AIBU to let my children use all inclusive on a group holiday?

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Against my better judgement I agreed to a group holiday. Mixture of family and friends all know each other well. All have children ranging from baby-16

My BIL organised it but we all booked separately.

He sent a link to an all inclusive resort and that's what I and half of the group booked.

BIL and the half booked the same hotel but self catering.

It was £600 more for AI- which as we are here for 8 days works out as less than £20 per person per day (four of us)

First night was fine as we all went out for dinner but today has been hell.

We have had a pool day and my kids have been able to get snacks/drinks/etc as they like but to purchase it all is quite expensive.

We've just come back from dinner- which was 'free' for us but not for them and were told it wasn't fair if our kids used the AI.

I asked why they didn't book the AI and they said they didn't like AI- but they were at dinner having the same food as us.

I don't want to be say to our kids that they can't use the AI but equally don't want to fall out. I enquired how much it would cost to upgrade to AI and it was 2200€ per family.

Tell them as you’ve paid for it they will be using it! I can’t believe they’d expect you not to. They booked on the cheap, they can deal with the moving kids!

I'm not sure what they are asking of you.

You use the facilities available to you so food and drinks.

They either pay or don't eat/drink there.

They are being ridiculous. Ignore them.

This is the most batshit insane thing I’ve read all day, and the competition has been stiff.

Tell them to fuck off and stop being such complete fucknuggets. Don’t give them any hint that this is at all an acceptable request. It’s not.

It remind him that you paid in advance for all the food and drink. They chose to pag as they go. Nobody is getting anything for free.

Enjoy your holiday! You’ve paid for AI so of course you’re going to make the most of it. It’s CF to suggest you don’t!
Maybe you’ll need to spend parts of your holiday separately if it’s going to be an issue for them - but it’s their issue not yours!

This is one of the oddest things I’ve ever read. Of course your kids can use the AI you’ve paid for.

What did they think was going to happen when one half opted not to pay for it?! They need to explain to their own DC why they can’t have it, if they don’t want to pay ad hoc. They’ve no business telling you what you can and can’t do.

CF’s.

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Thank you

I really need to know how they actually said this to you, because I'm just nosey and can't believe anyone could be so bloody cheeky.

You've paid AI, why would you not let your kids use it? They're being ridiculous

Clicked you were being unreasonable by accident. Do NOT stop your children from having AI. That would be madness

Ask them to confirm that they will cover your half of the AI (£300) plus all of your kids expenses for the holiday that would have been covered by AI and that they can transfer £600 to you initially and will cover any extra. Or did they want you to subsidise their holiday?

This is just nuts! Who the hell thinks it’s ok to tell someone not to use the facilities that they’ve paid for?! Please don’t prevent your children from getting drinks and snacks just because they didn’t have the foresight to book AI. If they don’t like it surely they can just eat elsewhere

I would be telling them tough. I would tell bil he sent a link for an AI so that’s what you booked as you assumed everyone was and he didn’t clarify. He chose not to so he can purchase stuff for his kids or tell them no but you are not going to stop your kids getting their moneys worth

What do they expect your kids to do? Only get drunks when the self catered kids get them? That is absolutely nuts.

Is it just your kids that can’t use it or are they saying none of you should?! Either way, I would be telling them to do one

On this occasion I’d be seeing if your kids can get some food and the treats available for their kids so they don’t miss out. Perhaps they assumed you’d be going out for meals and things so thought it wasn’t necessary. They should have discussed it but different people do different things on holiday. They will have to deal with the consequences of their actions.

Of course it's fair. You've paid for it and they are paying as they go.

Use what you have paid for. Bet they could upgrade if they so chose.

I think I’d look puzzled, ‘I don’t understand! We’ve already paid for it. What do you want us to do? We booked the link you sent us. Can you explain why our kids can’t have the stuff we’ve already paid for?’.

That’s exactly how you get thrown out of an AI hotel.

What a cheeky buggar! Of course your children should use the AI you’ve paid for it. They’ll be expecting your children to get their children drinks/snacks next and the others who are all inclusive to get the adults drinks….

So, teaching your kids to cheat?

Next step, they’ll pay AI for their kids and expect you to take them in for all the meals.

Absolutely not. The parents can put their hands in their pockets and either pay to be upgraded to AI or pay for snacks and drinks as they’re needed.