particularly weird?

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PinkTonic · 29/07/2026 19:50

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 18:58

It's when you put it all together. To me it seems weird. I'm sorry, but you simply cant tell another person what they do or dont consider weird behaviour. And I'm pretty sure there's s load of other people who'd feel.fairly uncomfortable if they were around a nurse with that bunch of behaviours too. Disordered, garbled ramblings. Bags full of notes that are long out of date. Being on duty all the bloody tome. Expressing a desire to work with the sickest babies. If I was on a ward really ill and I heard a nurse saying she really wanted to work with the sickest patients coz she was somehow motivated by the intense need in that ward, I'd run a mile. No thanks.

I don’t see being at work a lot as weird at all. Some people are very work focused, she loved her job and had acquired further qualifications plus she was saving for a house deposit. What’s wrong or weird about focusing on your career and getting financially sorted in your 20s? If by garbled ramblings you mean the post it notes, don’t you think the impact of those accusations would be massive on even the most stable person’s mental health?

Do you think it’s weird behaviour of a certain person to be on here on every single thread, every single night, determinedly ignoring the rational, desperately trying to discredit people who are objectively world class experts, often resorting to ad hominem attacks, because vibes? I mean sure, let’s talk about weird behaviour.

Dolphin37 · 29/07/2026 19:52

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:58

Yeah imagine losing a baby and on that very day, the worst of your entire life-a healthcare professional who was involved in their death is looking you up on facebook! They'll gaslight they'd all be fine with this if they found out later but the vast majority of people wouldn't. It's like they're totally unable to accept it could've been done for sinister reasons.

She also made sure to do the memory boxes whenever she could-some of these parents have nothing of their child's that Lucy Letby hasn't touched. She's utter evil on so many levels. I can't really comprehend anyone being that calculating and evil-to kill a child and then to make sure you were the one who did memory boxes and dressed the baby. It's so sick.

they're totally unable to accept it could've been done for sinister reasons

The relevant question is not "could it have been done for sinister reasons", but "could it have been done for non-sinister ones". If the latter is "yes", then the former doesn't matter.

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 19:53

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 19:24

OK, you can say you think it’s weird. But I can guarantee you that in a selection of 10 nurses there’ll be several people who have done at least one of those things, and all of them will feature. You can add making a medicines error to that.

So it’s common, regardless of whether you (or indeed I) like it. And it doesn’t mean murder.

And as for wanting to care for the sickest babies - should all ambitious and driven staff who choose ICU and HDU as their careers be under suspicion of being a potential murderer?

No, I'm sure. But not ALL of it. That's my point..ALL of it. It's just too much.

Daygloboo · 29/07/2026 19:56

PinkTonic · 29/07/2026 19:50

I don’t see being at work a lot as weird at all. Some people are very work focused, she loved her job and had acquired further qualifications plus she was saving for a house deposit. What’s wrong or weird about focusing on your career and getting financially sorted in your 20s? If by garbled ramblings you mean the post it notes, don’t you think the impact of those accusations would be massive on even the most stable person’s mental health?

Do you think it’s weird behaviour of a certain person to be on here on every single thread, every single night, determinedly ignoring the rational, desperately trying to discredit people who are objectively world class experts, often resorting to ad hominem attacks, because vibes? I mean sure, let’s talk about weird behaviour.

What are you talking about ?

ByAzureMentor · 29/07/2026 19:57

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:58

Yeah imagine losing a baby and on that very day, the worst of your entire life-a healthcare professional who was involved in their death is looking you up on facebook! They'll gaslight they'd all be fine with this if they found out later but the vast majority of people wouldn't. It's like they're totally unable to accept it could've been done for sinister reasons.

She also made sure to do the memory boxes whenever she could-some of these parents have nothing of their child's that Lucy Letby hasn't touched. She's utter evil on so many levels. I can't really comprehend anyone being that calculating and evil-to kill a child and then to make sure you were the one who did memory boxes and dressed the baby. It's so sick.

Wtf is this crap.

She is innocent

Are you posting from another planet or 4 years ago ?

DistantEarlyWarning · 29/07/2026 20:02

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:38

Ever heard of innocent until proven guilty?

Oh I see, you mean you reminded people not to judge, and defended her in a general sense as you would for anyone who had been accused of anything? You didn’t actually say you thought she’d been wrongly accused. That makes sense, thank you.

kkloo · 29/07/2026 20:04

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:58

Yeah imagine losing a baby and on that very day, the worst of your entire life-a healthcare professional who was involved in their death is looking you up on facebook! They'll gaslight they'd all be fine with this if they found out later but the vast majority of people wouldn't. It's like they're totally unable to accept it could've been done for sinister reasons.

She also made sure to do the memory boxes whenever she could-some of these parents have nothing of their child's that Lucy Letby hasn't touched. She's utter evil on so many levels. I can't really comprehend anyone being that calculating and evil-to kill a child and then to make sure you were the one who did memory boxes and dressed the baby. It's so sick.

I can't really comprehend anyone being that calculating and evil-to kill a child and then to make sure you were the one who did memory boxes and dressed the baby. It's so sick.

Maybe because it's very possible that this didn't actually happen.

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Aluna · 29/07/2026 20:08

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 19:21

@Aluna and you're not just as sure of your opinion 🙄

I'll say it again, I spent years defending her before the trial even started. I've already had to admit I was wrong once.

Yeah but I can understand the scientific/statistical data.

Aluna · 29/07/2026 20:09

I didn’t have an opinion before the trial, if anything I assumed there must be a significant case against her. I thought I might gain some insight into a disturbed mind.

Instead I got an initiation into shonky science.

kkloo · 29/07/2026 20:12

Firefly1987 · 29/07/2026 18:49

Absolutely not. They talk a good argument on here but unfortunately they're wrong. I'm not sure what happens when conspiracy theories manage to convince most of the public something is true when it's not but I know it won't have any bearing on the justice system.

Anything to say about the latest that has come out about Jayaram?

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